Hope you girlies don't mind..

[poppy160]

..I'd like to have a little vent off of feelings if anybody is up for listening/advising

I really feel like I don't have anyone to talk to at the moment. I feel so down at the moment, all that I feel like I want to do is cry..I hate being pregnant I'm so uncomfortable, the pain in my hips is excruciating, as is the pain in my back. Getting up in the morning is a task in itself, sometimes I can't even walk it's so painful, especially at the end of the day. My OH has to hold me up if I need to walk to the toilet. I've seen the physiotherapist who found something wrong with my back and she gave exercises to do but it hurts too much to do them now. I've talked to my Midwife about it (and had a cry ) but she didn't seem too concerned. I'm continuing to leak my waters, but everytime I mention it to somebody they do sod all about it, when the reason I keep having to have scans is because I have low fluid..I'm just told to 'Stop Obsessing.' The thought of potentially having another 6.5 weeks of this misery makes me so upset I start having a panic attack. I just don't want to carry on with this anymore, not because I'm impatient to meet my baby but because I don't want to feel this way for a second longer. I have an appointment with the consultant for another scan on Weds..I don't know whether to tell him/her (I never have the same consultant) about the way I'm feeling, just in case they think I'm being a baby..

Sorry that was more than a little vent...I just don't know what to do anymore Thanks for listening.

 

[Tillytots]

aww hun

 

[DebbieM]

Sounds like you need lots of

 

[poppy160]

Thanks

 

[Babylicious]

it will get better, I think we just get to that fed up stage late in pregnancy

 

[flowergirl]

Tell your consultant EXACTLY what you have just told us. Happy mother = happy baby = happy delivery. How are you going to be ready to give birth if with 5 weeks to go you are so unhappy? I think if the consultant has any compassion or empathy, they will at least start talking about a planned c-section or date for induction which is prior to your due date. This at least should give you a definite goal to aim for. But then... I'm no dr so really advixe from the consultant is the way to go.

 

[kalia]

I hate being pregnant too. It's tiring and painful. And I'm not even in as much pain as you!

 

[poppy160]

Thank you guys. I feel bad cause there's loads of you who are in pain and stuff and aren't complaining. Flowergirl, I will tell the consultant how I am feeling on Weds and see what he/she suggests.
Thanks again guys

 

[sarafet]

pm'd you sweetie

xxx

 

[Bloom]

Firstly i think you need lots of

I would definitely tell the consultant how you are feeling as flowergirl said they may discuss other options with you such as an induction so you have something to aim for. I know its hard and it may not seem like it now but it will all be worth it when you have your baby. Its nice that your oh seems to be helping you though.

Is your back problem pregnancy related and will it clear up once baby is born?

 

[UmmAli]

I'm sorry to hear you are in so much pain DEFINITELY tell your consultant and don't stop bothering midwives/doctors about it.

Who cares what they think??? it is THEIR JOB to help you go through this as smoothly as possible.

 

[Kimbo]

awww

 

[KJL]

You should definately tell your Dr. how you feel. I don't have the same pain issues as you but have been dealing with other issues and became so depressed that each day was becoming a struggle. I didn't tell anyone or make any type of fuss about it until my hubby noticed my declining mental state (i've never been depressed before and am normally always cheery). Had a consultant appointment this wed and I told him I was fine until my hubby said "no she is not, something is wrong"...well to that I broke down I felt like a complete tit and was so embaressed The Dr. was lovely though and said that prenatal/antenatal depression is a condition to be taken seriously as it can effect your mental and physical health and that of your baby and can lead to postnatal depression. He referred me to see a councilor and has agreed to set an induction date as he has said that he does not want me going over my due date. Although I am still finding each day hard I feel so much better knowing that by this friday we will have set a date and I will have something to aim for.

You have made the first step now by voicing how you feel and you shouldn't feel embaressed or silly, pre/antenatal depression is very real and can be treated. Speak to your Dr. about an induction and make sure you tell him just how depressed you are. In the meanwhile have some of these

 

[poppy160]

Thank you so much for all your kind words and advice, to be honest I didn't expect so much support and advice and I'm glad I'm not the only one going through it. KJL, your Doctor sounds so supportive, I'm hoping I will get an understanding one on Weds, as I said before we never see the same consultant twice and most of the time they just try to get us in and out as quickly as possible. I'm going to spend tomorrow writing down everything I have been feeling just recently, so when I get in there I don't go blank. Even if all they can suggest is somebody to talk to face to face I will be happy that somebody is taking me seriously. Thanks again girls

 

[KJL]

Thank you so much for all your kind words and advice, to be honest I didn't expect so much support and advice and I'm glad I'm not the only one going through it. KJL, your Doctor sounds so supportive, I'm hoping I will get an understanding one on Weds, as I said before we never see the same consultant twice and most of the time they just try to get us in and out as quickly as possible. I'm going to spend tomorrow writing down everything I have been feeling just recently, so when I get in there I don't go blank. Even if all they can suggest is somebody to talk to face to face I will be happy that somebody is taking me seriously. Thanks again girls

Make sure your Dr. realises exactly how you feel. I was having problems eating and sleeping too as I was feeling so low and the Dr. took this very seriously. Make sure you tell him/her you are really depressed and maybe sugest a referal to a counsillor. With the amount of pain that you are having to deal with too on top of feeling depressed I think that you should suggest them giving you an induction date. My sis-in-law had horrendous SPD and was in agony and they did eventually induce her as she was also suffering mentally. Antenatal depression is a recognised condition now and is serious as 1 in 3 with it end up with postnatal depression. I wish I had spoken up sooner as I probably would have felt much better if i'd had the help earlier. Pls feel free to PM me if you need any moral support or just a good old moan. xxx

 

[poppy160]

thank you so much

 

[muppetmummy]

Like the others have said definately keep on at your consultant and midwife about how you are feeling and how much pain you are in. It's their job to listen and help you. Sounds like induction may be the best thing, at least then you know how long you have to struggle on for and don't have the worry of going overdue

 

[xx sarah xx]

xx