I am scared

[nikkif]

I cannot stop thinking about Thursday, when i have presentation scan, and that i might well need a C-section. Baby has been head down all along but midwife thinks may now be breech.

I don't want to offend anyonme here who is having a C-section through choice or who are happy to have one, its just really not what i want or expected. I am trying to tell myself that as long as baby is ok thats all that matters, which is is, but i am worried about the recovery and not being able to do as much for baby to start with. as well as many other things that i cannot stop worrying about

Sorry i just feel really upset
xx

 

[clairescunny55]

i dont really have any advice but i can understand how you feel, my baby might be breech still and a section is the last thing i want, im terrified of them

 

[Paula+bump]

Big hug

I can totally understand what you are saying the thought of a c-section would scare me to death as well for all the same reason's you have said, fingers crossed baby is still head down when you have your scan and your MW has got it wrong... Where do you feel the kicks ? still the same as before when baby was head down or has it changed?

Everything crossed for you hun

 

[nikkif]

Paula + bump -think it has changed a bit i dont feel any big kicks though so its hard to tell. I keep getting a big lump sticking out at the top of bump which is head or bum , and don't feel that much low down but then do a bit at night.

Not sure which bits move most??

x

 

[Moomum]

My midwife got it wrong with my first. She told me the baby was head down and engaged, but it turned out she was breech and I ended up with a planned section.

Please girls, don't be afraid. What will be will be, and the safety of you and your babies is most important.

Having a section is really not as bad as you might imagine. Real bad pain? - no. Discomfort? - certainly. Incapacitated and unable to care for your baby? - no - only a bit limited for a few hours.

This is only my experience of the situation. I'm sure others will see it differently.

 

[nikkif]

thanks moomum, they were my main concerns about not being able to look after baby myself for 1st week or 2 and the pain etc

 

[Paula+bump]

Fingers crossed it's baby's bum you can feel sticking out the top of your bump mine does it all the time and i don't feel that much down below just little hands now and then but most is the bum moving at the top and little feet sticking out the sides now and then... baby's that are head down normally stay that way so i have everything crossed yours is and just your MW got it wrong

 

[kimmumof2]

i hope your baby is head down for you. i too woud not like the idea of a c-section but what will be wil be and as long as you and bubs are safe and healthy thats all that matters.

have you tried reading some posts about c-sections in announce a new arrival you mite have to scroll thru them but im sure there will be some on there from mums who have had planned c-sections.

good luck.

xxxxx

 

[Vickyleigh]

I'm not worried about the cesarean itself I am more worried about afterwards and what I will and wont be able to do.
I know at first I wont just be able to get up and see to her which will be horrible but hopefully I will make a quick recovery.
The best part is that I know this time next week I will be a mummy where as if I was having a natural birth I could still have weeks left.
As long as she is out and ok then I dont mind how she comes out.

 

[Snuggle]

The idea of a c-section terrifies me and I'm nervous about MW visit tomorrow incase baby has turned breech I feel like baby is lying across tummy now (transverse?) as the movements I feel are at my sides. Guess I will find out tomorrow what she's up to

 

[nikkif]

The idea isn't scaring me quite so much now, i have read around it and asked those with the experience about it. Like Vickyleigh said, its the bit afterwards i am not looking so forward to and falso for me feeling a bit cheated out of having a "normal" birth.

I try and think about those who have to have emergency sections and at least if this happens for me, it will be planned and not an emergency

xx

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Hugs to you

I was advised the other day that midwoves and doctors are playing a guessing game and not to worry until you get the final outcome. Maybe your midwife is just guessing and everything is ok.

Finers crossed xx

 

[Moomum]

Immediately after the section I was in no pain whatsoever and enjoyed several hours with my baby. OK - I was in bed and couldn't get up to get her out of her cot etc, but I had hubby with me and he did all of the delightful things like change her first nappy etc. Once the baby was in my arms, I was more than capable of breastfeeding etc.

Once the spinal wore off, I was definitely in a lot more discomfort, but nothing paracetamol couldn't sort out.

Next morning, I was helped out of bed and hobbled to the loo and had a shower. Yeah it was uncomfortable, but nothing I couldn't handle. I was in for 6 days (due to baby having jaundice) but by the time I came home I was getting about normally, but carefully and doing all the normal things new Mums do.

I'll probably have to have a section again this time round and I don't have any problems with that whatsoever

Hope I've managed to put your mind at rest a little bit

 

[nikkif]

yes thanks

 

[panobaby]

i ended up getting an emergency section with my little girl (i had already went through 28 hours of labour) it was quite uncomfortable afterwards but not overly painful, but i think if you have a planned section it will not be so bad as you wont have the tiredness to deal with. I was very surprised as i recovered quite quickly - they tell you to get up & about as soon as you can as it helps you to heal faster (& it's true) the main downside is that you will probably be kept in a bit longer than those who have had a natural birth but if it's the safest thing for you & baby then it may be the best choice. hope this helps

 

[KJ]

Hiya Nikkif,

don't worry too much. I know exactly how you feel having gone through the whole breech scare thing.

If it's any help, my baby is still head down and he sticks his bum out the top of my bump all the time. Not so much movement where the head is at all.

K.xxx

 

[pigletpoo]

My baby is head down, but still free moving. And His bum sticks out at the top of my bum all the time - so the MW may be wrong! They often are.

Yesterday at the hospital the MW told me that baby was "back to back" then when the doctor came in, he said that he wasn't..... so they do make mistakes!

Not wanting to throw a spanner in the works, but someone I knew gave birth naturally to a breech baby, and the baby's legs were all bent upwards for days until they settled down. And she tore very badly and was in agony. So in those circumstances, a c section might be best for mum and baby.

But Good luck and let us know how the scan goes, I really hope you get the answers you want

Piglet xx