Hubby wont go to early scan with me

[frankie247]

Oh won't go to early scan with me. Says it's pointless and I'm like a "maniac" for going. I said it was reassuring but he said to me it could still die between now and my 12 week scan. Just feel so upset. I know he stressed with work, and he probably has a point. But after 2 miscarriages I'm so worried. I can't get my mom to go with me, so I go by myself or not at all. If I go by myself and it's bad news again I'd be devastated and would just fall to bits without anyone with me. Got a day to decide what to do. :/

 

[Loula]

I went to both of my early scans on my own, quite alot of people did because of the quickness of appointments,am only taking smeone to the next one because i have to have blood taken.
Seems to me that your husband doesnt quite get it and its normal from what ive read on here. My opinion is to go with an open mind x

 

[frankie247]

Yeah I think I just need to get braver but each scan I've been to before has shown a loss that I'm worried that if it happens I'll need someone with me to support me. It's also an internal. If it was just a normal ultrasound I wouldn't be so worried and then I e gotta find the pathology lab to have blood taken as my veins collapsed today because I'm such a wuss at having blood taken! lol

 

[Loula]

internals are not too bad and blieve me pain threshold is 0....
its up to you x

 

[littlesmoosh]

tell your other half to get a grip!!!!! sorry to be so harsh but it just sounds to me like he is being so unfair! its his baby too and surely he should want to be there to make sure the baby is okay, and to give you moral support. also, if the scan goes well (im praying for you it does) and a heartbeat is detected then hes going to miss that moment! i really think you should try levelling with him. tell him that it would mean so much to you if he came. and that despite that, he should want to come for himself anyway. seeing the baby for the first time is such a big deal, it baffles me hes even considering missing this!
good luck xxx

 

[frankie247]

Thanks girls, I've managed to get my sister to go with me, so definitely not missing the scan which is a relief to me, because I really want to go. If something is wrong Id rather know now than go through Christmas etc thinking all is ok. Oh has apologised and promised he'll come to my 12 week scan.