i'm totally panicking, is it ok to...

[*lizz*]

i dont know if i'm going mad or not but i think i may have read somewhere (or dreamt that i read somewhere) that after an erpc (d&c) the cells around your cervix are weakened so it is not a good idea to have sex during the early stages of your next pregnancy as this could weaken them further causing another miscarriage.
i had a mmc in june and an erpc operation in july of this year and now i'm pregnant again and freaking out!
i suppose what i'm asking is-is it safe to have sex during the early stages of the next pregnancy??
and also my dad freaked me out by saying to watch the temperature of my bath water because it can cause miscarriage if its too hot, is this true? and how hot is too hot??
HELP!!

 

[Anna23]

ohhh congratulations well i personaly don't have sex in the first 12 weeks of this pregnancy but i'm sure it's ok, i did have sex before i found out i was preg and on my wedding night but that was it, and as for baths i'd say it's best to have them warm but not steaming hot if you know what i mean, i always have warm baths as i can't stand the heat of a hot bath atm and i heard about that too that and i feel hot all the time i'd speak it through with your midwife when you see her and in the mean time don't have hot baths and take it easy don't over do it and remember to enjoy this pregnancy try not to stress or worry about it happening again as said before on other posts it's a new sperm and egg and the likelyhood of it happening again is low

 

[HollyHobby]

Yes they say no hot baths (no saunas either obviously) as you dont want to raise your temperature anymore than it naturally is as its bad for the blood flow. It has to be just warm and comfortable.

They also say no sex if youve had previous m/c in first tri, after that probably personal choice, but sometimes sex can cause spotting during pregnancy so avoid it around the time you would be having a period.

Anna i think you should put the different sperm and egg in your signature, as it is reassuring!

 

[*lizz*]

thankyou for the advice. i'm not sure OH will be overjoyed at the sex ban though lol he's been mad for it recently but i've been feeling icky (now i know why since i got my bfp) so i kept saying no.
anything else you think i ought to avoid doing??
xx

 

[Anna23]

just the usual stuff your not aloud to eat during pregnancy and RELAX, i take each week as it comes and think positivly with every symptom i am having

 

[HollyHobby]

Avoid chemicals as much as you can, like varnish and gloss paint - wear a mask for those.
Also gardening, wear gloves.

 

[pammie]

Hi congratulations

Me and my D/H have lost 3 little ones so when we fell pregnant this time he has had a total ban on the bedroom department and he is actually ok with this due to other things us women can do to satisfy the man (am 26 weeks and still not risking it) am sure your O/h will be completly understanding

I have avoided loads of things espesially in the first 12 weeks (due to paranoia) the main thing i have avoided is dying my hair (my roots are passed my ears and its annoying me) i avoided coffee and chocolate and the usual things they say you should cut down on, i have introduced chocolate back into my diet coz i couldnt live without it.

but as anna23 says RELAX and enjoy and think positivly

good luck to you all wishing you all well

PAm x

 

[Rosebay]

I love REALLY hot baths- the kind where you stand up to get out and you look like a lobster and that's what you've got to avoid sadly. It's hard if you love them but then again if someone had said that there was a m/c risk by wearing any other colour but bogey green for the first 12 weeks I would probably have done it! The only other thing I can think of which isn't just a normal no no of pregnancy is the caffeine as has been mentioned. There was a study fairly recently that said that there was a very slight increase in risk of m/c if you drank over a certain amount a day. I just totally cut it out all together for the first tri and now if I drink any it makes me feel very weird so I'm avoiding it altogether until I NEED it when babe arrives!

The first tri is so tough after a m/c I know but there are a lot of us here who are doing it/have done it that you can talk to. There isn't an easy way through, wish there were, just keep trying to be positive if you can and remember that the odds are totally in your favour.


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[HollyHobby]

re chocolate, i was reading a study about what to aim for to help avoid m/c and it said fruit, veg and chocolate everyday.
My guess is they included chocolate as it can reduce stress and releases happy feelings.

 

[*lizz*]

good cuz i love chocolate lol. i'm trying to gain some weight cuz i'm only 6st 13lb and there's meant to be about 70% higher risk of miscarriage if you're underweight.

 

[rachie1107]

Hi

I am also worried about douing things wrong after a m/c at 10 weeks last time, i have banned sex and o/h is fine with it we find other stuff to do which is handy

i am worried about how much tea i drink as i love my tea alot and i know there is caffine in that

i have also not dyed my hair cause i was worried about that i think its just best to try and eat as healthy as poss and relax as much as you can

Rachie

 

[*lizz*]

o/h has been a darling and bought me decef tea and coffee. what a star!