Help! I'm having a nightmare!

[LucyBee]

Help!

My happy little boy has stopped sleeping. He SCREAMS as soon as I put him down in his cot and just will not stop. He is getting in to such a state. Last night it took him an hour to get off to sleep then he was up from 11pm - 12.30am and again from 5.20am at which point I took him in to bed with us.

I THINK it is separation anxiety as I read that this peaks at 9 months and he is quite clingy during the day.

Does anyone have any advice??? Even if I stay in his room with him and pat him or hold his hand, he still screams like he wants to be picked up. If I pick him up, he's calm but then as soon as I put him down again, it all starts again.

I'm so stressed and worried and tired. Can you help???!

Lucyxx

 

[Redshoes]

Lucy
Isaac's cot is still in our room and so I lay down with Isaac on our bed until he's asleep then I sneak out the room, then later move him into his cot when he's been asleep a good hour, its the only thing we've found that works and believe me we've tried anything we can think might work.
I know how upsetting and damn hard it is Lucy, it is for us anyway, so I do hope Tom gets passed it real soon for you, very best wishes, keep getting it out, don't go through it alone, you can always tell me about it, I know Isaac would try the patience of any Saint

 

[budge]

Help!

My happy little boy has stopped sleeping. He SCREAMS as soon as I put him down in his cot and just will not stop. He is getting in to such a state. Last night it took him an hour to get off to sleep then he was up from 11pm - 12.30am and again from 5.20am at which point I took him in to bed with us.

I THINK it is separation anxiety as I read that this peaks at 9 months and he is quite clingy during the day.

Does anyone have any advice??? Even if I stay in his room with him and pat him or hold his hand, he still screams like he wants to be picked up. If I pick him up, he's calm but then as soon as I put him down again, it all starts again.

I'm so stressed and worried and tired. Can you help???!

Lucyxx

can't you stick him in bed with you for a bit to settle him off?
i think it is separation anxiety. when you leave the room he is terified on his own. so don't leave him alone right now. Be there for him and reassure him. He will feel secure with you there.

 

[LucyBee]

can't you stick him in bed with you for a bit to settle him off?
i think it is separation anxiety. when you leave the room he is terified on his own. so don't leave him alone right now. Be there for him and reassure him. He will feel secure with you there.

Thank you Budge and Amy. Soooooo appreciate it. I am so down and worried about it.

Should I take him in to our bed when I put him down at 7pm and wait for him to fall asleep and then move him???

Won't it freak him out when he wakes up in his own cot and I'm not there???

xx

 

[Redshoes]

It's a lesser of two evils in my honest opinion Lucy
Isaac does sometimes wake after I've left him on our bed, but he's quickly settled if I go straight in to reassure him. That's why I said to leave it a good hour, we usually leave him until about an hour before we go to bed to be sure then move him to his cot and he's so happily slept he doesn't wake up but if he does, then it's back to the bed again, and yes it does 'freak' Isaac out, but only for less than a minute as we go straight to him and like I said he's easily calmed, which is SO much better for him and us than 2hrs of screaming and trying allsorts of techniques which just don't work, thats my opinion anyways, I'll do anything to lessen the upset for Isaac, and us, even if it has its faults, its the better option I think

 

[trixipaws]

im sorry i cant help u but

 

[budge]

can't you stick him in bed with you for a bit to settle him off?
i think it is separation anxiety. when you leave the room he is terified on his own. so don't leave him alone right now. Be there for him and reassure him. He will feel secure with you there.

Thank you Budge and Amy. Soooooo appreciate it. I am so down and worried about it.

Should I take him in to our bed when I put him down at 7pm and wait for him to fall asleep and then move him???

Won't it freak him out when he wakes up in his own cot and I'm not there???

he may wake and cry out for you and i would put him in bed with me again . i might be a softie but thats what i have always done.
when he gets to about 11 or 12 months old he will feel secure enought to be put down again in his cot.
thats my experience anyway.

luctbee. Just go with your instincts chick and trust yourself.

xx

 

[Redshoes]

I agree with budge and go for the putting LO in bed with yourself. Peeps may say that's wrong or will fuel 'bad bedtime routine', but personally I feel it's right for Isaac and me, otherwise I'd be a stressed out going mad Mummy that's for sure!!
Go with your instincts, best advice ever for any baby worries
Let us know how it works out Lucy, stay strong and get support from your OH and friends too, don't feel alone

 

[LucyBee]

Thank you all so much. I will take your advice. I feel better already!
L xx

 

[rusks]

just seen this lucy what a nightmare, my friend is going through the same with her boys everytime she walks out the room they scream like never going to see her again. lots of hugs sounds like you have had good advice already hope it works xx

 

[mamichuli]

Awww, cant offer any more advice, you've already got the best, but have some

Lisa

 

[Sammystar]

you've got a text book baby Lucy!

I know how tiring it is though, both my girls did it at nine months, and now I have to look forward to Sam doing it!

Hang in there, it's just a phase.......

 

[Lou]

My Isaac has always been a good sleeper. We never had his cot in our room and he has never slept in our bed but he has started waking in the night just recently and I have to get in his bed and get him back to sleep then go back to my own bed. I also have to stay with him when he goes to bed till he is asleep. Controlled crying is awful in my opinion so do what you have to do. I don't think theres a problem in giving our children some comfort when they need it. It must be scary for a baby waking up and being in a room alone at night all quiet. They only need a hug and some security

Good luck and remember its not forever!

Lou

 

[Redshoes]

Hope things have gotten easier for you Lucy, thinking of you