How many of you are actually enjoying your pregnancy?

[amandapanda]

As opposed to 3 months of constant anxiety and worry?

In my case, although I am sooooo happy to be pregnant, a previous miscarriage in May has meant (like many of you I know) I never really even allowed myself to believe that this baby would survive 12 weeks and I must say the first 8 weeks in particular were full of anxiety, checking every time I went to the loo, worrying about every twinge or cramp....it really did take the joy out of being pregnant.

In my first pregnancy it didn't even cross my mind I would miscarry - but after you have it is all you can think about! I read an article saying that women who have had previous miscarriages find it harder to bond with their babies in the first 3 months of pregnancy as they are so scared they are going to lose it. This was certainly the case for me....I used to say 'IF i have this baby' and 'IF this baby stays with me'.....I just focused on getting through each day and week. It is only now I have safely passed the 12 week mark and seen my healthy bouncing baby in my scan that I am finally believing that I am actually going to be a mummy!!

Of course there are still sad cases of miscarriage or problems after 12 weeks, but I have worried enough I think and really want to just start enjoying being pregnant and allow myself to get excited about having a baby!

Amanda x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Your not alone hun, im over the moon that i am pregnant but im really not enjoying it.
I dont think i worried once when i was pregnant with my DS but this time ive done nothing but, from paniking at the slightest twinge to knicker watching.
I really cant wait till my 12 week scan a week tomorrow, maybe i will stop worrying as much x x


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[FallingStar]

I'm trying to enjoy it.. but as you say it's bloody hard after an mc

With my other pregnancy I was much more worried than I am this time weirdly... Hubby says I knew there was something wrong before, even though doctors, midwives, scans etc said everything was fine.
I will definitely feel better after the 12 week mark has passed, I didn't think I would before..but now I feel differently.. although I'll still have a few weeks of worry as I mced at 20 weeks last time. The 12 week thing is a definite milestone, and the risk IS greatly reduced after that

We keep saying 'if' not 'when' and if I get a twinge or have a bit of spotting, which I've had... we just say 'If it's meant to be, it'll happen'. I don't think we really believe that we're going to have a baby.. still such a long way to go! We haven't talked about names or bought anything or even looked at buying anything baby related.. that's all gonna wait until after I'm 28 weeks! We're not even telling anyone until after 20 weeks.. how I'm gonna keep a seret that long I have no idea!

I'm definitely tryng to enjoy.. but it IS hard. Like you say.. I think I've worried enough too.. but at around the 4 week mark at the mo I think I have plenty of worrying left to do!

Many congrats on passing the 12 week thing And good on you for quitting worrying.. we should be enjoying it! Wishing you and everyone else a happy and healthy pregnancy.. with minimum mounts of stress xxx

 

[wishuponastar]

Ah, it's like you took all my thoughts out of my head! I'm sick of being worried, sick of being sick, sick of panicking about every twinge...I really want to enjoy being pregnant but...well I'm not really!xx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

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[xx emma xx]

I am constantly full of worry, its died down slightly as i get closer to 12 weeks but i still worry a lot. I never realised how yukky i would feel. I constantly feel sick, can hardly eat, i have went off so many foods and drinks. I never get a good nights sleep, very irritable. I just hope once im by the 12 week mark that all these symptoms will die down. I have to wear travel bands constantly to keep away the sickness. And its sooooooo hard not being able to tell anyone im pregnant. Rant over lol x

 

[amandapanda]

Oooh good luck at your 12 week scan tomorrow! I was so nervous at mine - she said 'how are you?' and the first thing I said was 'I'm worried your going to tell me there is nothing in there!' - but straight away she said 'well I can hear a good heart beat' and I could have just cried with joy and relief!! It really is the best feeling ever and I'm sure yours will go fine too and be a moment you'll never forget

Falling Star - a miscarriage at 20 weeks is so tragic! You have such a good attitude about this new pregnancy though, I'm sure it will see you through. One thing my doc told me when I was so anxious about losing it was that I should try to focus on the fact that 80% of pregnancies are sucessful - those are very good odds! When I miscarried the first time I told my sister and my best friend and they both said 'I had a miscarriage too' - but both then went on to have healthy babies so I kept that in mind aswell. This first 3 months has seemed to take forever as I wanted to get to that 12 week milestone.....with you I guess it will be until the 20 week mark, thats half of your pregnancy!

