nicejuicypear
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fuck! (Not sure what the filter will change this word to!)
But really, don't tell me about your bloody baby news. I don't care if I seem selfish or uncharitable but I don't actually give a shit about your baby, because it's not mine.
It's mainly my cousin - my other cousin, her brother, has got his girlfriend pregnant and they are still in college. They are keeping it and they all know I've had IVF and miscarriages this year. But my cousin still feels the need to tell me about whats happening with them. I haven't told her not to as such, but she said at the start she realised how it might upset me and none of them wanted to do that but she sends me jokey texts about her mum becoming a grandma and how our mutual gran is looking forward to being a great-gran.
I am really short with her in response without being outright unpleasant about it. Sometimes i just ignore those texts. I know she's excited about her brother being a dad and her becoming an auntie but I don't want to know and she doesn't take the hint.
I know it's selfish to not care about them, but it's self-preservation. I do all sorts to distract myself from thinking about my miscarriages and babies and looming due dates and getting random messages about my cousin and his baby who is due days before my second one would have been is a kick in the guts. Getting a text about their 20 week scan just reminds me that it would be my 20 week scan next week, getting a text about gender reminds me that I'd be able to find out mine now.
I know that if I eventually get pregnant I'll want people (including them) to be happy for me, which makes me a hypocrite. But I don't care about that either.
I don't even care if you all think I'm a bad person for thinking like this, I just needed somewhere to rant that isn't amongst people who actually know me.
But really, don't tell me about your bloody baby news. I don't care if I seem selfish or uncharitable but I don't actually give a shit about your baby, because it's not mine.
It's mainly my cousin - my other cousin, her brother, has got his girlfriend pregnant and they are still in college. They are keeping it and they all know I've had IVF and miscarriages this year. But my cousin still feels the need to tell me about whats happening with them. I haven't told her not to as such, but she said at the start she realised how it might upset me and none of them wanted to do that but she sends me jokey texts about her mum becoming a grandma and how our mutual gran is looking forward to being a great-gran.
I am really short with her in response without being outright unpleasant about it. Sometimes i just ignore those texts. I know she's excited about her brother being a dad and her becoming an auntie but I don't want to know and she doesn't take the hint.
I know it's selfish to not care about them, but it's self-preservation. I do all sorts to distract myself from thinking about my miscarriages and babies and looming due dates and getting random messages about my cousin and his baby who is due days before my second one would have been is a kick in the guts. Getting a text about their 20 week scan just reminds me that it would be my 20 week scan next week, getting a text about gender reminds me that I'd be able to find out mine now.
I know that if I eventually get pregnant I'll want people (including them) to be happy for me, which makes me a hypocrite. But I don't care about that either.
I don't even care if you all think I'm a bad person for thinking like this, I just needed somewhere to rant that isn't amongst people who actually know me.