'I'm over 3 months late' vent

[broody2013]

Hi girls

I am AWOL from here right now as my body is being even more of a mystery than usual. My last AF was the end of October, I have had many BFNs since then. We are waiting for my husband to get a sample in for sperm testing before I can see a gynae (not sure why this is as I am starting to get concerned about possible causes for AF delay but there you go). I have lost a bit of weight but am still within normal BMI (around 21).

I just feel quite annoyed about having to wait for the alarm test, as my husband works full time and it will be ages before he can hand one in, and I feel so lonely and down. I know I can't do any more than I am doing (keeping fit, eating a balanced diet, working on improving my stress levels and health). Is there anything I am missing out? I must be to have such a late period but I'm not sure what it could be. The worst thing is the loneliness because I have nobody I can talk to about this which is why I have popped back here as I felt so supported when I have commented and documented our TTC journey before.

Any comments/feedback/advice gratefully received x

 

[snowbee]

Sounds like you are doing the right things, eating a balanced diet and keeping fit is good. Make sure you aren't over exercising or under eating/cutting complete food groups from your diet as you could miss out on something your body needs. As you are so late you could go and ask your GP for something to induce a bleed, then you can reset your cycle and see what happens next cycle. I've had to do this a couple of times as my body can get stuck in a cycle of trying to ovulate but not quite managing it and then you just get stuck going in circles.

As a side note, you can take his sample in for him if time is an issue for him? That is what I did for my husband, he did his samples before work and then I took it to the hospital for him, as long as you keep it warm (body temperature, I took it in my bra!) and can be there in under an hour that should be ok (some hospitals like it sooner, but would be worth checking).

 

[Melly41]

Sorry to hear you are feeling lonely. It's really hard when ttc as many of us do not want to confide in family or friends as this piles on the pressure! I have found this forum really helpful at various points throughout my cycles. It is a mystery as to why you are not having af....do you mind me asking how old you are. I'm 41 and I think my af cycle is getting shorter so was wondering whether this could be a sign of premenopause, although I know this can lasts for a few years before actually going through menopause.

For what it's worth, I think you are doing everything you can at the moment Hun, exercise, eating healthy, avoiding stress. It sounds so frustrating for you both, I really hope you get one answers soon and that you are start to plan x

 

[Sparklegirl]

Horrible situation to be in. My cycle is anywhere from 35-100. Currently at CD48 without even a hint of AF but I am no stranger to getting into triple figures, feel free to talk to me if you want to. Its so hard when there is such a long cycle so its 'dead time' when we cant TTC and not in 2ww x

 

[Sunflower1]

it's worth seeing your GP and getting a referral if you can to gyno in hospital to get a scan. Could be you need progesterone to help you bleed. I had a similar problem.

 

[Syd43]

Hi Broody, nice to see you back but so sorry you're going through so much uncertainty. Are you normally regular? Have you ever skipped a period before?

I feel like I'm always going on about alternative/complimentary therapies but have you thought of trying reflexology or acupuncture? I was having both regularly before I moved abroad and think they really helped. When I was having my miscarriage last September I knew from 5-6 weeks that there was not hope of development beyond a gestational sac but my body was hanging on to it for all it was worth! I was back in the UK and saw my regular reflexologist who said she would try to "get things moving" for me, less than 48 hrs later (at exactly 8 weeks pregnant) I passed the sac. It may be worth a try?

Having said that, you are 100% sure you're not pregnant? Despite the negative tests? I know it's pretty annoying when people ask you that and you know there's very little (or no) chance and despite all the anecdotal stories it is pretty rare not to show on a test but it does happen... Just wouldn't want to suggest you find another way of trying to get af started if it turns out you are pregnant.

Feel for you on the loneliness front, hardly anyone knows we are ttc, a couple of good friends were aware of my ivf in Jan but that's it. Can't even talk to my OH about it as he never felt anywhere near as strongly as me about it and has completely moved on from our failed cycle (took him about 3 minutes to get over it). Finding a therapist (as in reflexologist or acupuncturist) may help on that front, both the ladies I went to are extremely knowledgeable in this area and it meant I could talk for a whole hour each week to someone that understood!

Please keep us posted.

x

 

[lillith112]

I know how you feel, my af used to be all over the place. I went 18 months without a period. I remember I took high dose evening primrose oil, 6-8 capsules a day. I also ate lots of aubergines as read it's supposed to regulate cycles. The other trick I have used to bring on AF is high dose vitamin C and parsley tea. Buy some fresh parsley and put it in a small bowl, boil the kettle and pour it on, steep for 30 mins then drink the juice, it's gross but it's always worked, anything from a day to a few days after af will show. x