I think I may have anxiety

[Mummy2Adam]

Do any of you lovely ladies suffer from this?
I spoke to my midwife this morning and told her everything and she wants to see me this afternoon to talk further and find out how im feeling ect x x

 

[Lulu_Laroo]

I used to suffer with anxiety disorder as a teenager but it has improved as I've got older. It's horrible isn't it. I hope your midwife can offer some advice/help xx

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Hi M2A,

How do you feel? Does the anxiety come and go? Is it constant? Does it build if you're in a certain situation?

I do suffer from panic/anxiety attacks, mainly associated with my old job. Since leaving I have felt a million times better. Do you know what triggers your anxiety? Is it pregnancy related worry? x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks Lulu_laroo, she mentioned she might have to refer me to a doctor but she wants a chat first to see if thats a necessary step x x

 

[xx emma xx]

I suffer from it too and have for a few years now. It's got worse through my pregnancy and I'm going on medication once baby is born. It's good youtold your midwife, means they can keep an eye on you throughout your pregnancy xx

 

[mookie]

I suffered from anxiety after I had my son, I believe it was partly caused by the emergency c-section but mostly by MIL! I suffered for 6 months before my partner and family realise that there was actually a problem and I wasn't just being a b*tch.

I felt terrifed all the time, struggled to breathe when I was having the attacks, it almost felt like my heart hurt too. I was very protective over my son and wouldn't go out alone as I was convinced someone was going to get me.

What been happening to you? How do you feel?

It's really important you get some help and feel comfortable talking to someone about it as I didn't really get the help I needed until lo was a year old. Having anxiety can be really scary, I used to know what I was thinking was silly but my brain and body genuinely (sp?) thought I was in danger.

I had some CBT therapy, it was really good the lady taught me how to change my thoughts when I was having an attack into more positive ones and although I still suffer with anxiety I know how to manage it now.

I really hope the midwife can help, I'm not very good at advice but if you ever want to talk I'm here

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Hi Jenny, its definetly pregnancy related, i never felt like this before. My heads spinning with all different worries that something could go wrong and as im thinking them im making myself wonder whether they are real and end up paniking, making myself feel sick and sometimes I even sit there crying my eyes. Hope this make sense and i havent made myself sound like ive lost the plot! x x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thank you for your replies ladies, its great to know i have you all here to talk to x x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

Hi Jenny, its definetly pregnancy related, i never felt like this before. My heads spinning with all different worries that something could go wrong and as im thinking them im making myself wonder whether they are real and end up paniking, making myself feel sick and sometimes I even sit there crying my eyes. Hope this make sense and i havent made myself sound like ive lost the plot! x x

I really feel for you M2A - anxiety/panic attacks are terrifying and it's horrible feeling like you're not in control of your mind & your body. Like Mookie said, it is best to speak up sooner rather than later. Talk to your MW about what you can do. I think Bella may be on some low dose medication to control anxiety during her pregnancy; her doc has said it's perfectly safe so maybe you could think about that? It's very hard to be rational in these situations as the anxiety can be very intense, so instead of trying to avoid it, face it head on. With CBT they get you to challenge your thoughts, i.e. what is the evidence for and against what your thinking is actually going to happen? It might be worth seeing if you can be referred to speak to someone, I think Sunnygirl has manged to get some extra time with her midwife to talk about the stress/anxiety she's had at work so there is def help out there for you. You don't have to suffer alone xx

 

[DW1978]

I'm sorry, I have no experience so can't advise but just wanted to send you a huge ((((((HUG))))) and hope that you get the help you need and manage to get it under control hun xxx

 

[abbiecourt]

i sufferd from it but i sort of learnt to deal with it, its a horrible nasty thing to have it gets u real down i had it after my first baby i could not go out when i did i could not breath and start to panic xx people do get passed it tho xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks Jenny, ill discuss the options this afternoon with my mw, ive got a feeling she will refer me to the doctors.

To all those ladies who suffer from anxiety, do you find yourself snapping at people that tell you everything is fine and you are worrying for nothing, even though you know dead down they are only trying to help x x

 

[abbiecourt]

Thanks Jenny, ill discuss the options this afternoon with my mw, ive got a feeling she will refer me to the doctors.

To all those ladies who suffer from anxiety, do you find yourself snapping at people that tell you everything is fine and you are worrying for nothing, even though you know dead down they are only trying to help x x

yes to when i had it lol, it used to make me feel worse but we are also telling u its gonna be fine xxx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks Abbie, i feel so sorry for my OH as im like it all the time with him. Hopefully speaking to you ladies and my mw today I will start to feel better.
Thank you again ladies, dont know what id do without you all x x

 

[Piglet's Mama]

I would be really withdrawn and just in my own head the whole time. Then if hubby asked if I was OK or what was wrong, I would snap and say "You don't understand!" Therapy is the best thing I did for it x

 

[mookie]

I snapped too! My mum used to say just get over it, it's all in your head and OH used to say I was being silly, they just didn't understand that it might be all in my head but it was very very real to me and when you get physical symptoms because of what your thinking, it's almost impossible (for me it was) to just snap out of it.

One of my big problems was MIL, long story short she is very unstable and is too dangerous to be alone with lo. A year ago OH allowed MIL to take lo outside for a walk on his own (he now understands his mum is unstable), he believed by forcing me into the situation it would make me see that it would be ok. He was very wrong, I almost had a breakdown and we very nearly split up because he didn't understand. I still do not allowed MIL to be alone with lo but now when I'm in the situation I can control my anxiety and the physical symptoms. x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks Jenny and Mookie, will keep you posted how I get on this afternoon x x

 

[mookie]

Good luck with your appointment XX

 

[SunnyGirl]

Just seen this - firstly massive hugs
Yes I managed to get an extra appt with the MW to talk about this - that support is there if you ask for it. They want to make sure you're OK cos pregnancy can bring on or exacerbate anxiety. My GP has also referred me back to the counsellor I saw after my workplace bullying stuffs. She was ace so I am really looking forward to seeing her again.
I saw you'd started aquanatal - that will really help. As will just solo swimming and also walking (I originally took up running to beat the anxiety/depression/panics).
Please know you can talk to me whenever about this - and all the other lovely ladies on here. Looks like there's loads of us suffering aww! We will stick together xxxx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Thanks Mookie, its at 3.30 and i feel like im going to start crying already and I can feel my heart racing!

Thanks Sunnygirl, great you are getting the support you need and thank you for the advice Yeah I started aquanatal, its every monday and i was speaking to a lady who has been through a similar situation that i have been through, it was great to have someone to talk to and im already looking forward to next weeks x x