I am so upset :(

[Dragonfly Fi]

My mother, who i have posted about before, lives in australia, she is coming to the UK for 7 days, she is arriving on Thursday morning. I thought her plan was to spend Thursday/Friday/Saturday/Sunday with my brother marc and then head here for Monday lunchtime

Nope, she will be here Tuesday lunchtime to leave again on Thursday night.

we are currently trying to sell her house in Salisbury, i am planning how we are going to paint it etc and its all just a complete nightmare, this on top of being pregnant AND looking after a toddler. I actually walked into my friend Anna's mums house the other day and welled up because i am so unfamilar with that feeling of being in an older relatives house. We have no body to look after Jasper, Marc has his wifes WHOLE FAMILY living within a 10 mile radius, we have NoBody.

But obviously spending 5 days of her seven with Marc and his wife is FAR more important than seeing us, or sorting out the house here.

i dont want to see her/speak to her/know her right now

she has just upset me SO MUCH

 

[Lilelephant]

Have u told her that u r upset? She may think she doesn't want to stress you out by staying longer! Mothers r funny creatures

 

[pinkyprincess]

Mums, you can't live with them, can't live without them!

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Stress me out? What by helping to paint and decorate the house that she wants me to sell for her? Or helping me pack or helping us find out where we are going to live? No it quite clearly wasnt going to stress me out her being here, its quite obviously ESSENTIAL that she is here to do some of the things that NEED doing so that she can sell her house (something she bleats on about constantly and is continually stressed about not happening yet.

Nah, she can jog on, i dont want to see her at all.

 

[pinkyprincess]

Have you told her you feel like this?

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

Yep, we have just been through a similar hoo-ha on similar lines, this is just the final straw, sod her, sod her house and sod me doing ANYTHING for her. cant be fucking arsed. Can't wait till i can move out and then i doubt i will even tell her where i live.

 

[pinkyprincess]

I hope things perk up for you love!

 

[star fish]

I totally feel for you. My mum is being great, but my Dad (they are divorced) has taken no interest at all, and now my brother wants to come and stay from Ireland and I have asked my Dad if he can pick him up from the airport or maybe have him for a night or two to take the pressure off me and he just cant be bothered! Why have kids if you wont do stuff for them? Its so selfish I cant stand it!!!

 

[Sleepy sue]

Hi Hun it's good to rant and it's good to get it off your chest (that's what here is for) I really hope you don't mean your comments and remember life is way to short and you only have one mom xxx

 

[Dragonfly Fi]

She decided to up and leave and go to Australia giving us no way of getting in touch with her other than a massively expensive mobile phone and chooses to come over and spend more time with some of us than others. I definitely mean what i say, shes completely abandoned us and thats that. Why bother if it just leads to heartache and makes me a worse mother to my children?

 

[1986princess]

Hope u speak to her and manage to feel better xx

 

[Sleepy sue]

really hope you sort your differences out Hun x x