Help! Guidance required!

[katastrophic]

Firstly a big hello to all you ladies I hope you are all doing well and your bumps are all big and blooming! I can't believe how many people have "popped" since I was last on a big congrats to you all .

Haven't been on for a while, been hiding away as getting so nervous about the birth and been trying to not think of it, but its not working!

Had to spend the night in hospital a few nights ago as blood pressure was so high, its purely anxiety related and I don't know how to keep calm, has anyone got any tips?

I could really really do with some guidance, I am so confused at the moment and I am driving my OH mad! Baby is still footling breech (feet first) at 37 weeks and I am booked in for a turn on tuesday, I don't know what to do, I am terrified of the thought of a vaginal birth and if I don't have the turn they will do a c-section at 39 weeks and I feel slightly relieved that I now have an alternative but even more confused! I don't want to make a decison based on fear, I want to do it rationally but I feel so wired at the moment that I can't think straight. The turn could be unsuccesful and/or they could break my waters whilst doing it and there are other risks to baby.

Please ladies I can't stop crying and worrying, I am desperate for some help, everyone says its my decision but I haven't got a clue.

Kat

 

[Strangeness]

Awwww hun! I don't really know what to reply but I want to wish you luck! I went in to labour and had a c section in the end but both I didn't find that traumatic. I found my after care was worse and upset me but the rest was fine, that was just my hospital! Whatever way the baby comes it will be gorgeous and you'll be so proud you won't mind which way it comes. As you get closer to the end you'll just want the baby out lol. Good luck! xxx

 

[katastrophic]

Strangeness, thanks for the wise words, I'm so glad someone has replied, I haven't had many replies in the past and was so desperate for a response, you've made my day! x

 

[bubble_dreamer]

aww babe
i really dont know what to say to you Only you know in your head what is best for you and your baby Only you can make that desicion dont let anyone else force you.
Best of Luck xxxx

 

[Minxy]

Aw I'm sorry you're so worried! None of us know what we're going to get, but here's a little consolation.....

I remember reading similar posts from Eveadel who has been so anxious about the labour/birth she booked an elective C-section.

Reading her really positive birth story I was so pleased, it all happened great for her, and can for you!

Obviously there is always a chance of complication, but you'll have to rely on the trained medical staff around you and just try to stay calm and focused.

I truly hope you (and we all!) get the experience we want xxxx

 

[Rubys mummy]

Just read Evedals birth story too, its given me hope, I am already panicking about the birth and have got ages yet!!!

I am sure as time goes on, you will know what to do, I am sending a bit hyg to make you feel better xxx

 

[budge]

my friend had a breach like you and she managed to turn the baby herself by positioning herself in various ways throughout the day.
i know one way was standing on her head which she did with help from her husband and the other was sitting upright all the timeand not slouching. Another was sitting on all fours on the floor with your lower body down and bum in the air.
The baby moved in the last two weeks of her pregnancy and she had a normal birth.

she looked up the positions on the internet.
here i have found you a website with some idea. good luck
http://transitiontoparenthood.com/ttp/f ... breech.htm

 

[katastrophic]

Ah ladies thank you so much! I'm crying now, not out of fear but gratitude! Just feel so alone and scared at the mo and just having someone to chat to helps so much. Good luck to you all Kat x

 

[Miracle babe]

Kat hun I know exactly how you feel. I am also terrified of this birth and have been diagnosed with secondary tocophobia (fear of childbirth following a previous birth). I've had councelling to help me face a natural birth but have now been told by another consultant that I should be having a c section as I am too small to deliver naturally. Its left me so confused and everyone telling me its my decision doesnt help as I would rather someone just told me what to do. What keeps me going is just thinking that it is a day out of my life, one day which will give me a reward which will last a lifetime. They take care of you and at the end of the day it is unlike any other pain where there is no reward, at the end of this the reward is holding your little one and nothing can be batter than that

 

[katastrophic]

Miraclebabe,

That's how I feel! I want someone to tell me what to do and take over, I don't want to make the decision. I have struggled with the pregnancy mentally, I am happy to be experiencing it as I love my partner very much and this completes us but it has been very difficult at times. With only three weeks to go, being given a choice and being stuck at home, I'm literally climbing the walls and I don't know how to calm the panic. I just feel so....so ashamed, as a woman you are expected to just get on with childbirth aren't you!? I am so sorry you are struggling as well but thanks so much for sharing as it's good to know I'm not the only one and you are so right it's one day, when I manage to get past the birth and think of my little one, the feeling is immense, I need to hold on to that thought! Good luck lady Kat x

 

[lauramumof2]

Hiya kat
Dont you worry about the birth. Im a bit like you, I very much like to be mentally prepared for something and my birth this time will be a section, I have the date and all that but im ready incase I go early.

What will be will be. I wouldnt like the baby to be turned, try getting down on all fours a lot and rocking back and forth. If it turns on its own then a vaginal irth its meant to be and if it doesnt, a section it is.

Dont get stressed though because one thing is for sure, its coming out.

Sure as a woman you are expected to give birth but years ago there wasnt as many choices and people telling us whats best, whats not.

Pm me any time, im off on mat leave as well but have a 2 year old but will try to get back asap and I assure you, it will be okay.