Hi
I am a very lucky man who has a wonderful wife and two amazing children. I look back and smile when I think how carefree we were regaring pregnancy and children. We conceived a matter of days after trying for our first and second. We went along to the first and second set of scans without any cares in the world. All until the 12 week scan for our second when they queried our baby could have Downs syndrome. It turned out our second was born healthy and he is now 4 and doing brilliant and a great kid with no difficulties. However the whole pregnancy was very stressful.
Our 3rd pregnancy took about 14 months to happen and resulted in a mis-carriage, when my wife got the test results from the GP he was convinced she was further on in her pregnancy than she was because her HCG levels were so high. When we went to the 12 week scan there was nothing there.
Our 4th pregancy took another 15 months or so again HCG levels were high and at an early scan again there was no baby.
My wife has again found out that she is pregnant again another 15/16 months on. In many ways I look back enviously at the joy of the first 2 we dare not celebrate. We are being as upbeat as we can be but in truth because of our previous experiences we are terrified to build our hopes. My wife was asked to go and see the GP to get resuults we feared the worst. Again her HCG levels are again very high. we believe she is about 5/6 weeks into the pregnancy.The GP has not mentioned any concerns re this, I know myself from internet that this can mean certain things but on the other hand may mean nothing. He has signed my wife off work for 2 weeks to rest fully, she is very nauseaus as well and she is to go for a scan next Thursday. I am crossing everything not just so we can have another baby but I hate to think what it will do to my wife if this results in sadness again.
The high HCG worries me becuase of familiarity with bad news however I am trying to remain upbeat, having two wonderful kids helps amazingly and I know we are so lucky to be in this position unlike some. So I empathise with other people who have this complex paradox of wanting to feel happy but daring not to and being desperate for time to pass to get news but fearing what the news may be. Nothing we can do but hope for the best and try to stay strong.....
I am a very lucky man who has a wonderful wife and two amazing children. I look back and smile when I think how carefree we were regaring pregnancy and children. We conceived a matter of days after trying for our first and second. We went along to the first and second set of scans without any cares in the world. All until the 12 week scan for our second when they queried our baby could have Downs syndrome. It turned out our second was born healthy and he is now 4 and doing brilliant and a great kid with no difficulties. However the whole pregnancy was very stressful.
Our 3rd pregnancy took about 14 months to happen and resulted in a mis-carriage, when my wife got the test results from the GP he was convinced she was further on in her pregnancy than she was because her HCG levels were so high. When we went to the 12 week scan there was nothing there.
Our 4th pregancy took another 15 months or so again HCG levels were high and at an early scan again there was no baby.
My wife has again found out that she is pregnant again another 15/16 months on. In many ways I look back enviously at the joy of the first 2 we dare not celebrate. We are being as upbeat as we can be but in truth because of our previous experiences we are terrified to build our hopes. My wife was asked to go and see the GP to get resuults we feared the worst. Again her HCG levels are again very high. we believe she is about 5/6 weeks into the pregnancy.The GP has not mentioned any concerns re this, I know myself from internet that this can mean certain things but on the other hand may mean nothing. He has signed my wife off work for 2 weeks to rest fully, she is very nauseaus as well and she is to go for a scan next Thursday. I am crossing everything not just so we can have another baby but I hate to think what it will do to my wife if this results in sadness again.
The high HCG worries me becuase of familiarity with bad news however I am trying to remain upbeat, having two wonderful kids helps amazingly and I know we are so lucky to be in this position unlike some. So I empathise with other people who have this complex paradox of wanting to feel happy but daring not to and being desperate for time to pass to get news but fearing what the news may be. Nothing we can do but hope for the best and try to stay strong.....
Congratulations on your great marriage and two kids. I am sorry to hear about two losses 
I hope all goes well this time.
when they could find nothing briefly, she heard the beautiful words we can see the heart beat 
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but I think deep down this is just to protect herself should it all go wrong. We can talk honestly about how we feel and bring each other along so we will be cool either way.
