Vickimo
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Well, it seems like it's over as quickly as it began
I should have been 9 weeks today but found out on Thursday at a follow up scan that I'd had a missed miscarriage.
My husband works away from home and works 8 weeks away and weeks home. We planned to start trying for a baby his next trip home (which would be at the end of this month) but had a 'quick go' on the morning before he left for work back in July so it was first time lucky for us.
I got my BFP on the 4th August and broke the news to him via Skype whilst I sat at our home in Scotland and he sat in his flat in China. What followed was a tirade of e-mails with buggy ideas, names etc from my very excited OH. As much as I tried to tell him not to get his hopes up it was hard for him not to think ahead.
I had brown discharge from 2 days before my BFP. After reading up on the internet I figured that this was implantation bleeding but as it continued for every day of my pregnancy I just felt that things weren't right.
I had my first bleed 2 weeks ago and continued to bleed every couple of days since then. My mum came with me to the scan on Thursday as my hubby is still away. I'd told her what the scan should look like for an 8 week pregnancy and whilst I couldn't look at the screen I could tell what was happening when my mum's eyes welled up and I knew then that it was all over.
Each option they present you with seems horrific but I knew that I couldn't wait any longer for a natural miscarriage so I went for the D&C. I went through with it yesterday so I didn't have to wait long. Everyone at the hospital was absolutely fantastic and they've told me to ring as soon as I get another positive test and they'll book me in for an early reassurance scan at 7 weeks. I've never cried so much in my life as I have over the last few weeks and I feel a bit guilty now at the amount of relief I have that it's all over. The not knowing was torture and I feel like I've been living in limbo for the whole time I was pregnant.
The saddest part for me is that I was so excited about my hubby coming home so that we could share the news with everyone and go to the 12 week scan together. He's dues back home in 2 weeks time and as it stands I've went through almost 9 weeks of pregnancy without us being together if that makes sense. I (technically) wasn't pregnant when he left and I won't be pregnant when he comes back.
I'm hoping to get some comfort from this section of the forum and look forward to trying again when hubby gets home. I'm realistic about us being so lucky again and conceiving first time as I'm 34 and hubby is 42 but just trying to be positive.
Sorry that this was such a long post but just thought that writing it all out would give some closure to the last few weeks and help me move on xx
For anyone else who has had a D&C. Did your bleeding ease up very quickly? Apart from a fair bit of bleeding before I left the hospital I've not had anything since but was told to expect bleeding for up to 10 days?
I should have been 9 weeks today but found out on Thursday at a follow up scan that I'd had a missed miscarriage.
My husband works away from home and works 8 weeks away and weeks home. We planned to start trying for a baby his next trip home (which would be at the end of this month) but had a 'quick go' on the morning before he left for work back in July so it was first time lucky for us.
I got my BFP on the 4th August and broke the news to him via Skype whilst I sat at our home in Scotland and he sat in his flat in China. What followed was a tirade of e-mails with buggy ideas, names etc from my very excited OH. As much as I tried to tell him not to get his hopes up it was hard for him not to think ahead.
I had brown discharge from 2 days before my BFP. After reading up on the internet I figured that this was implantation bleeding but as it continued for every day of my pregnancy I just felt that things weren't right.
I had my first bleed 2 weeks ago and continued to bleed every couple of days since then. My mum came with me to the scan on Thursday as my hubby is still away. I'd told her what the scan should look like for an 8 week pregnancy and whilst I couldn't look at the screen I could tell what was happening when my mum's eyes welled up and I knew then that it was all over.
Each option they present you with seems horrific but I knew that I couldn't wait any longer for a natural miscarriage so I went for the D&C. I went through with it yesterday so I didn't have to wait long. Everyone at the hospital was absolutely fantastic and they've told me to ring as soon as I get another positive test and they'll book me in for an early reassurance scan at 7 weeks. I've never cried so much in my life as I have over the last few weeks and I feel a bit guilty now at the amount of relief I have that it's all over. The not knowing was torture and I feel like I've been living in limbo for the whole time I was pregnant.
The saddest part for me is that I was so excited about my hubby coming home so that we could share the news with everyone and go to the 12 week scan together. He's dues back home in 2 weeks time and as it stands I've went through almost 9 weeks of pregnancy without us being together if that makes sense. I (technically) wasn't pregnant when he left and I won't be pregnant when he comes back.
I'm hoping to get some comfort from this section of the forum and look forward to trying again when hubby gets home. I'm realistic about us being so lucky again and conceiving first time as I'm 34 and hubby is 42 but just trying to be positive.
Sorry that this was such a long post but just thought that writing it all out would give some closure to the last few weeks and help me move on xx
For anyone else who has had a D&C. Did your bleeding ease up very quickly? Apart from a fair bit of bleeding before I left the hospital I've not had anything since but was told to expect bleeding for up to 10 days?