I feel guilty...

[Tineke]

I have been reading your posts in this section and am feeling really really bad....

Since I became pregnant I have had no desire to make love with my partner, I love him more than anything and still whenever I see him I am thinking how blessed I am to have him in my life. He really is my everything and we get along like gold.

He never minded or questioned my lack of desire, as I was upfront about how my body had been changing and with me now there is just no interest. Now I am in another country and I feel really guilty as I have not seen him in 2 weeks and will not see him for another 5 weeks. I was never like this before. OUr sex life has always been fantastic and frequent (sorry if TMI...).

I know he is not the type of person to do anything behind my back, but MEN ARE HORNEY!! Right?? I am starting to worry that he may (while away) be in a situation and I have pushed him into it, by pushing him away.

I don't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Am I the only one here who has lost their drive???

 

[Kim]

Your not the only one believe me, me and OH haven't done it properly since conception. We have tried maybe twice or 3 times but I can't 'get going' if you know what I mean. They say your supposed to get really horny in the 2nd trimester, but I never. It's sad I know but at the moment I couldn't care less if I never did it again lol!!

 

[Sarah W Baby Belly]

In my house it is the opposite. Its me that would like more but the DH is always busy with the bathroom or something.

I know that he is getting the house ready for the new arrival, but all this extra D.I Y is making him so tired.

Oh well, I have a weekend away to make up for it! He can't possible work on the house unless he grows arms that are 100 miles long!

 

[Sarahe]

Hi Tineke,

You are not alone, I love my partner deeply but I have no desire because the thought of sleep is too tempting.

I think since we have found out we have slept together about 4 times and I feel really gulity.

He is very understanding and I keep telling him that I am sure my sex drive will pick up soon.

I am sure that from what you have said about your partner he will understand and will be quite happy to wait until your drive returns.

I am going to try a different tactit today, when I get home from work that way when its time for bed i know i can sleep peacfully without fear of rejecting him for the 2nd.3rd,4th night running

Sarah

 

[Tineke]

Look at us!! If they only knew how much we really cared about them, I am sure it is more than they really know.

I am glad to not be the only one. I would love to have the opportunity to go away with my partner, no time in the near future, weeks and weeks until I see him but I will do my very best when we see eachother aagin. Even though I am not at all interested (bless his heart!!)

All the best for tonight Sarah!!! I know they understand, I really respect Erik for that, and I am hoping the drive gets back to normal by the time I see him again.

Thanks
Tineke

 

[Sarahe]

Hi Tineke

it didnt work We had to go and see his nan last night and we didnt get home until 10.45 I was shattered crawled in to bed and rejected him again.

I did tell him last night it would have to be when I got home from work when I had a bit off energy so trying again tonight

Sarah

 

[Tineke]

Hey Sarah!

I knew I recognized the name form one of these topics. I am not sure why I was logged off the chat room again. I ended up making my chocolate drink and watching reading my book on Pregnancy LOL.

I think the most important thing is that we have to try right? I am saying this now and hope I see it through when I see him again. I know we will be fine and that they ARE understanding us right now.

We have to also remember that this will be the last time for a long time that it will just be us and not our child. Before we knnow it, we will be thinking of every excuse in the book!! LOL (GOD I HOPE IT DOESNT GET THAT BAD) This is really not like me

Take care and all the best with tonight!!!

Tineke

 

[Sarah W Baby Belly]

When you say rejected, do your other halves suggest BD at bedtime?

Thats a weird concept for me, as in the nine years I have been with the DH we have virtually never done it at bedtime!

I think I would pass out with shock if I got asked.

Our prime time for getting up to things is usually between 7 and 9 in the evening and we have so much more energy at that time.

Sarah, you should definitely go for the early evening thing! It works for us!