How long to wait?

[Mrs M]

I'm struggling a little bit about when is the right time! I really really want another baby - I would have one tomorrow, but the time doesn't feel quite right. We were going to TTC from December, so the new baby would be due end of September onwards. DD will be in yr 1 of school and DS will go to playgroup 2.5 days per week. I wonder, should I TTC in October, so it would be start of the summer holidays, but then again the baby would be at a huge disadvantage when starting school - my bday is August 28th so I know what I'm on about lol! And other times I'm thinking, should I hang on another 6 months, and the baby would be a spring baby, and DS would also be in school from September, so I would get most of the 1st year with the baby. My reason for this is I felt I missed out on so much with DS, as DD only went to playgroup for 2 half days and I had no one on one time with him. Babbling - but you get my drift! Lol!

What would you do? Am I trying to plan too much?

 

[Vixx]

Good Morning Mrs M, not I dont think you are, I am exactly the same. I like to plan ahead and think what will fit in best with our lives and schedule.
I would love to TTC in Sep (and thats when we are planning on doing so) but then I think I wonder if its worth waiting until Jan, when the LO would have an Oct birthday (hopefully...) and not be the youngest in the year? I was a June baby and hated being one of the youngest in my classes too!!

Its completely up to you and your OH and when you feel you were both ready. I didnt get much one on one time with my first as I went back to work when he 5 months old, so I know what you mean about missing out.

Its a tough decision, but only one you and your OH can make

 

[KatR]

Ladies, your thinking boggles my mind. I never even thought about the school years of the new LO Clearly I haven't approached this from all angles. I agree with Vixx on that only you two know what's best but I don't think LO would be set back due to their birthday. The other thing is worth considering regarding the one on one time with your new arrival. Remember though that just because you are TTC from December it doesn't mean you will conceive straight away so it may not even be relevant.

I hope you find the answer in your heart.

 

[Mrs M]

Well I'm shit at planning! Lol! DD was born at 22.39 on Xmas Eve! Sooooo close to being a xmas day baby! She's 4 at the mo and quite likes her xmas eve birthday but I'm sure as she gets older she'll hate me for it! Lol!

I know it might not happen straight away, dd took 5 months, and ds was the first month, so I was kind of thinking if it takes a few months the baby would be due Sept/Oct/Nov time which would be great, or wait 6 months and have maybe Mar/Apr/May baby - DS is a May baby though so I'd like to avoid then (if possible!)

It's so hard trying to do the right thing for the rest of the family! I'm ready now, but I don't think it's the right time!