Hello and oh my!

[shootingstar22]

Hi all... I am new here but not! I think I have posted here once... Probably when I thought I may have been pregnant. You know the story, you convince yourself you have symptoms when they are all in your head, so you get worried about nothing!

Anyway, the reason I am posting now!

I am getting married next year to a very lovely man. We had talked about starting a family soon after- my other half is very much of the opinion that it's a natural progression, why wait? , we love each other this is what we want. I am very much of the same opinion and would love to start a family. We have lost a couple of people to cancer this year and my grandfather has been given a short time to live-cancer again. This has brought on thoughts that I don't want to wait years to start a family because anything could happen... Our children never knowing their great grandparents, grandparents or even parents . Morbid I know, but family means a lot to me and to see the family grow only makes mr smile!

Anyway, to my.. Dilema?, hesitation? , worry? Is that I am worried about pregnancy itself... And of course being a good mother.

Why you ask? Well I had a nasty bug this year that kept me Ill for a week, I then had a reaction to medication I was given for anxiety which led me to hospital with a drip in my arm- I suffered from dehydration and due to the fact I would vomit anything I attempted to put in my mouth i lost a stone in weight in 3 days. It has taken me Nearly 3 months to feel normal again and to even consider having children again. Why?

Because when I was Ill all I could think is that I can't stand feeling sick/ vomiting. Long story short is that I am scared of morning sickness... I am scared I will loose weight again and end up in hospital etc while I was sick my anxiety grew and all I could think was I couldn't ever do it, I can't deal with being sick there is no way I could handle pregnacy.

I suppose my question is, did anyone feel like this? Does anyone? Do you think that I am worrying over nothing?

I am sooo sorry for this long post, didn't mean to make it so long!

I look forward to getting to know you all!

 

[titch]

Welcome (back!)

Oh hun, sorry to hear you've been so ill recently! I can understand you being worried, it sounds like it was a horrible experience.

Im having morning sickness right now. It isn't nice feeling sick but it isn't in anyway like having a sickness bug. For a lot of people its only at a certain time of day (not neccesarily morning though) so you keep down food and fluids the rest of the time. When mine arrives I feel bad for about an hour, sometimes just a feeling and other times I am sick. But it certainly hasn't been so bad that I'm losing weight or worried about fluids.

I hope this helps you out. It's so easy for me to say cos I didn't get anxious about sickness, but I don't think it will be the same as your recent illness. Every woman is different and some don't even get morning sickness!

Good luck xxx

 

[Rowesb]

As tiny says, MS is different for everyone, but it is definately different in the bug sickness, there are meds that are safe to use that ur gp can prescribe if the sickness does get too much...
Good luck

 

[Mervs Mum]

Welcome back


As the others have said MS and tummy bug type sickness are generally pretty different and of course not everyone gets MS. My mum and my sister didnt felt sick once! You might be worrying about nothing and if you do get it, it's often short lived

 

[Pompey_Princess]

hello and welcome (back)

i can only reiterate what other's have said, ms is very similar to travel sickness really, and it differ's so much not only between people but between pregnancies too i think it might help also to have a chat with your gp about this, as they too may be able to give you some more practical advice

 

[shootingstar22]

Thanks for the responses!

I spoke to a friend a few weeks ago after I had vomiting with my migrane and she said that migrane vomiting is much like morning sickness. If thats the case than that makes me feel a little better as I generally feel fine, hust can't help but be sick. Its nausea that gets me the most, the feeling of being unwell is awful- and of course the worry I cannot eat/drink the required amount!

I, unfortunatly, already know I am going to struggle with smells as I already do! First thing that tells me that I am unwell is my sense if smell! Can't stand soap, coffee, other half etc etc


I suppose it is much like a plaster really, you just need to rip it off deal with the small bit of pain and then your all better!

