How soon did you feel up to holiday abroad?

[pigletpoo]

I am due on 13th September (first baby) and my OH is having a sulk because it is his best mates wedding on 25th October and he wants us to go, trouble is it's in DUBAI !

He wants my mum to look after baby for a week and says I'll enjoy it. My mom is thinking about it, although she thinks we wont want to leave it!

But How long does it take to recover from birth? I really want a c section, so am trying for that, in which case it might be a bit earlier, but worse case scenario - If I am late and have it naturally - will I be well enough to go to Dubai the end of october?? I've told him I think not - but when he sulks he is miserable so I said I'd think about it!

What do you think??

Piglet xx

 

[Misslarue]

My lil boy is 12 weeks old and I haven't left him with anyone yet, not even for an hour. I just don't feel ready. But He was really, really ill (hospitalised) when he was 2 weeks old, so I don't know if its because of that or just because its too soon

 

[mummykay]

thats WAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY too early to leave ur poor baby!!!
im sorry if that sounds horrible but i think its horrible of ur OH to make u go away so far when uv just given birth!!!!
if u have a section ul b lucky if u can walk without bein in pain after a few days, i doubt very much its good for u goin on the plane either??

make him go and u stay with ur baby, upto him if he wants to miss out on bonding with the baby

 

[Nic'n'Keeley]

i would never leave keeley that early she's 6 months old now and i haven't been apart from her for one night yet.... if i go out clubbin i always come home to where she is...

do you think you would be happy leavin the baby so soon?

 

[foxymum]

no you won't want to leave the baby, i guarantee it, your Oh is being selfish thinking that you would go. but he might just not realise what its like to have a baby & that massive love for the baby when its born ( & before)

like others said let him go on his ownbut he probably wouldn't want to go anyway once baby is here?

 

[SarahB]

I still wouldn't be able to leave Emma for a week, never mind when she was only a month old.

The other thing is your baby would be sooo distressed being away from you for that long. I agree with the others, let your OH go and you stay at home with your baby.

 

[pip]

Hun, i'm afraid this should be solely your choice...not your partners. It will be your body that has to go through this and either way c section or natural birth it takes it's toll on your body.
Apart from that leaving a 1 month old baby will be a very hard thing to do and a decision you may regret.
Best of luck

 

[Xena]

I definitely don't think you'll be ready to leave your baby.

My daughter was born on 25th September, and we went to an Alice Cooper concert at the beginning of November and left her with some friends for just a few hours (3 or 4 hours in total).

I went out of my MIND with worry. Couldn't enjoy the concert as I would have liked to. I had no reason to worry. Both of my friends are very responsible and it was only for a few short hours, but I couldn't help it.
I was texting them every half an hour to make sure things are okay.

I didn't let her stay overnight with anybody until she was around 8 months old, and then it was only for 1 night at my husband's sister's house.

If you are anything like me, there's no way you'll be able to leave such a young baby for such a long time.

I couldn't leave Lydia for a week NOW, and she's 18 months old! The longest she's every been away from us is 1 night at a time, and even that is too long for me.

 

[Gemma & Jake]

I wouldn't have wanted to leave Jake for a week at that age and I probably still wouldn't leave him for more than one night. I don't know what you will be feeling like but I doubt you will want to leave your baby for that long. I am not sure if you would be covered on your travel insurance if you had had a c section so soon before incase of complications.

 

[pigletpoo]

Thanks for the reply's everyone. It was just a thought really. Sorry if I offended anyone - I havnt got a clue how I'm going to feel as a new mom.

But just so you know - I told him he can go on his own, or stay with me - either way I wont be going.

Thanks again.

Piglet xx

 

[mummykay]

u wont regret it hun, once ur baby is here then thats it, u wont wana do anythin else but look after it!!

 

[trixipaws]

i cant advise you as i'm not quite a mum yet either, but from reading your post it really sounds like you dont really want to go, like you know deep down you wont want to leave your baby?? if thats the case, dont let yourself feel pressured by him sulking!

 

[Jade89]

i couldnt leave my baby, no way!!! But thats just me. I felt up for going abroad straight after lol but i wanted aaliyah to have her first few months of injections first and to get a passport of course...were going on a cruise in July to spain, but she's coming

 

[Bagpuss17]

Everybodys different and others are more relaxed about leaving their babies than the next Mum.

But to leave your baby for an afternoon or an hour is completely different to going on holiday without them, I don't think that would be a good idea for any of you at that early stage. Your baby will need you and you'll want to be with your baby I'm sure.

I did leave my baby with family members from 5/6 weeks old whilst I went to the hairdressers and me and my DH went on evenings out with friends. We were 100% happy doing that as we knew that our baby was in good hands.

Never mind emotionally, you have to consider how you'll be physically as well. You just don't know how you'll be after the birth.

 

[pigletpoo]

Thanks again everyone for your reply's, but like I said before, I have said I am not going now.

Piglet xx