help please ladies-what should i do.

[hennaly]

A friend of my daughters is pregnant, wait for it, she is 13, im so sad by it and although dont know all the details get the impression her parents dont care (i could be very wrong) anyway i was going to pass this forum details to her but a little concirned she will be pounced upom, i must admit from what i have seen you are all an amazing bunch and not particularly judgemental but im not sure how she herself is feeling about it all and she may end up asking for a bit of a slap botton so to speak.
Anyway on the other side i really feel she is gonna need all the help and support she can get right now and hope she finds us some help on here.
Should i or shouldnt i give her the forum address.

 

[Red_Fairy]

I think you should.

This forum is very supportive of people all ages who are pregnant. Its just i think a few people have issues with TTCers who are very young, with no partner/job/home etcetcetc.

Young women who unexpectly find them selves in this positiion need all the support they can get.

 

[zebrastripes]

The poor thing.Give her the address, I'll be her friend.

 

[Jade&Evie]

Is she a mature 13 year old? Would you feel comfortable with her on here?

I voted yes, because this forum has been a lifesaver for me. However, if she's not a mature 13 (I wasn't) then I'm not sure if the help and advice she'd be given would go over her head a bit IYKWIM.

She must be in a horrible place right now and I should imagine she needs a lot of support but do you think her parents might think you are 'interfering' a bit? I think you've got her best interests at heart I'm just trying to see how I'd feel if my daughter was pregnant at 13

Everyone is welcome here though

 

[charlie84]

Yeah give her the address, it will be good for her to have a place to come for info and advice.

 

[zebrastripes]

Is she a mature 13 year old? Would you feel comfortable with her on here?

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Good point, but I suppose even if she isn't mature just right now, she is going to be whether she likes it or not pretty soon enough.

The poor girl, I mean, I thought I was young, but at least I was technically a young woman, as opposed to simply a child

 

[hennaly]

Is she a mature 13 year old? Would you feel comfortable with her on here?

I voted yes, because this forum has been a lifesaver for me. However, if she's not a mature 13 (I wasn't) then I'm not sure if the help and advice she'd be given would go over her head a bit IYKWIM.

She must be in a horrible place right now and I should imagine she needs a lot of support but do you think her parents might think you are 'interfering' a bit? I think you've got her best interests at heart I'm just trying to see how I'd feel if my daughter was pregnant at 13

Everyone is welcome here though

i did think her parents may think i am interfearing but then i thought if my daughter Jazmine says to her 'my mum goes on this site' or something it will be more of a girl to girl thing.
The thing is she is gonna need help and info and being at school still i can imagine all sorts of stupid things the kids will be telling her and worry she is too scared to ask her mum the truth etc.

 

[Jade&Evie]

Has she told her parents?

The way I see it if she hasn't and your daughter gives her the website her parents will wonder why you thought it was a good idea for her to come on here before she tells them.

If it was your daughtr and you found out down the line that not only had she told people before confiding in you; but also that a friend's mother had given her this website but NOT talked to you about it how would you feel?

I remebering when I was 13 a couple of girls in my year made up they were pregnant and it caused no end of trouble. Are you sure this is for real? If it is, I think you should just keep away from the situation until the parents know.

I'm not getting at you- I just think its quite sensitive and she is someone else's child.

 

[hennaly]

Apparently her parents DO know.

 

[LisaJ1986]

It's probably quite a good place to come as people discuss the minor details that the books miss. There are some things i never expected to happen to me til i gave birth. Yet people have discussed these things on here. At least then she'll be fully aware of what she's letting herself in for!

 

[CH0C0H0LIC]

I voted yes, any members who have an issue with a 13yo pregnant girl don't have to chat to her, but at least the opportunity is there for her to access help, and I find sometimes that it's easier to talk to strangers anyways.

I wouldn't have a problem chatting to her

Sarah xxx

 

[Urchin]

Does she want to/is she going to keep the baby?

I'm only asking as I feel the younger people who have joined here and got a hard time in the past, it's because they want people here to say it's OK to have an abortion and sometimes people find it hard to say that, given people's experiences on here.

 

[dannii87]

I think it's definitely worth giving her the address, but would she be more suited to a teenage pregnancy forum maybe?

I don't think many of us can relate to such a huge responsability AND being soooo young..? I'm just thinking what would be best for her... Hmmm...

xx

 

[Laura_James&Amber]

Its worth her coming on here, no one will judge her and she will be able to get truthful answers about any concerns she has about whats normal and what isn't (cramps, bleeding, discharge etc) But with the emotional side of things she might be better joining a teenage forum as Dannii suggested because I don't think there are many people on here who have been/are pregnant at her age and she must be very scared and confused right now, it can be a scary time for an adult let alone a child.

 

[MrsBrightside]

I say yeah cause everyone needs support and I know she will more then anything with being so young... even if she just uses the forum to read topics and get tips etc from that you have helped!!

 

[zebrastripes]

I think it's definitely worth giving her the address, but would she be more suited to a teenage pregnancy forum maybe?

I don't think many of us can relate to such a huge responsability AND being soooo young..? I'm just thinking what would be best for her... Hmmm...

xx

Teenage pregnancy forums are scary, they demand tons of proof- scan pictures, pictures of positive tests with a card with your screename on it...it's crazy.

I was on one briefly but it was useless, just constant faker witch hunts, then i found pf...ahhh relief