I'm Just An After Thought..

[Sandie]

I'm sat here in tears - for the 100 time over the festive period. I'm just well and truely fed up.

I work full time, my OH works full time - we don't get as much time as i'd like together. He's off for 2 weeks over Xmas & New Year and i was only meant to be off for a few days but i managed to get 2 weeks off too so we could spend our last Xmas with it just being me & him.
His sister owns a pub & he helps out from time to time - he gets paid for some of the time he works there but other times he doesn't..
Xmas Eve i was sat in on my own while he was working.. The other day we agreed to go shopping yesterday.. My Dad text him and asked him if he could help out with a few things.. Ended up that half the day was wasted. OH promised that we would go pram shopping today, last night his Mum text asking if he could work in pub at 2pm... Another day wasted - even though we had plans i'm just "dumped". Tomorrow, Tuesday & Wednesday he's decided to go do a homer with his mate.

I just feel that my feelings mean nothing to nobody. I just feel like going back to work tomorrow.. There ain't much point in me taking days off to sit in on my bloody own.

I know i'm probably making it 10x worse because of my hormones but i'm just so so fed up. Fed up of crying. Fed up of being 2nd best..

 

[nori]

aww hun im so sorry you are feeling so down. Have you spoken to your OH and explained in simple man terms how you are feeling? I would really try and ask him to make some time as a couple before baby is born. I really hope you work things out.

Claire x

 

[Sandie]

I tried saying that to him earlier.. that we should make the most of our time together & he turned round & said "You make it sound like the baby is just going to be a pest..." - i never meant it like that....

 

[Anna23]

hun you need to stand up for yourself, if i was you i'd say 'ok have your homer time with your mate but surely ONE of those days you could ditch your mate to spend time with your WIFE, whats more important?'
hope you get to have a day together, i wouldn't be happy either

 

[mamichuli]

Oh for goodness sake...MEN! They can be obtuse at times! and especially when their wives/gfs are pregnant, they manage to be as thick as two planks. Hun, he is not being deliberately stoopid, just a man! I thought during pregnancy with my youngest that my man didnt want her at all, and he is a devoted dad! I am afraid on the couple front he may not understand as he has absolutely NO idea of how time consuming the baby will be...I have no advice, just lots a hugs



Lisa

 

[trixipaws]

he needs a kick up his ass!

have u spoken to him?

 

[Lou]

I'm not sticking up for him, he's obviously hurt your feelings but maybe he's just trying to get money together for you all and thats why he's nipping off to work alot? And you will still get to spend time together when baby comes, not always when you want to (well hardly ever when you want to) but that makes the time you do spend together more special in a way. And also think of the time you'll spend as a family, the more time he spends working now then maybe the more time he'll get to spend with you when baby comes?