I really don't get on with my OH family :/

[Kloe]

I'm really worried about the relationship I have with my OHs family.
I'm the only OH of his family that has been cast out, they never warmed up to me in the first place because I don't have a uni degree. Also when they found out I have ADHD they didn't want to know me what so ever (even though it hasn't effected me since I was a child). We have very different opinions, if they don't agree then you're simply just wrong. I find it incredibly frustrating when my OH takes me to family events and I'm just left out.

Anyway...
They put "logic" first, where as my family choose "love" (if that makes sense)

When I told my family I was going to have a baby, they were filled joy, really happy and my mum hugged me so tight I couldn't breathe.
When he told his family, they told him he was a stupid boy. He has no job (made redundant) and I can't work due to a twisted spine, and the fact we live with my dad is all they could think of. His dad however did say congratulations in the end, and I was so pleased but unfortunately on the same day or around the same time, I actually lost our baby and I'm still going through a M/C.

My family have been crying a lot over the loss, even my father and he never crys, as for my mum I honestly think she has been crying more than I have.
As for his family not one of his family have said anything to either of us, all I got was "its for the best" from his sister.

Now once the M/C complete, we plan to try again straight away, but we don't think we should tell anyone this time, not even our parents.

If we don't get their blessing their its there loss, as I adore my OH and he adores me. Its just that I really don't want my child to miss out on their own family.

Has anyone else been in a similar situation? Does it get better?

Sorry its so long

 

[Water_Melon]

They sound horrid!
What does your OH think about it all? I'd be tempted to say I don't want to see or be around them anymore if that's how they have been treating you!
Sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I hope you and OH conceive quickly afterwards. Forget about what his family will think or say, focus on the positive people and the people that'll be happy for you. Your family xxx

 

[Kloe]

Well he loves his family a lot. When we first got together he was more like them than he is now.
It's pretty much the only thing we ever argue about, I do hate going round there most days, I feel like an idiot as I cling to him so I'm not on my own. I am happy that we will be trying again, I just hope that in time even if they never accept me that they accept our children.

 

[babyslog]

So sorry about ur loss hun.. BIG HUGS xxxx

Im on talking terms with OHs family.. but i cant stand his dad. His father is the type that everything he says is right.. no1 else gets to have an opinion! He thinks he rules the roost!
OH seems to have to 'ask' his parents for alot of advice still.. we are both almost 23, live together.. nothing wrong with advice.. but not having to check everything we do in life with them!! Its like hes scared of his dad.. and because im the type to not take crap and have my own opinion on things ive come to clashes with them!

Love Oh to bits.. but it seems because of his dad hes like OH hasnt had the chance to grow a pair of balls!

I kinda get on with is mum, hard to talk to sometimes and i always get the blame for now seeing them or texting her updates on the pregnancy.. When she doesnt text to ask!!!? She doesnt seem bothered about the pregnancy, so i havnt bothered to try and make her!

Unfortunately we dont get to choose our in-laws some are lucky and get on like a house on fire.. as OH does with mine lol!

Just think.. u know ur family care.. so when ur ready to TTC again and get ur sticky bean and baby it will be very much loved

Chin up beaut xxxxx

 

[babyslog]

I also dont get on with his brothers gf.. which has caused so much trouble over the last 3 yrs.. she just DOESNT LIKE ME!! from day one.. decided not to..
His parents didnt like her when i first met OH, she caused alot of family arguments and was always on and off with his brother.. it was only until she gave them their 1st grandchild that they are all happy families and lick eachothers arses!!

I wasnt invited to her babyshower, babies christening or her 1st birthday.....I havnt seen the baby since july last year! And this is my furture niece!!!?

hmmmm.... xxx

 

[Kloe]

Gaaahhh she sounds like a *****!
I don't understand why people have to be like that, if anything our in-laws should be happy that we make their children happy. I really do dread telling them I'm pregnant, I plan to invite them to my baby shower, but I doubt they'd come. They even had ago at me because I said I'd breast feed in public, but they see it as extremely inappropriate, so I won't even be allowed to naturally feed my child around them grrrr.

 

[babyslog]

Gaaahhh she sounds like a *****!
I don't understand why people have to be like that, if anything our in-laws should be happy that we make their children happy. I really do dread telling them I'm pregnant, I plan to invite them to my baby shower, but I doubt they'd come. They even had ago at me because I said I'd breast feed in public, but they see it as extremely inappropriate, so I won't even be allowed to naturally feed my child around them grrrr.

Awwww thats pathetic!!! hos do u expect to feed ur hungry baby!!!!! arghhh.. try not to let them get to u huni xxxx

 

[Kloe]

It just goes to show what they think when they see a breast. The worst part is, the family member that had the biggest moan, dresses in practically nothing to go out on the town to get attention from the boys, hypocrite much? ¬_¬

 

[Kloe]

GRRRR! His sister is such a ******* hypocrite! She had the nerve to tell me that I shouldn't have a baby, becuase I'm too young and haven't got a house.. What is she saying now? "I need to have a baby" She's younger than me and lives with her parents too, makes my blood boil!

 

[babyslog]

She sounds like shes jealous that u get to get ur boob out in public for a reason and she has no excuse haha!

OH MY GOD!! If everyone waited until owning a house or being rich enough to have children NO1 WOULD HAVE ANY!

We ttc in 2010, only had been together 8 months at that point and wasn't living together, but decided after a month of trying to stop. Not because we were living together as if i fell pregnant id of moved in with him. Just cos we were only together 8 months and he was scared of what his dad would like (grrr). Glad we waited, we would have been together 3yrs now in April.

We then moved out in Aug last year and 17days after moving out i came off the pill.. and caught in the october!
We both do work full time but we are not loaded.. both only bring home just over a grand after tax. I wanted my 1st baby by the time im 23 which i'm very lucky as im 23 in May and im due in July.
If you are ready for a baby then HAVE A BABY don't listen to her huni!

Living with ur dad isn't a bad thing, if he has the space and your happy and hes happy that ur living there then WHY DOES SHE CARE!! grrrrrrr!!

My sister in-law to be (with much dread) doesnt like me WHAT SO EVER.. havn't had a congrats on our engagement or the fact im having a baby and her daughter will have a lil cousin! I think shes gutted im having a boy aswell as OHs dad is very much manly man and loves his rugby.. He always raved about wanting a grandson, and they got a granddaughter. Love her to bits but the reaction we got off him when we told him we were having a boy was a like 'YESSSSS YESSSSS IM HAVING A GRANDSON!!!!'..... lol oooops! Think shes a tad jealous! xxxx