I'm I right to be upset or am I just jealous?

[Kloe]

Hey ladies,

A rant I guess.

So ok, this time last year I found out I was pregnant. I'd been with my OH 3 years at that time and had been trying a while.
My OHs family don't really like me, but my OHs sister in particular was very nasty to me when she found out and said and I quote:
"It's a mistake" "You're too young" "You're not ready" "You're stupid" "You've ruined Jacks life" "Live your life first".
Unfortunately I did actually miscarry and few weeks later, and guess what she said? "Its for the best, you don't even have a house yet, wait till you're ready".
Now I could go on and on about how angry that alone makes me, but I'll save that for another time.

It came out yesterday that my OHs cousin is pregnant, shes a fair bit younger than me and not in a stable relationship, party animal if you know what I mean, but my OHs sister said: "Its the best thing to ever happen to this family". Now take into account what she said to me about being "Too young" "Live your life first" and "Not ready".

Don't get me wrong, I'm happy for his cousin, but I just feel because I'm not blood my kids don't matter and I'm worthless. I don't know how my OH feels about it, I mean its his sister after all and our baby, he must be feeling pretty hurt too. It just annoys me to the point where I don't want them in my kids lives. I mean I don't want to do that obviously, I don't want my children to miss out on their family, but when they are being so nasty, you just don't want them there.

Sigh, I just feel like crying.

 

[jemfox]

poor you. its difficult because they are your OH family. i don't think your being jealous. my hubby family don't like me and i certainly don't like them, hes told them im pregnant and got the congratulations and that but the only contact with the baby they will be having will be through my husband, i refuse to let them make me feel like they try to do, ive told husband i wont accept anything from them if they try to help out or buy stuff for baby.
also hard for your OH, does he get along with them?
keep your head high, it may cause arguments with u and your OH but your in a relationship with him...not hes family so who are they to make you feel like that?
that's my opinion anyway. xx

 

[Kloe]

Well his relationship with them is OK, his sister is the favourite so his pushed out by her.
When we first got together I told him I wan't to move out of England and now he's considering it. So that just shows you really doesn't it. It is disheartening though as my relationship with my side isn't great either as we are spread out all over the country so its a big dilemma, I don't wan't my children to miss out on what I did, but his family really don't approve of me and I don't want them in their heads. At least my family accept me. I mean I have ADHD and I'm pretty much normal just get over excited at times but as soon as his family found out they stopped talking to me, told my mother that its a mad up condition for attention seekers and my mum actually broke down over as my younger brother has serious autism and its bloody hard work for her. His family can be pretty vile!

 

[jemfox]

i wouldn't waste you breath on them, yes it may upset your OH but you need to think about your feelings, i say to my husband i will never speak to hes mum again (she done things i cant forgive her for) and he gets upset and angry saying its hes mum i have too. well no actually i don't because they don't respect me so why should i them, im not childish about it, i don't ignore them i simply don't register them in my life and never will.
yes it is disheartening because most people would ideally like their child to have 2 sets of grandparents around but as you said you wouldn't be stopping this? why should you let them people upset you? you don't need to prove anything to them, you make their son/brother happy. that alone should be enough.

xx

 

[Kloe]

Yeah exactly, well I'm not going to speak with them anymore, I'm done. I won't even bother telling his family I'm pregnant they can find out when the pictures are on facebook. Screw them seriously, and to be honest they will be the ones to miss out!

 

[cosmicgirl]

Agree with the other ladies, don't waste your time on them - life really is too short