Help with baby tantrums!

[LucyBee]

When I won't let Tom have something he wants or do something he wants to do, he has started to really kick-off. Crying SO loudly that he's coughing and bright red.

Fine at home but rather embarrassing when you're out.

What should I do? He's only 14 months so I can't be doing the old time-out business. I don't know what the best way of dealing with it is. It's tempting to just give in to him all the time for an easy life but I know I'd be making a rod for my own back.

Any ideas girls???

If not, I'm just staying in until he's 16.

Lxx

 

[Babylicious]

I found that ignoring it is the best way, Paris was the same and it took time but she stopped in the end when she saw that she didn't get a reaction from me.

It's not easy though, she did use to scream and even bite herself at that age

 

[rusks]

glad its not just luke having the terrible twos prematurely then!!

i'm in same boat, at home i walk out the room and he tends to stop if he hasn't got an audience (eventually) when i'm out at my wits end, tend to put him in the pushchair and turn it round so he can't see me, so he knows i'm cross, don't talk to him and when he has calmed down bring him out the chair. not helpful though when nanna or daddy thinks mummy is being cruel and goes over and talks to him and plays drives me mad undermining my authority like that

lukes doing it mostly when hes in a highchair when we are out cos he wants to walk!! is that why you think tom is doing it too?

good luck, may patience be with you its hard xx

 

[babsi]

Ignore it (but if he is someone not safe move him to a safe place) and when he comes out of it say something like do you want play now.

Prevention is another thing to do, try and pinpoint when one might start (for example we live in a triplex and there is a 3 year old girl upstairs, Kai likes to go up there and play but it isn't always convenient and if he couldn't go I would have a full blown tantrum, now I get him upstairs as quick as anything, gets his shoes off and get him inside and he doesn't have the time to get worked up)

Kai has far less of them now.

 

[LucyBee]

lukes doing it mostly when hes in a highchair when we are out cos he wants to walk!! is that why you think tom is doing it too?

Yeah, that's weird. It is mainly when he's in a highchair. He's now started refusing food too. Shaking his head like a mad thing. I know he's hungry but it's like a battle of wills.

Also if he wants something...like today we were in the Early Learning Centre and he wanted a ball. When we left without it, he went CRAZY! People were staring

 

[Red_Fairy]

I know my daughter quite abit younger but ive had simuler problems. But it seems to come in phases. (one week shes terrible, next not a problem)
ignoring is what i tend to do.

 

[Redshoes]

I would say ignore it too, and I think the high chair thing is probably because he's got so much to do, as 14month olds have he hasn't time to sit and eat Isaac does the going red and sometimes coughing thing when I won't let him play in the dogs food bowl he is a bit of a drama queen, but I find ignorance works best, or siitting him on my knee and explaining why he can't do it, how much he understands I don't know but the calmness rubs off most times.

They do have to push those boudaries don't they, but it is all a learning curve, I'm sure he's going to be better for it Lucy, but sorry for the upset in between, staying in till he's 16? heehee Very best wishes

 

[Lola's Mummy]

Lola gets a fake cough if i don't let her have her own way and she's only 7 months. It's like magic as soon as you pick her up it's gone

 

[kellie80]

Yeah I'd say ignore it too. They soon get fed up. Nathan just looks so funny when hes having a tantrum, I have to bite my lip so I don't laugh! He just stamps his feet really fast like hes jogging on the spot whilst he screams. looks so funny cos hes really big for his age and he looks too old.

 

[rhian85]

lucy...as i said to u last night...we are having the same problem..when ever i say no or take something off him we he goes crazy...red faced, slobbers all over the place and OMFG he SCREAMS.. but i just ignore it

ohh and lucy if people start staring while ur out then , here is a tip for u....if u cant stop him.....join him
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YxXIhM9nd2o

ENJOY...

 

[mrs_tommo22]

Lola gets a fake cough if i don't let her have her own way and she's only 7 months. It's like magic as soon as you pick her up it's gone

So does imogen! as soon as you look at her, talk to her or pick her up its magically gone! We think its because she wants attention - so funny!