Husbands

[julies4gems]

Grrrrrr!! I am in my 29th week and have four daughters already. I look after our children, care run our big house, keep elderly parents ticking over, look after our two dogs and countless other stuff (sorry, big rant) and my husband is treating me as if nothing has changed! He has no empathy, no sympathy and basically is carrying on like I'm not pregnant! Anyone else want to punch their other half???? X

 

[BonzE]

Ahh sorry hun, my hubby was useless until I started showing and now he has started to pull his finger out! Men really don't get pregnancy! Big hug xx

 

[Mayflower85]

I've just had to "teach" my OH how to clean the bathroom I am pretty sure no-one taught me, I just got on with it lol.

To be fair to him though, he does all the hoovering and cooks most nights.

 

[Rooster30]

Mine hasn't changed all that much. He helped out practically during the sick weeks, but lacked the empathy I so desperately needed. I continue to do what I used to do now, but in fairness, it is because I can and feel capable. Late pregnancy fortunately doesn't slay me as much as it slays others. What I do struggle with is standing up for hours doing ironing and basic tiredness.

My OH is a good egg though, he means well and he loves me lots - he just needs things spelling out to him sometimes.

 

[TashaWink]

Mines decided to work more (he's self employed and I really shouldn't complain) but when our 3yr old is asking me to get on the floor and be active and I can't, it annoys me then that he's not here to play with him. (He doesn't get in from work until 6pm most nights so by the time he's here dinners being eaten and then it's bath and bed)
I already said to him I'm so excited for this baby to arrive because then Ollie will get you for a whole week.

Should say- i can't sit or lean forward because of babys position. I have to lean backwards when sitting down or stand up

 

[Emapot1]

Yes!!!!!��

 

[Flosi]

Sorry you are all having problems. I have nothing but praise for my husband. He is and has been great, and always there with a hug when I have needed him.

I feel bad that I am not keeping on top of the housework as that os all I have to do now, but he understands I cannot move as quickly or as well as I could.

Hope everyone feels better soon xx

 

[littlemonkey]

Mines decided to work more (he's self employed and I really shouldn't complain) but when our 3yr old is asking me to get on the floor and be active and I can't, it annoys me then that he's not here to play with him. (He doesn't get in from work until 6pm most nights so by the time he's here dinners being eaten and then it's bath and bed)
I already said to him I'm so excited for this baby to arrive because then Ollie will get you for a whole week.

Should say- i can't sit or lean forward because of babys position. I have to lean backwards when sitting down or stand up

This is exactly how I feel. OH is working loads of overtime and I feel like he's never here. I'm finding running around after our two year old son all day a struggle and wish OH was here more to take him off my hands. It's not helping my LO is acting up because I cannot physically do as much with him like take him out for walks etc. We're usually a really active family and the pair of us are climbing the walls by the time OH gets home! Today has been like that and ended up with both LO and I in tears!

 

[LaceyKeo]

My OH is amazing, but he's 4,000 miles away, so in terms of physical stuff he really can't help. Emotionally he's my rock though.

My ex is where my frustration lies. Since I was signed off work two weeks ago, he's had our two year old for one night.
This is from a shared custody arrangement where we literally had DS three nights a week each, and pot-lucked the seventh night depending who was working what.

Don't get me wrong, I love having DS here full time, but he misses his dad, and him showing up for twenty minutes before he goes to work to "say hi" is just messing DS up.
We had a full-on crying fit for an hour last night cause dad was here-and-gone.
Right before bedtime.
Awesome.