HOW RUDEEEEEE

[Tegala-7thMarch08]

my friend found out she was pregs a month ago and shes decided to call her baby tameron if its a boy is it just me or does anyone else find that really out of order and totally rude im so angry i hope shes got a gal cos if its a boy when shes popped i will kick her butt back to stupid land

 

[paradysso]

omfg!!!! thats very rude, i keep changing this babies name as people keep stealing my name its really frustrating

 

[Babylicious]

give her a little punch on the nose that should change her mind

 

[Emma58]

Your Tameron will be here first though. Bet she changes her mind before then if she's having a boy.

It is annoying though

 

[Tegala-7thMarch08]

give her a little punch on the nose that should change her mind

if me and her wasnt pregnant i would have done something along that lines allready

i will seriously explode if she does though i even ask her 2 be tamerons god mother errrr not now i dont think so i actually do not like her because i feel she has no respect 2 me 2 even say that let alone actually call her baby tameron... and its not as if its a common name either i kinda made it up anyways lol from cameron... so she cant use the free world speech with me

B***H

 

[Babylicious]

sounds like a dumb bint then - ignore her and pray she has a girl

 

[sazzylou]

you'll have your baby first though, and if she insits on pinching your name, she'll just look like a silly copying moo! Plus, she's only just preggers, and hopefully has a long time to change her mind x

 

[muppetmummy]

At least she's due after you, the really annoying one is when someone due ahead of you nicks your name!

 

[Manda&Thomas]

aww hun thats really crap
hopefully she has a girl or changes her mind
manda xx

 

[GBLiz]

that is rude seeing as you made it up, its not like she had always had it in mind!

 

[purple13]

silly moo!! i'd just tell her, next time she says it, "well, i'm really glad you love the name; i reckon it'll be hilarious at school when my tameron tells all their mutual friends that your tameron was named after him" - i bet that'll change her mind!!

 

[Bloom]

I think this is wrong too but i have two names picked for my little girl and one of them (the one oh really wants) happens to be the same name as my cousin has picked for her little girl who is due before me. Its a common name so does that make it ok?

I posted about this in baby names as i was worried about using the same name and the general reaction i got was that i shouldnt let the fact that somebody else is or was considering using the name put me off. Now judging by everyones reactions including my own makes me think that i am wrong to consider a name that someone else is planning on using and I should scrap the name. Now im all confused again.

 

[muppetmummy]

In your thread about it didn't you say your cousin had already said she didn't mind? (Or am I thinking of another thread? )
If so you've got nothing to worry about

 

[Natural mamma]

i have come up with several of my freinds kids names over the years......

But they have allways asked

Is she a friend????????????????????????????????????????????????

Call him Tameron he came first

 

[kalia]

Maybe it's because she's heard you talking about the baby and has been envious (in a good way) and now she's having a baby it seems to her like the perfect name because it is mixed in with her excitement at your baby. You will have your baby first and he will he called Tameron. As she progresses more through pregnancy she will be thinking more of her baby and maybe decide she doesn't want to mimic you anymore - now he's real she'd like him to have his own name. She's a long way off having baby and could change her mind many times.

Also Purple has a good point - once your baby is here, if she is still thinking of calling her's Tameron you could say in a good natured way "that will be really funny when they're older and my Tameron knows that I made his name specially for him and your Tameron is named after him because he is so special" or something like that which takes the whole focus away from her baby and makes her want her baby to be the special one

People can often be insensitive about names because they are not thinking about your baby, just a name. Most my friends are teachers so I don't tell anyone the names we are thinking of now as everyine has to tel stories of awful children with that name. And before I was pregnant I would probably have done the same with no realisation of how hurtful it is. Once your baby is here they will be more tactful.

Bloom, I would say it depends on how close you are with your cousin - it could cause confusion, especially for the family members who have 2 granddaughters, cousins or nieces with the same name. I think you should talk to your cousin about it. But wait until she has her girl in case she changes her mind and gives her another name.

If I have a girl I'd like to call her Lucy but my Mum says I can't because I have a 6 year old cousin called Lucy. This doesn't bother me though, I'd have thought she'd be flattered.

 

[Sherlock]

I think this is wrong too but i have two names picked for my little girl and one of them (the one oh really wants) happens to be the same name as my cousin has picked for her little girl who is due before me. Its a common name so does that make it ok?

I posted about this in baby names as i was worried about using the same name and the general reaction i got was that i shouldnt let the fact that somebody else is or was considering using the name put me off. Now judging by everyones reactions including my own makes me think that i am wrong to consider a name that someone else is planning on using and I should scrap the name. Now im all confused again.

Awww I'd not worry too much about it. You both love the names you have picked and if they are quite well used its not like you are stealing your cousins idea for names. Also, they are cousins, its not like you are naming your LO the same name as say your sister or brother.

I think its perfectly fine to call your LO the same name as your cousin.

I think for Tegla, as the name she has chosen is very unsual over here, its a different situation and I would be upset if I were her, if a good friend announced she was naming her child the same unusual name.

But I don't think people's reactions here are in any way condeming your choice of name and that your cousin is also planning on using it. Two totally different situations.

Have you spoken to your cousin yet? Does she know you plan on using the same name? I'm sure she will be fine if you explain you love the name and had more or les decided on it when she then announced it was her planned name. And that as you and your OH both love it so much, you plan to go ahead and use it also. They are both going to be very different children and chances are, not living in each others pockets so I can't see it being a problem. If she is a bit upset, she at least has time to come round and also she will know you are not copying her, but just had not told the world the names you were going for.

 

[Bloom]

I completly agree with Tegala and would be really annoyed if i was her too. Im suprised by my own reaction at how annoyed i would be if it was me but i think its because its such an unique name that she has made up for her little boy.

I dont want to hijack her post so sorry Tegala.

I havent told my cousin i dont even have her number i sent her sister a message but have heard nothing back, if i saw her more often then i wouldnt use the name as i dont think its fair but as i very rarely see her i dont think its a problem. Its such a hard choice choosing a name for your baby and when you find one you like its hard to let it go because somebody else has used it.

 

[Sherlock]

Chances are she'll find her own names and like those as time goes on. Naming a baby is for life and I am sure she'll have other names to consider as time goes on. I'm sure if you talk to her and explain that her child needs his own identity and she needs to consider that naming the same name as you does not really contribute to that, simply copies, maybe she'll have a rethink. If they are close in age and will be spending time together, I am sure if you tell her you are not comfortable with it, she will rethink and look at other names.

If not then you have to rethink your options then regarding how you proceed with your friendship if you cannot resolve it.

She sounds a bit insecure and in a way its flattering you but in a way its upsetting and inconsiderate.

I have to say, Tameron is an unusual name but is used in the US. I remember looking it up when I first saw the name here I found it was taken from Tam and Cameron. Didn't even know Tam was a name

 

[Sherlock]

I havent told my cousin i dont even have her number i sent her sister a message but have heard nothing back, if i saw her more often then i wouldnt use the name as i dont think its fair but as i very rarely see her i dont think its a problem. Its such a hard choice choosing a name for your baby and when you find one you like its hard to let it go because somebody else has used it.

Then stick with your names and don't worry. If you are not close its even less of an issue. In fact, IMHO its a non starter to even worry about.

 

[bumpmakes3]

give her a little punch on the nose that should change her mind

This is what I like best about tri 3 - no messin with these laydeeeees