Just need a rant really

[kaz1983]

Not sure if this is in the right place or not but just needed a rant....sorry its a long one

I shouldnt feel selfish or guilty about wanting to spend time with hubby and E............but I do and heres why.

Hubby is an amazin hubby and amazing dad but just doesny seem able to say no

Theres a girl that works in same place as Paul quite often asks him for a lift home fae work......now I dont mind helping people but its like she doesny make an effort to get home and just expects him to say yes. She lives in the country so public transport is a bit thin on the ground not my problem or hubbys. She says she cant afford taxis sometimes but she can afford to go out an get bladdered. She did start driving lessons but thats went out the window too. So yesterday she asked for a lift home and he does always ask if its oki first so I sed that we hadny realli seen much of him this week cos him being nightshoft so he sed well come with me woopee not exactly how i thot we would spend time together but hey ho id just like him to say no more often and not just wen we r busy

Also I just feel like he tries to keep everyone happy but doesny see how unhappy i am at times an jus sees me as a pain in the arse who cries alot. I want to get angry with him instead of crying but Im so mad by time I say anyhing to him that I cant help but cry

The way his shifts are he only gets one full day off a week so i tell him he can get up with E as he needs to learn her routine for when i go back to work but cos im so used to doing it aloing with everything lese i automatically end up helping too

I dont wana b arsey about it but im gonna hav to start bein tougher as I cant keep doin everything once i go back to work I know people do it who have no choice and I really admre them but its his house and child too so he can do more and without me feeling like i have to nag him to do it cos i get fed up of doin that too so end up doing everything myself.

Plus the past two days Ive not felt righ AF due tomorrow but showing no signs the now weve both agreed it wouldnyt be a bad thing if i was pregnant and if im honest id feel quie gutted if af does appear cos i realli dont wana go back to work but dont have a choice xxx

 

[H16]

If my partner was constantly having to give someone else a lift home which means spending less time with me and little one I would be really annoyed too. I don't think it would be at all unreasonable to ask him to put you first x

 

[SeonaidMac]

I know what you mean about keeping everyone happy but not thinking about you. .. my dh agrees to things to keep the ex happy but doesn't think about how it affects me... doesn't check with me first. .. xx hugs hun xx

 

[kaz1983]

If my partner was constantly having to give someone else a lift home which means spending less time with me and little one I would be really annoyed too. I don't think it would be at all unreasonable to ask him to put you first x

Thank I did say to him why cant she get a taxi as its the school holidays so theyre not busy with that just now I am trying to say to him how i feel now instead of bottling it all up and wriing it all down here made me feel better x

I know what you mean about keeping everyone happy but not thinking about you. .. my dh agrees to things to keep the ex happy but doesn't think about how it affects me... doesn't check with me first. .. xx hugs hun xx

I feel for you when ur dh does that my friend is like that her husband does everything possible for his ex wife an kids but nothing for his current wife an kids he has with her

Sometimes i feel like im being unreasonable and he has spoken to his boss about taking on someones job who has been booted to another department so that his shifts will not be as many nightshifts. Its more for E;s sake than mine we spend time together tho it does bug me too no seeing him xxx