 

[wishuponastar]

Have you found the travel bands really usefull Emma? I've been considering them as my sickness is getting silly now!xx

 

[amandapanda]

Wish upon a star - yep I know the feeling exactly, I really didnt expect to be so anxious and miserable - I am hoping the next 3 months will bring out that glow people talk about but it's not happened yet! lol

Emma - I know it sucks - i didnt even have sickness, just low mood and anxiety. The wierd thing is I have got so used to keeping it secret that even now I have had my scan I still haven't told my family and friends! I keep waiting for the right moment and it never feels right! I think I'm waiting for that glow to come first so when I tell them I will be full of hapiness and positivity - but all I feel now is blah so I haven't bothered!

 

[Crimson92]

I constantly worried too, and all I kept saying was 'I cant wait till tri 2 to enjoy this baby' 'cause its my first I didn't know what to expect, and for some reason mc stuck in my mind, sorry for those who have had a mc but good luck to the healthy growing babies you now have! xx

 

[xx emma xx]

Have you found the travel bands really usefull Emma? I've been considering them as my sickness is getting silly now!xx

I had a terrible week of sickness about a week and a half ago and my OH went and got me them. I put them on the Thursday night, and on the Friday i still felt crappy but nowhere near as bad and since then my sickness hasnt been quite as bad.I wear them constantly,i take them off for showers. Im not sure if its the bands working or my sickness has just died down. Im too scared to leave them off incase it comes back cos i was absolutely miserable with sickness.

There worth a try if your suffering. xx

 

[wishuponastar]

Thanks Emma, I think I'll give them a go then. Any smell seems to set me off and sometimes I'm so sick my muscles have been really hurting from all the retching!!! Sorry if that's a bit graphic!!! It's also harder to hide it at work because I keep being sick and the loo is right next to our office!!!xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Not enjoying it at the minute...i'm terrified!!! i always find myself saying if i have this baby or if everythings ok...its so hard to believe it!

 

[bethx]

Well I'm actually really enjoying mine, not that theres a lot to enjoy at the moment, but thankfully my pregnancy so far as been relatively easy (no morning sickness) thankgoodness, ive been very tired and bad headaches but still im not a worrier and dont see the point in worrying about things that you cant control. ( I know most people cant help themselves worrying ) so thankfully I'm quite calm most the time.
Im just looking forward to my 12 weeks scan, then looking forward to feeling baby move so many things to look forward to during pregnancy.

 

[pinkymum]

Well I was worried sick at the beginning and was driving myself insane checking up there because I had light spotting a few times. Had to make a decision and tell myself alot of it was out of my control. So now I worry a bit which I'm sure everyone does but I'm trying to enjoy it! I have my scan a week today and I'm so excited if a bit anxious lol.

X x x x

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Well I was worried sick at the beginning and was driving myself insane checking up there because I had light spotting a few times. Had to make a decision and tell myself alot of it was out of my control. So now I worry a bit which I'm sure everyone does but I'm trying to enjoy it! I have my scan a week today and I'm so excited if a bit anxious lol.

X x x x

I like your thinking pinkymum, i had a word with myself yesterday and ive decided i need to relax, i hear my babies heartbeat everyday so im being silly really.
a week today my OH has promised hes going to come to the shops with me and buy an outfit or something for bean after the scan x x


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[clairebear22]

Although i'm really worried because i've never been pregnant before and it's very early days....

I am really enjoying being pregnant!!

I woke up with really sore boobs this morning and thought yay something else is happening! lol

I'm very much a 'what will be will be' type person so i'm trying not to stress out with worrying something will go wrong and i'm just going with the flow!

xxx

 

[kay126]

i was very lucky in this sense, i didnt find out til i was 10 weeks pregnant so unkowingly got through the 'worry zone' without even knowing it, i wish all u ladies happy healthy pregnancies xxxxx

 

[Nanc]

I am the same. Thought The hard bit was getting pregnant.... Little did I know that it was followed by months of worry! I daren't get too excited, and hoping that I will be happier after my scan next week. Maybe once we're all in tri 2 we will enjoy it more

 

[meshe]

Must admit a slight anxiety that something will go wrong, even though we still have small question marks on whether we should keep it, the last thing I would want to happen is to lose it. Not having many symptoms this week but last week I had the whole kit and kaboodle.

Was speaking to my other half tonight asking him if I would know if anything had gone wrong, how daft, think its natural to worry.

Am definately enjoying having a little "secret" though, from the rest of the world, inwawrdly glowing as actually never thought I could have a child (dont know where I got that notion from but was absolutely positive I just couldnt) so now I am, regardless of any fears or doubts, im thrilled that I was wrong

x