Miss.Monroe
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ok so i cant belive im in the relationships thread again! asking for your advice!
as many of you know i moved back into my dads house last week, because my OH flat has no heating or hot water and there is mould on the walls and no storage space. id been living there for a year, with little communication from my dad during that time, i moved out because we didnt get on.
baths have to be taken when you get in, as 8pm is considered too late, once you have had dinner you darent go into the kitchen for anything else without him coming out and seeing what your up to. when he wants to go to bed we have to go to bed, were not alowed to stay up or watch tv even in our rooms.
This makes me feel very uncomfortable and like i cant do anything without getting into trouble, i try and stay in my room when my dad gets in and stay out of the way. i dont like going downstairs to get something to eat in the evenings.When he comes home in a bad mood everyone knows about it and makes our life hell.
i am the middle daughter, he has a 28 year old who lives in Luton working on the radio and he frequently puts money into her account for her.
i am 20 and my sister is 18 and goes to uni 2-3 days a week, asks my dad for money all the time for new clothes, to go out and drink and to go out for meals and the gym. she has never had a job, nor had the desire to get one.
i moved back out of necesity because i couldnt carry on living washing my hair in the sink, and not having clean clothes. i am deeply greatful that i have a roof over my head and that i have food bought for me to eat. but still there is no communication. my dad was nice to me one evening when he was drunk and said i can stay here as long as i need to.
there is no doubt that he treats me diffrently, i havent asked him for anything, not a penny nor has he offered it, i work 5 days a week to make sure my £80 loan gets paid of and im trying to save for driving lessons. any clothes or activities i want to do i pay for myself, as i think they should be!
my friend came over last night to see me and she left at 11pm, once she left me and my sister were watching tv in my room, and my dad came in saying is this what your going to do all night, and my sister said no. then dad said to me good because im not having you take over the house like you did last time you were here!
i couldnt belive what i was hearing!!! i dont nor did i ever feel comfortable in my own home! and he said that to me! if anything my sister takes over the house, drinking in her room, having her friends over and coming in all hours of the night, shes constantly asking him for money and he always gives it to her. it just seems like hes taking it out on me.
it doesnt seem to affect my sister, but it really hurts me! i dont want money from him i want his acceptance more than anything, i dont understand why i make him feel this way. i was crying last night because im confused by what i do wrong. i was thinking of writing him a letter and leaving to downstairs. i dont know what to do.
dean had someone over last night to talk to him about his finances, and hes decided to pay up the arrears on the flat and then sell it, so we can get somewhere to live. that wont be done by the time the baby is here, so im going to be living here with the baby for a while, which my dad doesnt know yet. he goes mental when my tv is on past 10.30 my life is going to be hell every time my baby cries in the night!
what can i do, ive been on the verge of tears all day.
as many of you know i moved back into my dads house last week, because my OH flat has no heating or hot water and there is mould on the walls and no storage space. id been living there for a year, with little communication from my dad during that time, i moved out because we didnt get on.
baths have to be taken when you get in, as 8pm is considered too late, once you have had dinner you darent go into the kitchen for anything else without him coming out and seeing what your up to. when he wants to go to bed we have to go to bed, were not alowed to stay up or watch tv even in our rooms.
This makes me feel very uncomfortable and like i cant do anything without getting into trouble, i try and stay in my room when my dad gets in and stay out of the way. i dont like going downstairs to get something to eat in the evenings.When he comes home in a bad mood everyone knows about it and makes our life hell.
i am the middle daughter, he has a 28 year old who lives in Luton working on the radio and he frequently puts money into her account for her.
i am 20 and my sister is 18 and goes to uni 2-3 days a week, asks my dad for money all the time for new clothes, to go out and drink and to go out for meals and the gym. she has never had a job, nor had the desire to get one.
i moved back out of necesity because i couldnt carry on living washing my hair in the sink, and not having clean clothes. i am deeply greatful that i have a roof over my head and that i have food bought for me to eat. but still there is no communication. my dad was nice to me one evening when he was drunk and said i can stay here as long as i need to.
there is no doubt that he treats me diffrently, i havent asked him for anything, not a penny nor has he offered it, i work 5 days a week to make sure my £80 loan gets paid of and im trying to save for driving lessons. any clothes or activities i want to do i pay for myself, as i think they should be!
my friend came over last night to see me and she left at 11pm, once she left me and my sister were watching tv in my room, and my dad came in saying is this what your going to do all night, and my sister said no. then dad said to me good because im not having you take over the house like you did last time you were here!
i couldnt belive what i was hearing!!! i dont nor did i ever feel comfortable in my own home! and he said that to me! if anything my sister takes over the house, drinking in her room, having her friends over and coming in all hours of the night, shes constantly asking him for money and he always gives it to her. it just seems like hes taking it out on me.
it doesnt seem to affect my sister, but it really hurts me! i dont want money from him i want his acceptance more than anything, i dont understand why i make him feel this way. i was crying last night because im confused by what i do wrong. i was thinking of writing him a letter and leaving to downstairs. i dont know what to do.
dean had someone over last night to talk to him about his finances, and hes decided to pay up the arrears on the flat and then sell it, so we can get somewhere to live. that wont be done by the time the baby is here, so im going to be living here with the baby for a while, which my dad doesnt know yet. he goes mental when my tv is on past 10.30 my life is going to be hell every time my baby cries in the night!
what can i do, ive been on the verge of tears all day.
