Im such a rubbish mother :(

[x-kirsty-x]

Ever since Ryan came I've had no patience with Josh at all and I shout at him all the time

He wont leave Ryan alone and he's too rough with him. We've tried to explain to him that he has to be more gentle but he just doesn't listen when we talk to him. I know he's only 4 and he doesnt understand but I still find myself shouting at him constantly.

I miss the bond I used to have with him, the closeness is gone and I feel so guilty

 

[Dee1985]

dont worry hun its normal, once your into a settled routine you will feel more at ease.

i was the same at first tirednes dont help either

 

[lauramumof2]

Yep, i was the same. I havent got the patience I used to have with Jessica. Remember though Josh is growing up and maybe even if the baby wasnt here he would still be doing things worthy of a telling off.

The bond does come back. For a while Jess was quite anti mummy but now things are okay and she is back to her loving self. Still a noisy wee chatter box though.

 

[Sammystar]

me too! I spent the first few weeks just shouting at the girls not to get too close to Sam!

I still do it , although I've relaxed a bit as Sam's got bigger.

It does get better, you're not a bad mum!

 

[Urchin]

You have the same age gap as me, believe me it gets easier, the bond my 2 have now is amazing, this evening they have been playing with the wooden train track together, I watched them for ages it was lovely
When a baby is so new and needs so much attention and is so delicate it's hard not to focus on them all the time, it's totally natural. Later on you will see the bond they have grow and it'll be great

 

[Emmylou]

Aww x-kirsty-x ...... have no words of wisdom, as the others have said it will get better

 

[Fiona]

is it possible for Daddy to look after baby for an hour or 2 while you go out on a play date with Josh -

just some time for the 2 of you without baby interruptions and where your focus is just him ?????

I know it might not be easy with a new born to look after but I am sure it will make heaps of difference to your relationship with Josh .

 

[OverTheMoon]

Oh god i am really scared of this happening too

 

[x-kirsty-x]

Oh god i am really scared of this happening too

I posted about it when I was pregnant, I was scared I would push Josh out and now I am and I hate it. I feel so guilty all the time and I just want to cry.

Im trying to make more of an effort with him and we spent some time together today when Ryan was asleep and it was great, we were laughing our heads off and messing about.

The thing is, when I concentrate on Josh and focus my attention on him its fine but its so hard to do that cos theres always things need doing or Ryan to see to.

Hopefully things will get better. Sorry, Im not exactly making you feel better am I