hv coming to look for something wrong with me

[lauramumof2]

I phoned yesterday and asked about the relactation and now she is on her way as she thinks there is something else causing the anxiety.
I dont want to cancel the appointment because I want help with the relactation but she better not come here with all this 'are you sure its not something else'. She is making me wonder if there is something else but apart from being pissed off about never getting a full house at the bingo there isnt really anything worrying me.

Oh, here she comes, I wil report back

Could it just be that I want to feed him breastmilk. I would have bottled it (not the milk) by now if it wasnt for people on here especially Lucy Dionne and urchin. Its the knowing there is support that makes me want to do it.

 

[Keely]

bloody stupid HV's I hate them!!! xxx

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

Let us know hwo it goes hun hope shes nice with youa bout it they should be supporting you .
Katrina

 

[lauramumof2]

it wasnt her at the door. She never showed
Im both glad and angry. All that crap about being concerned then she doesnt show. But at least I can now go and see the midwife that deals with bf at my surgery and tell her Ive tried the hv and they werent any help. In fact I might just go straight to the docs and ask for the drug, domperiodor (sp) that was suggested. I can used midwifes online that Dionne used, that email was very very helpful.

 

[Keely]

whats that midwife web address again?? can they answer HV questions? i hate my hv xxxxx

 

[Hypnorm]

whats that midwife web address again?? can they answer HV questions? i hate my hv xxxxx

I hate mine too - she is a right wet drip! with one of those condesending droning voices.

 

[Minxy]

Mine stinks of cheap perfume and fags and has dirty fingernails!

I've found the whole HV pretty useless TBH.

Has anyone got any positive stories to share?

Hang on in there Lauramum

 

[lauramumof2]

hi all,
she phoned later that evening, said she had been held up and got there 5 mins after I left the house. I had said I had to go out for Jessica.

She said that she was waiting to hear back from a midwife who knows more about this and that she would call me back on the thursday.
She also said I should be trying to latch him on every 3 hours day and night. I do this but Im not waking him during the night. He still never latches on for more than a few seconds and then its only on one boob.

I told her about the domperidome and she knew about it and said a doc would need to prescribe it.

But, she never called on the thursday or the friday. I should have given her a call but im too mad and now it turns out that dh thinks its a waste of time anyway. Im really down about that.

On the upside, there is a wee bit of milk forming when I squeeze my left nipple (tmi) thats better than a slap on the chops.

I will keep you updated.

 

[Dee1985]

whats that midwife web address again?? can they answer HV questions? i hate my hv xxxxx

i dont think they are ment to, i think they deal with preg woman. but the breast feeding lady seemed more then happy to help with me. so maybe you could try them?

Laura i am glad your HV is starting to help a little.

as long as you are doing it because its some thing you really want to do thats brill stick to it. mine were for the wrong reasons and guilt that Harley was not getting the best and it just got me down when it got tough

its good that there is some milk there now thats how it started for me. but i used squeeze them all the time. and after a few days i could sqirt it across the room kris was not happy milk stains every where

your doing a fab job. it will be so worth it. but if it dont turn out you tryed your very best too

what does your DH think is a waste of time? the HV or the BF'ing?

kris was not supportive of it.

 

[Lucy]

Hi Laura

Milk is a great sign! Remeber, women who haven't had children can lactate, it's only a matter of time until your supply is up and running.

Regarding your OH. Does he need some literature to help him understand how good breastmilk is? Do you think that would help him? I can supply you with links if you need them. Having a supportive OH is vital I believe. My DH was bottlefed as were his whole family but he read up on bfing during my pregnancy and when I had wobbles he was there giving me the support and encouragement I needed.

However, if you at any time change your mind on this there is no shame, please don't feel like you are letting anyone down as you know in your heart why you do/did things and they are for the right reasons.

Lucy

 

[*saulino*]

Hi

I hope everything works out for you the pills you need a prescription i took it when i got mastitis cuz my milk was running out but it brought it right back up Hope OH supports you through this it always helps.
Katrinaxx

 

[lauramumof2]

Hi all,
thanks for your posts.

Dionne, you are hilarious, squirting it across the room.

Lucy, he is of the opinion that if its not broke dont fix it. He says it didnt work at the beginning and it probably wont work now and that I will be disapointed again. Im pretty disapointed now. Its not as if he will have to do anything, he doesnt get up with joe during the night and im not asking him to physically do anything.
Him saying that has got my back up a bit.
I got a message from the hv on my phone last night, must have been there since friday and I didnt know. She says the doc wont give me domperidone and that she cant get a hold of the breastfeeding person at the hospital.
So, im pretty stuck. Joe wont latch, the little milk that was there is now non existant.
Im going off at tangents here but im starting to feel agnry about the whole thing now. I didnt want a bloody section at first and the doc said I should because of the big baby and oh agreed that a section would be best and I was happy with that but when I went into labour myself I was in doubt and right up till I went to theatre I was still in doubt. My waters broke on the table and I knew then I could have pushed him out but it wasnt too late, they had only given me the local. I could kick myself for not haven spoken up then. I f I had I wouldnt have had all that bother with the scar and the feeding and now I wouldnt want to tear strips off dh. I feel angry at him and its just came to me over the last few days. I hate to admit it because he is so lovely. On reading this post it looks like I do everything dh tells me ( ) but I do value his opinion as somethings arent just about me.
Maybe she was right, maybe I had got other issues.
Sorry this post is so long, im just typing as I think.

 

[Urchin]

Awww

Have you thought about phoning the La Leche League? They have reps all over the country, maybe they will be able to offer more advice about what is available to you locally.

0845 120 2918

I'm sure they could be more helpful than your HV anyway