 

[evie_smith]

hello i have had horrible morning sickness from early to 20 and 21 weeks with my pervious pregnancies lost loads and loads of weight but . . .. you can get medication if you go to the doctors with morning sickness as its just too much they can give you medication to controll it my friend emma had this and told me after my sickness had gone!! i asked my mv about it and she said yes you should have had it - she knew i was suffering so bad i even bled through all the pressure of morning sickness and had to have internal scans coz it was so much blood - midwife really didnt like her job and was cr*p lol so she couldnt be arsed to tell me i think was around what she said but i think her actual words were something allong the lines of 'oh yer i suppose - should have told you really never mind it would mean filling out the forms and getting doctors consent it really ist woprth the hastle for me' i was gop smacked!!!! but yer there is medication hun x x x x x x

 

[ToffeePop]

Shootingstar, we sound SO familiar in our respective concerns! I didn't want to start a family with OH for the reason that I lost both parents to cancer when they/I was fairly young and didn't want to leave OH with a little one and leave him a single dad. Nor would they have any of my family as a support network which I think is awful as my parents were bloody wonderful.

We're going to be TTC next year (hehehehe not long to go) and despite all the things that could go wrong, the morning sickness (I have little to no gag reflex so being sick is traumatic in the extreme), the weight gain, the possible pregnancy problems, the possible things that could be wrong with a baby, you name it, we're still going to go ahead and give it a shot because, at the end of the day, life will take you where it takes you. morning sickness (I have little to no gag reflex so being sick is traumatic in the extreme), the weight gain, the possible pregnancy problems, the possible things that could be wrong with a baby, you name it, we're still going to go ahead and give it a shot because, at the end of the day, life will take you where it takes you. I'll be back around later but just wanted to say "You are not alone!" But it'll all work out the way it's supposed to.

If you hadn't thought about the downsides, then you wouldn't be taking it seriously and I think that's a good thing to be doing

 

[shootingstar22]

Shootingstar, we sound SO familiar in our respective concerns! I didn't want to start a family with OH for the reason that I lost both parents to cancer when they/I was fairly young and didn't want to leave OH with a little one and leave him a single dad. Nor would they have any of my family as a support network which I think is awful as my parents were bloody wonderful.

We're going to be TTC next year (hehehehe not long to go) and despite all the things that could go wrong, the morning sickness (I have little to no gag reflex so being sick is traumatic in the extreme), the weight gain, the possible pregnancy problems, the possible things that could be wrong with a baby, you name it, we're still going to go ahead and give it a shot because, at the end of the day, life will take you where it takes you. morning sickness (I have little to no gag reflex so being sick is traumatic in the extreme), the weight gain, the possible pregnancy problems, the possible things that could be wrong with a baby, you name it, we're still going to go ahead and give it a shot because, at the end of the day, life will take you where it takes you. I'll be back around later but just wanted to say "You are not alone!" But it'll all work out the way it's supposed to.

If you hadn't thought about the downsides, then you wouldn't be taking it seriously and I think that's a good thing to be doing

so sorry for your loss. I am glad, however that o am not the only one with the same thoughts!

I am opposite in this sense that I gave a terrible gag reflex. If o think about it to much I will instinctivly will gag!

We have talked about starting next year. I woul ideally like to fall pregnant at tge end of summer/beginning of autumn as I would like to avoid being heavily pregnant in the summer- I feel the heat quite a bit! Also I would like to enjoy walks in the sun with baby, for fresh air and to get healthy/ in shape again. Knowing my luck it will take awhile to get pregnant and it would probably happen in the spring one year! Lol

that's another that really gets me, what if I can't get pregnant. What if there is something wrong with me of the other half! I suppose we will have to wait and see.

I am due to see my GP next week to get more birth control- with a wedding comming up I don't want to not fit in my dress due to pregnancy. Think I will duscuss my options with her and see when's best to come off the pill and start trying. Have heard my pill can be a nightmare to come off and to try an conceive quickly!

 

[mrsH2009]

what if I can't get pregnant. What if there is something wrong with me of the other half! I suppose we will have to wait and see.

I have days where I think like this, because I want it so badly what if I can't have it again But what we actually need is PMA