Help!!

[Lone_wolf88]

Hello Everyone!

I'm 24 years old and 8 weeks pregnant with my ex-boyfriends baby. I would imagine i'm not the only person who has ever been here but i'm finding it all a little hard to deal with!

I had a good old chat with my ex boyfriend when i found out i was pregnant and he basically said he would pay, but he would never see me or the child because he doesn't want kids. He said he had no problem with me raising the child alone, nor did he care if eventually another man ends up raising the child as his own, as long as he had nothing to do with it.

I'm told i was stupid for saying so but...i told him if he has has nothing to do with it then he really has nothing to do with it. No money, no name on the birth certificate. This may seem a little harsh but i don't want my child 18 years from now, finding daddy and having a door slammed in thier face.

So i spent a few weeks thinking about things and taking advice from family and friends, getting used to the idea of being a mother - and i found i loved the idea, even if i do have to go it alone.

Then this evening, i've been bombarded with texts msgs from my ordering me to have an abortion, calling me names...and threatening suicide. And now i am so lost.

I don't want to have an abortion - but i don't potentially want to be the cause of my ex's death either.
Anyone? Help!

 

[kat1988]

I really feel for you, even more as I'm the same age as you! if you want to keep your baby it's no ones choice but yours, as long as you feel your doing the right thing please don't let anyone else's selfish reasons influence you! texts, threats etc are probably because someone is scared and being immature about the situation, it's not an unusual reaction but it's also not your problem, don't let it upset you!

Think carefully about the no contact thing and no money and no name on the birth certificate, if he's sure he wants nothing to do with your child see if you can get him to relinquish his parental rights, as this will mean he can't take you to court or cause problems in the future, and also means you can't do the same. even if he's completely not interested your child may want to know who he is in the future, once he/she is an adult you can't stop them finding each other either,

complicated situation! please make sure you think everything through before you do anything! I hope it all turns out for the best whatever you deciede xxx