Help/Advice-BF/Bottle

[Mrs_B1981]

Ladies, please help me!

My LO is 9 weeks and BF. I love BF'ing but some days I do feel like Daisy the Cow. I haven't yet built up the confidence of feeding in public so take either a bottle of expressed milk or formula. Recently though LO has started to refuse the bottle off me. I got my mum to try giving him a bottle of expressed milk today and he just won't take it. Any advice how I can resolve this? I need to be able to leave him with his dad if I have to go out, and know he'll be fed if I'm not around! He also will not take a dummy!

Any advice gratefully received!

 

[Esoames]

Hmmm is it time to change the teat flow? That's all I can think off x

 

[Mrs_B1981]

He doesn't even take the teat to know it is a slow flow. He pushes the teat away with his tongue wth his mouth wide open

 

[Miss]

Hey Mrs B

I had had the same prob with Georgie refusing the bottle a few weeks ago. She just screamed everytime we tried so after awhile we stopped trying. After 2 weeks we tried her again first thing in the morning as she is a happy smiley girl then and on a number 2 teat. She drained the 2oz we put in and screamed when ir had gone I was expressing at the time so tipped another 2oz in the bottle and she took most on that.

I know this does not help you currently with being shy feeding in public sorry. You can get breastfeeding scarfs maybe that would help you for now? Xx

 

[Maria1977]

My LO used to have the tommee tippee bottles, then we moved onto breastflow and he got on with them great, we were only ever doing 1 bottle a day. Now he refuses all bottles though, and he's never taken a dummy. I've never breastfed in total public, either in the car or somewhere out of peoples eyes and my LO is 7 months now and we've got on fine. It's not been an easy ride, but we're in tune now xxxx

 

[Mrs_B1981]

I've got Tommee Tippee bottles and he was ok with them. I also feed my LO in the car and hidden places! I envy women who happily feed their LO's in public. I have a cover so maybe I should pluck up the courage. Its such a natural thing but so many people are funny about it!
I'll also look at different teats and see if he'll take them?

 

[NaturalMama]

Both my children refused a bottle so while at home ( so for on the rare occasion I went out!)

We did cup feeding

If you search google (as I can't put a link) cup feeding breastfed baby, or look on the kellymom site, there is lots of information on this

 

[NaturalMama]

Oh and when I had my first at 20 I was petrified of feeding in public!! But when I did it once that was it! all over and never bothered me again. In fact it was quite liberating!

You should try it sweet, maybe at a park on a bench where there is less focus on you, and gradually build up your confidence

 

[hopefulmummy]

I have to say, I am the opposite..although I don't love feeding in public, if I want to go out and it crosses feed times I just do it. And I can never bring myself to give a bottle of expressed milk. I kind if want people to know that I'm brastfeeding and I think the more people do it in public the more normal it becomes. Practises at home first and buy a cover (bebe au lait is good) - I scoffed at these as a waste of Money whilst pregnant but they are great. I have always loved seeing women breastfeeding in public. It's totally natural and society should be
More supportive! Xx

 

[hopefulmummy]

I meant A bottle of expressed milk in public! I've given it at home x

 

[Jones]

o dear hope the problem resolves soon, i dont know what to suggest as im exclusively bf at the moment. i wouldnt bf in public at first but baby now 5 months and i do it wherever..it just comes to the point where my baby is crying for feed and its just easier...u do get the odd few men have a good stare..but u know whatever floats their boat..dirty men. go for it! its soooo much easier!!!!! once u dont it a few times its so natural

 

[Mrs_B1981]

Well girls, I plucked up the courage and I did it, I BF Sam in public! I heeded all your advice and cracked on. He started to scream at me so I just took a deep breath and did it! Truely liberating. Got a few looks, but I just 'looked' back. People think that lambs/calves suckling their mothers is cute and natural but a baby suckling its mum is wierd! Grrrr! Thanks for the advice and push in the right direction xx

 

[setdse]

Well done you

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[Miss]

Welldone Mrs B!

It is odd the first time you do it but after awhile you realise that most people do not even notice you!

I hope today has given you the confidence you need to keep feeding in public xx

 

[JJ Mum]

Well done that's fab that you did it, now don't leave it long, as I did leave it a week or so, then had to be brave all again! I never got Devon to take a bottle in the end, so when I went to take that in June (He was 5 mths), we just used a beaker , he drank less but survived with daddy and expressed frozen milk!)

Re boob feeding when out - I had brought a feeding cover and keep it in my bag just incase I am in a right scary situation or someone was offended etc. I now have a better system I prefer and I find people don't even nottice I'm feeding, draws less attention than the screen.

I have spagetti strap tops from new look £1.99 each in many colours , lots of white ones
I wear them over my feeding bra and under my top. No special feeding tops , just my normal prepreg ones.
I then just pull down one side of the vest top and my bra cup, so boob is out under clothes ready.
Then I pop baby on under outside t-shirt and then once on pull up top, I use a long bib or muslin and pull the end up so it covers any nipplage! You really couldn't see a thing. After I take baby off just pull down outside t-shirt , sit baby up and then can sort out bra cup and vest from the top neck okf my t-shirt more easily while holding baby, and then wind baby. Once I got this sorted, I will feed when out fine. In busy places or men right next to me in coffee shop etc, I may choose to feed from a particular side boob tho out of order just to face away more..

Keep up your brave feeding, it gets easier and easier , esp as it's something you really want to keep doing