I worry a bit too much.

[Naaat]

Hi there. I'm Natalie, I'm 19 and am currently expecting. The pregnancy wasn't planned, but I am now very happy to be pregnant, and I hope to God that everything goes ok with the pregnancy.
My midwife and doctor say I'm 8 - 9 weeks pregnant, because they count from the first day of your last period. I told her my cycle must have been 6 weeks that month (I have very irregular periods), because I know when the baby was concieved and it was 3 weeks and 6 days after my last period.
So yeah I think I just worry a bit to much about everything. I was experiencing light period-like cramps last week. I asked my doctor about them and she said they were just the ligaments stretching. But still, I can't help but worry.
I'm very excited to have my 12 weeks scan, but still, I can't help but worry that something's going to go wrong, so at the same time, I'm very nervous about going.
I know my pregnancy wasn't planned, but I do feel very blessed to be pregnant and I really want everything to go well. I am so paranoid.

*Sigh* Yeah sorry, just wanted to share that. Needed to vent really.
Congrats and good luck to everyone else who's expecting!

 

[Mamafy]

Welcome to the Forum and Congrats

 

[inky]

It's only natural to worry, try to relax and enjoy it cos the time soon goes Congrats!

 

[Naaat]

Thank you. Yeah I try to, thanks.

 

[lanny]

i had my irst at 19 im 24 now and having my 3rd and im still the same as you. Mine also wasnt planned but i am over the moon about it and have my scan on 11th march i also cant wait but at the same time really scared im just trying my best not to worry hope you can do the same good luck xxx welcome

 

[keljordan]

hi there and welcome, I had these cramps too, thought it was my period! In fact still having them now also I've had a little spotting which really scared me but all seems ok so don't worry too much, that's easier said than done I know!! Just try and enjoy it Hun!!! X

 

[serenitylove]

hi and welcome what your feeling is so normal iv made myself sore from checking myself in the loo so often im paranoid to do anything untill iv seen my scan and know all is well it deep breaths try to relax and enjoy xxx

 

[Leanne and Andy]

Ooooh congrats! I know its easier said but try not to worry...Indeed your Uterus has a lotta stretching to do to accomodate your bubba so a few pains and cramps are indeed normal...good luck xxx

 

[Naaat]

Thank you everyone. The cramps are more annoying than anything lol. They're not accompanied by any blood so I'm glad about that.
Does anyone else have a sort of uncomfortable... not really pain but weird feeling at the top of their legs? Whenever I get the cramps I get this weird feeling at the top of my right leg. :S It's weird lol.

I'm telling the father today (if he's home, I've tried to tell him twice, but twice he wasn't hope. 3rd time lucky I hope!) so I hope it goes well. I'm not really expecting much from him though.

I think most of the reason that I worry is because I don't feel pregnant yet lol. Don't get me wrong, I have a lot of the symptoms like vomiting, nausea, sore breasts etc. But still it's like I can't believe it actually happened to me.

Oh and the midwife gave me a rough due date of the 6th of October, counting from my last period. So eeee! Excited.

 

[behappy]

congrats this is lovely news... x

 

[becks20]

welcome and congratulations! its normal to not feel pregnant yet i sometimes feel im not pregnant and im nearly 16wks lol good luck with the scan x

 

[MrsR]

I don't think I'll feel pregnant until I start feeling bubs! I don't get the feeling in my leg but I do still get stretchy pains. My due date us estimated as 8th October so we're due around same time! I worry alot too but I'm sure well be both be fine and bubs will be healthy! I was 18 nearly 19 when I had DD and now I'm 24 will be 25 when this one arrives. It's so hard to relax I know but worrying doesn't help! I myself admit however that I'm a first class worrier on this subject!

 

[Yodabo]

I think we're all in the same boat, I'm always worrying. This was an unexpected pregnancy for me too but I'm so nervous that something will go wrong... I have to try and think positive, won't do any good worrying all the time.. So, just so you know your not alone! Good luck an congratulations babe!

 

[Naaat]

Thank you everyone.

I told the father today and he made it clear that he wants nothing to do with me or the baby. He was really disrespectful. I actually hate him now. >_<

 

[MrsR]

He doesn't deserve you or your baby! It might of been an accident but it took two to create this new life and if he can't step up to the plate he isn't worth it. Don't let him wind you up, try not to contact him, leave the ball in his court. I brought up my dd alone and though it was hard at times but it was completely worth it. You are strong. Do you have family near by? A good support network is crucial!

 

[Rosie's Mummy]

Congrats on your pregnancy! Try not to worry too much and I hope everything works out for you

 

[JJ Mum]

Congratulations Naat, great news for you.
Don't worry about the father, he may be really shocked and not handle it as well or as adult as you have, he may sort himself out. If he doesn't then hey it may be harder but you can do it , and there are lots of support options out there for single mums nowadays so you and baby will be just fine.

As Helen said you will need a good support network, so why not make sure you go on the local antenatal classes to meet mums due close to you and will help you later on

Again great news!

 

[Naaat]

What hurts most is that he told me to get rid of the baby. And I was telling him that I've made my mind up, I'm keeping the baby, and I won't change that. I don't believe in abortions. Being pregnant is a blessing. (I'm not religious, but this is a human life we're talking about)
And he already has twins, who I guess he sees and is involved with. If he can support them, why not support someone else who's also his child?
Oh well, sod him. If he doesn't want to be there then that's fine with me. I have my family. I live with my mum and I'm really close to my brother, my cousins etc. Everyone will help, they've already said that. So I don't need him.