Help?

[xshauna_bazx]

Hi,
I know this is nothing to do with pregnancy but i want to write here as i check the pregnancy bits all the time.
Me and my boyfriend are arguing all the time...main reason being we are bored!
We are skint at the minute so have no money to do anything and we seem just to get under eachothers feet or argue about money.
Seen as im pregnant i want a calm relaxed environment not to be at each others throats all the time. He is a childish person and sometimes i just wish he would act more like a man, sometimes i cant stand him! OK so i have started to go off the subject here.
Also we dont have a car so i feel trapped
Any advice...i would be grateful xxx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

Havnt got any advise hun but didnt want to read and run. Hope things get better x x


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[Miss]

awww Shauna

I feel for you I really do! However I don't really have any big suggestions for you.

Do you have to be under each others feet when you are in? I mean could you not go for a nice long bath with a book? Or for a walk? Not only will it get you out of the house but the exercise will do your baby the world of good!

I do hope it passes for you!!

 

[mikid]

Not sure i've got any advice, but the frist 3 months of my pregnancy weren't much fun for me and my husband. I didn't feel any different but he said i was really withdrawn and snappy... I honestly think it's all to do with hormones cause past that, we've been fab!

I'd say if he's getting on your nerves, just break off to another room, or to a friends and give each other some space.

Hope things get better soon hun

 

[misscrazycooki]

Your in the same boat as me I think me and my OH are not working he is getting depressed as he can't find work, so we just argue all the time.... It does get better I think you need to just have a day apart from each other recently I've started a course for my JSA so I'm not sat in my flat waiting for him to come home as he bums his mothers house quiet alot... leaving me on my own. I would look to be able to visit my mum as much as he does but what with money matters and that I can't.

So I just make do and keep myself occupied, take up a hobbie or ask him to come for small walks with you or something I always found that helped if we talked to each other in public instead of stuck in our flat.....

 

[cherelle]

i think this is related to your other post in tri 1 honey, i was falling out with my fella all the time until recently - we had a couple of weeks where id get snappy and pissed off with him and because hes so stubborn he wouldnt care that its hormones and it would blow into an argument!

Maybe you could stay with a friend of family member just for a couple of days? I went home to visit family last week for 4 days and i felt so much better and we really missed each other. I dont think its ever healthy to be with your OH all the time x

 

[Miss]

Shauna things a little better at home? x

 

[xshauna_bazx]

No its not good to be with eachother all the time. xxx

Erm miss, a little bit better today as i went to my mams and he stopped at home...even tonight i feel like crap, im sitting in on bonfire night with nowhere to go. But apart from that ive been okish past day or so xxx

 

[soozy]

Mine gets like this too and i often find that sending him out with his mates for the night to clear his head and have a good time often works. I know you will still be bored but get some of your mates round for a dvd night in and take away, everyone can chip in so it doesnt cost a lot of money. Then the next day you will both feel a bit better and appreciate each other more. Sometimes men just need to blow off steam and clear their heads, he is probably scared about the baby but wont admit it! I know mine was and this is how he was acting too. Anything is worth a shot hun

 

[Miss]

Ohhh I hope you had a lovely time at you Mum's!

I also sat in on Bonfire night on my own lol My OH and DS were out training (they do kickboxing twice a week) so I baked a cake!

Dunno about you but I love cake and made me fel much better having something nice to eat with a cup of tea I mean come on....who does not like chocolate fudge cake?

P.S I don't even normaly drink tea how random is that!

 

[cherelle]

yeah i also love baking... its a nice way to occupy yourself when youre not at work - get baking shauna! lol xx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Thanks thats a good idea, i could LEARN how to bake haha have to wait to pay day xxx

 

[Mummy2Adam]

How are things now hun? Hope they are better.
Maybe try doing something for you and baby, baking is a great idea or maybe start making something for baby, ive taught myself to knit (which is sooo stress relieving) so im knitting baby a blanket, because im concentrating it blocks everything thats going on around me out, which is great sometimes x x


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[xshauna_bazx]

Hi hun ok thanks for asking, recently quit my job which was making me tired as i had to get up at half for and i seriously couldnt move through the day and honestly i feel like a huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders! My house is way cleaner too lol! as OH was doing all the cleaning now i can. Im less bored because i just potter about cleaning sometimes because i can be bothered too its great! Not missing work as it was only in the morning so its not like i was used to going to work and now going to be even more bored. Id love to knit used to be able to do it when i was little but used to have to ask my nana to keep putting my loops through that i had dropped haha. xxx

 

[Miss]

oh Shauna you should honestly! If there is any time to eat cake it is now surely lol

tbh you do not even have to bake from scratch - have a look in the cake isle at Asda (or wherever you shop) for the "Betty crocker" cake range - they do Choc fudge cake, Brownies, carrott cake etc and they are so lovely and cheap! No weighing ingrediants and you just need eggs, water, a little oil and 2 cheap cake tins from Asda (or the like) - you cannot mess them up!

I get them alot when I want something to do but can't be bothered or like at the moment don't trust myself to use scales! xxx

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Lol thanks hun, i maybe have some cake as a treat im fat enough now lol ive put so much weight on its unreal xxx

 

[Miss]

Tell me about it! I have done nothing but eat for the past 6 weeks - it's the only thing that stops me feeling sick But it's also made me look like I am 5 months gone already lol

I am so glad I kept some of my trousers from before I lost weight......they are really coming in handy now! lol

Glad you are feeling a little better after packing in work I wish I could talk my OH into letting me do the same lol xx

 

[mumofmany]

oh dear its hard work being together alot, me and my hubby went through a bad patch a few years ago we had moved house and i had just had our 2nd child together 4th child and i didn't no anyone he did, he went into panic mode thining 4 kids got to wok and was wrking 7 days a week but because i felt so alone all the timei didn't let him move he wanted to go out ith his mates and i stopped him, in the end i made friends locally and i was o much happier having someone to have a cup a tea with and a chat, he is happier cause he goes round to his mates too. also i would like to say pregnancy hormones hightens everything too so where as something that normally wouldn't bother us is all of a sudden a massive thing. how about you both have a date night, we do that now, sat night is our date night we watch a film and get a takeaway maybe if we flush we go pictures or used to be pub we tried to go out t least once a month so we could be a couple and not just parents, when you are pregnant you need to feel like you too and not just a pregnant lady.

 

[xshauna_bazx]

Ohhh thanks alot ladies...i agree date night saturdays now! xxx

Miss just pack in lol i did. xxx

 

[Miss]

I would but I don't know how we would manage to be honest.

Plus after all I have given this company over the past 4 and half years they can damn well pay me Maternity lol

I can daydream about packing in tho....sleeping whenever I want.....I could even take up Cross stitch or something lolxx