I keep finding excuses not to start

[Melanie]

I keep finding excuses not to start a proper diet. I've put on weight not lost it. Im 10 stone now. Thats two stone heavier than i want to be. I am minging. My clothes dont fit.
I keep putting off starting even a diet like slimming world and i dont know why. Well i do sort of but it sounds bloody stupid when i say it out loud. I frightened to start because im frightened to fail at it. Pathetic isnt it.
I intended on starting on Monday (using the sample menu on the SW website and then go to a meeting during the week) but now im picking my little brother up on Sunday and bringing him here for a few days because he's having problems and I dont want him to know that i am on a diet. I've had eating disorder issues in the past and it would make him freak out.
Part of me worries that i sending myself down a road that is potentially very dangerous for me, I feel so disgusted with myself at the moment I can see it being very easy for me to take a diet to the extreme (which is why i think slimming world looks safe because it looks fairly normal if that makes sense).
Im a total mental

 

[Suzie and Faith]

What height are you?

I don't know what to say hun except try and stay in control, make yourself start SW and then you can be eating properly and not doing anything extreme. I've been there done that and it's not good xxxxxxx

 

[Melanie]

Im only 5ft Suzie, maybe its being so short that makes me feel so overweight.

I think I will have to just bite the bullet and start when my sainsburys shop arrives tomorrow. Maybe with slimming world I can get away with not saying anything to my brother about dieting. If anyone else is doing SW have people noticed you eating differently/dieting without you telling them?

 

[xxsammyxx]

I know how you feel... i thought i would start before xmas so i looked good for the parties (appears we never went to any anyway!) then i made the excuse that it was pointless with all the food in the house for xmas and the choccies. Then i said i would start on 2nd Jan except the choccies were not finished and i had bought loads of cheese by then!!! so i stalled again. Then i said that i would eat all the chocolates FIRST then start. I was questioning myself by now as eatin ALL the chocs would only mean i would put on more weight that i would have to lose. Then OH came home with a bottle of wine for me to celebrate my new job (nice thought, but i was dieting and didnt want any, bless him) so i drank that and then thought it was pointless to carry on as we were going for the celebration meal at the weekend. Well after the meal (and a gain of 4 lbs that week when initially i had already lost 2lb) i was gutted that i relapsed... trying so hard all week ended up with me pigging myself with a fattening meal and loads of wine, cognac, bread and so had gained NOTHING (but weight!) Fortunately then i got flu and the lack of appetite helped me lose some weight, shrink my stomach and kick start me to eating less. Because of my loss its gave me more incentive to carry on... i will probably have a couple of drinks tomorrow night (i cant completely cut out EVERYTHING) but my point is that there will always be an excuse/reason not to start or to delay starting to diet and its a matter of just saying RIGHT THATS IT and dont let anything else get in your way. Good luck hun, i know its hard, my willpower is not very good and i have trouble sticking to diets so im just trying to eat healthy and cut my portions for now.

 

[trixipaws]

eep, i wish i could help. i am still struggling to recover from my eating disorder right now, it hadnt even crossed my mind that one day i might want to diet like a normal person, i imagine the potential for relapse must be frightening

dont go it alone, is only advice i CAN give. tell at least ONE person ur going on a diet. keeping secret is when it can get out of hand, think thats what happened to me when i started dieting after having millie.

good luck

 

[Lou]

Try the special k diet hun, its working for me

 

[muppetmummy]

I seem to go to extremes with food, I either eat rubbish and don't care. Or I diet but take it too far and start eating less and less and feeling really guilty.
I find eating plans (like Slimming world, though I've always done weight watchers) are really good for me because it ensures I eat properly without feeling guilty.
I think slimming world would be good for you

 

[Steelgoddess]

Hon please don;t t hink you will be a failure because you won't!! You said yourself YOU feel SW is a safe way to lose weight but you do need to remember you are NOT on a diet as such but more making healthier choices in the way you eat.

Losing weight needs to be fun. All you need is a little motivation. Try to think of reasons why you DO want to do it.

I'm unsure what eating disorder you had in the past but avoid, counting calories, being strict on avoiding certain foods, doing specific exercises you HATE doing, taking too MUCH exercise. Setting yourself unrealistic goals IE I'm going to lose 10lbs in the next two weeks take it little chunks at a time. It will fall off but it takes time.

Also try to focus on losing weight not for your vanity but for your health and confidence.

Think about what motivates you? Compliment yourself often and try to work on areas you are not so keen on that can be changed but those that you cant accept and embrace them...

With regards to Slimming World I would set yourself the goal of booking a date you KNOW you WILL be able to go, I personally think you should tell your brother but also tell him you would like to lose some weight healthily and would appreciate his support, after all its support and encouragment which keeps us going. Maybe even ask him to go along to the meeting with you. I don;t know if that's a possibility you could consider?

I agree with MM aswell its really important you eat well WITHOUT feeling any guilt.

Also do you know what triggers your ED?? Knowing this is helpful then you won;t have to worry about going down a path of destruction as you will be prepared...

I hope this helps, we're all here for support!