I feel guilty...

Discussion in 'Relationships' started by Tineke, Sep 28, 2005.

  1. Tineke

    Tineke Well-Known Member

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    I have been reading your posts in this section and am feeling really really bad....

    Since I became pregnant I have had no desire to make love with my partner, I love him more than anything and still whenever I see him I am thinking how blessed I am to have him in my life. He really is my everything and we get along like gold.

    He never minded or questioned my lack of desire, as I was upfront about how my body had been changing and with me now there is just no interest. Now I am in another country and I feel really guilty as I have not seen him in 2 weeks and will not see him for another 5 weeks. I was never like this before. OUr sex life has always been fantastic and frequent (sorry if TMI...).

    I know he is not the type of person to do anything behind my back, but MEN ARE HORNEY!! Right?? I am starting to worry that he may (while away) be in a situation and I have pushed him into it, by pushing him away.

    I don't know!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Am I the only one here who has lost their drive???
     
  2. Kim

    Kim Well-Known Member

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    Your not the only one believe me, me and OH haven't done it properly since conception. We have tried maybe twice or 3 times but I can't 'get going' if you know what I mean. They say your supposed to get really horny in the 2nd trimester, but I never. It's sad I know but at the moment I couldn't care less if I never did it again lol!!
     
  3. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

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    In my house it is the opposite. Its me that would like more but the DH is always busy with the bathroom or something.

    I know that he is getting the house ready for the new arrival, but all this extra D.I Y is making him so tired.

    Oh well, I have a weekend away to make up for it! He can't possible work on the house unless he grows arms that are 100 miles long!
     
  4. Sarahe

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    Hi Tineke,

    You are not alone, I love my partner deeply but I have no desire because the thought of sleep is too tempting.

    I think since we have found out we have slept together about 4 times and I feel really gulity.

    He is very understanding and I keep telling him that I am sure my sex drive will pick up soon.

    I am sure that from what you have said about your partner he will understand and will be quite happy to wait until your drive returns.

    I am going to try a different tactit today, when I get home from work that way when its time for bed i know i can sleep peacfully without fear of rejecting him for the 2nd.3rd,4th night running :oops:

    Sarah
     
  5. Tineke

    Tineke Well-Known Member

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    Look at us!! If they only knew how much we really cared about them, I am sure it is more than they really know.

    I am glad to not be the only one. I would love to have the opportunity to go away with my partner, no time in the near future, weeks and weeks until I see him but I will do my very best when we see eachother aagin. Even though I am not at all interested (bless his heart!!)

    All the best for tonight Sarah!!! I know they understand, I really respect Erik for that, and I am hoping the drive gets back to normal by the time I see him again.

    Thanks
    Tineke
     
  6. Sarahe

    Sarahe Well-Known Member

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    Hi Tineke

    it didnt work :cry: We had to go and see his nan last night and we didnt get home until 10.45 I was shattered crawled in to bed and rejected him again.

    I did tell him last night it would have to be when I got home from work when I had a bit off energy so trying again tonight :D

    Sarah
     
  7. Tineke

    Tineke Well-Known Member

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    Hey Sarah!

    I knew I recognized the name form one of these topics. I am not sure why I was logged off the chat room again. I ended up making my chocolate drink and watching reading my book on Pregnancy LOL.

    I think the most important thing is that we have to try right? I am saying this now and hope I see it through when I see him again. I know we will be fine and that they ARE understanding us right now.

    We have to also remember that this will be the last time for a long time that it will just be us and not our child. Before we knnow it, we will be thinking of every excuse in the book!! LOL (GOD I HOPE IT DOESNT GET THAT BAD) This is really not like me :(

    Take care and all the best with tonight!!!

    Tineke
     
  8. Sarah W Baby Belly

    Sarah W Baby Belly Well-Known Member

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    When you say rejected, do your other halves suggest BD at bedtime?

    Thats a weird concept for me, as in the nine years I have been with the DH we have virtually never done it at bedtime!

    I think I would pass out with shock if I got asked.

    Our prime time for getting up to things is usually between 7 and 9 in the evening and we have so much more energy at that time.

    Sarah, you should definitely go for the early evening thing! It works for us!
     

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