We got our letter through asking husband to do semen analysis. We have to get it done within 11 weeks of getting letter and hand it in between 8.30 and 9.30 in the morning at a hospital about 45 minutes drive from us. Hes waiting til we are both on holiday in week 11 to do it. He hates docs and medical things. If it was me id have got it done in week 1! He says he really wants kids but should I be annoyed with him/worried? P.s. week 11 is now only 2 weeks from now.
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Husband putting off semen analysis
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I’ve had conversations with my husband and he gets very worried that if us not being able to conceive was his fault then it would make me love him less because he can’t give me what I want. Maybe he is just too terrified of the results to go for the test?
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Unfortunately most men seem to love burying their head in the sand! I hope he goes for the test soon!
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I think its fair enough to be angry. I'd be fuming, and would drag him down there myself lol! Many men seem to have reservations about semen analysis though, apparently ignorance is bliss... Good luck, at least its only two more weeks until 11 weeks.
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My OH dragged his feet for months and months and when he finally had it done it turned out he was very dehydrated. Three months of hydrating and his test was fine and we got a BFP straight after. I think it's majorly embarassing for men but do tell him it could make a big difference. There are things you can do with diet and supplements to correct any problems but you need to know what they are otherwise you are wasting your time.
I recommend Wellman Conception, cranberry juice and hydrating regularly - it's made a huge difference. A bad test result just means there's work to do.
I recommend Wellman Conception, cranberry juice and hydrating regularly - it's made a huge difference. A bad test result just means there's work to do.
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Have you asked him specifically what concerns him about doing the test? Everyone is different and it may be something that you can reassure him about. My OH also hates doctors and medical stuff generally.
Is he worried about the results? Reassurance goes a long way with this. Would he love you any less if there was a problem with you? I doubt that's even crossed his mind so reassure him that it works both ways. Knowing what you're dealing with goes a long way towards solving the problem.
Is he embarrassed? Don't get me wrong, it's not nice but a gentle reminder about the far more extensive and not particularly dignified testing you have to do might remind him that it's not so bad!! I hope this doesn't spook you as nothing I had done fazed me in the slightest but I know OH would have been in a right stew if it was roles reversed!!
Is it the pressure of the time limit? My OH hated that. Like you, we don't live close to the lab and it's so time specific. Also you can't control things like traffic which is horrendous around here. He always did his sample at home but if you ask it's usually possible to do it on site if he would prefer that.
We had a lot of problems so my OH ended up doing 4 in the end. By that point he wasn't even bothered anymore as it was all in perspective by that point. One thing we did realise is that men and women really do see these things differently so keep talking to each other. Hope this is helpful.
Is he worried about the results? Reassurance goes a long way with this. Would he love you any less if there was a problem with you? I doubt that's even crossed his mind so reassure him that it works both ways. Knowing what you're dealing with goes a long way towards solving the problem.
Is he embarrassed? Don't get me wrong, it's not nice but a gentle reminder about the far more extensive and not particularly dignified testing you have to do might remind him that it's not so bad!! I hope this doesn't spook you as nothing I had done fazed me in the slightest but I know OH would have been in a right stew if it was roles reversed!!
Is it the pressure of the time limit? My OH hated that. Like you, we don't live close to the lab and it's so time specific. Also you can't control things like traffic which is horrendous around here. He always did his sample at home but if you ask it's usually possible to do it on site if he would prefer that.
We had a lot of problems so my OH ended up doing 4 in the end. By that point he wasn't even bothered anymore as it was all in perspective by that point. One thing we did realise is that men and women really do see these things differently so keep talking to each other. Hope this is helpful.
