Health Visitor vs Mummy

[K&A]

As much as i know HV can be great help.. I found myself diagreeing with one today.

my HV who i like is on holiday and the local staff nurse was fully booked so another HV filled in.. She was nice but i explained Jack is now on hungrier baby milk and having 4oz every 2-2 1/2 hours.. His been on this for a week and gained 8oz which she explained was right as babies should gain around 1oz a day.

after saying this was good she told me to go back to regular milk even though Jack is happy and settled on hungrier baby. I asked why and she said because he can't have solids until 6 months he will get bored of hungrier baby and we will have nothing new to offer him..

i don't want to change it his gaining weight steadily and starting to sleep well again. And the whole reason i asked her to come round was because i thought he had a cold and she didn't even help me with that..

she kept asking me questions about coping.. I felt like i was been judged..

should i listen to her or do what i feel is right for my baby??

Kylie & Baby Jack xxx

 

[Jellyboobs]

IMO, you should do what you feel is right. A mothers instinct, as they say.

Your HV doesn't have to listen to your baby crying his eyes out because he isn't getting enough of the milk he wants. Every baby is different, after all.

But I suppose if you want to listen to your HV, you could try him on normal milk again for a few days and see how he is and if he still prefers the hungrier baby stuff then just go back onto that? Tis a dear do though if he's on the formula and not ready-made.

As for the questions about coping... I feel like hitting my HV sometimes the amount she goes on about it. But I guess she is just doing her job - although I don't know how many times I have to say I'm fine to her.

 

[K&A]

i was reading in the book the HV gave me that they look for signs of psotnatal depression but to me there just typical signs of been a new mummy.. Im tired of course, i used to be able to sleep with no one else needing me hehe and i have alot of things on my mind.. Especially with my great grandad on his death bed. Im honestly gonna do what i thinks best i think switching his milk will effect his tummy

and your so right every babies different and they don't have to listen to our LO's crying. She contridicted herself so much i actually felt like she didn't know what she was doing..

im sure when my HV comes back and i explain it all and tell her im coping fine.. My mw only saw me twice because she said she was so happy with my progress in the first week

rant over.. How does everyone else feel about their HV?

i was so pleased with mine and staff nurse as i was super worried while pregnant x

 

[Piglet10]

IMO u tell them what they wanna hear, and do what u think is right!! from my experience they dont know their ass from their elbow well 80% of them! xxx

 

[K&A]

yeah that's a good idea. Tell them what they want to hear.. I like it!

my OH was sat with me at the time and he didn't like what she was saying either, so i knew it wasn't just me x

 

[Piglet10]

lol iv fallen out with one i complained bout her, she complained bout me, lmao long story but she was a cow!! lol so now i just tell them what they wanna hear and go to my gp for advice xx

 

[Zazu]

I'd do what you think is best, you aren't harming him and you know the milk works for him. You can always start baby rice/porridge at 4months if he isn't satisfied.

In my experience, different health visitors tell you different things, and they push everyone on the post natal depression thing, so don't feel like it's just you xxx

 

[MrsR]

I actually love my hv! She's fantastic! Yes she asked about how I felt I was coping and how I felt but i'd rather they asked and offended a couple of people rather than not ask and risk missing a mum with pnd who needs help. She also gave me some information on help I can receive for when I have my back operation and was fine about Seb sleeping with me.

All baby's are different and I think a good balance of mummy intuition and listening to advice is what's needed.

 

[Minchin]

Yep a combo of advise and intuition. I had a horrid HV this week, but have met a nice one. Th ehorrid one made me feel rubbish and judged too. Just like any profession I guess there are shite ones

 

[isobel84]

im one of them that 95% listen to BM- HV.. im so scared of doin wrong.. i did what one BM told me in the beginning tho which resoult in i have fed noa "wrong" for 3 weeks and since HV told me how to do it right Noa is alot happier

i love my HV

OH on the otherhand says to me "dont listen to them, they can only advise u but u need to do what u think is right"

 

[megsmeadow]

Yeah I'd go with your instinct. My HV is rubbish and thankfully says she isn't coming back to visit us until Ross is 1! She said not to put Ross on staydown milk as that was for babies with significant reflux and Ross didn't have that. No but he was bringing up half of every feed!! Crazy lady! Like someone said you can introduce solids to your LO from 4 months so you will have something new to offer baby. Guidelines guidelines guidelines, pah! Listen, nod, consider and do what's right for your family!

 

[midnight]

well all mine was on hungry baby milk and they didnt get bored!!! what do they suggest to breast fed babies go on a formula because your baby gets bored of breast milk some HV get right on my nerves do what ever feels right for you and not giving baby solids until 6 months is only a recomendation my eldest was weaned much earlier and it did her no harm do what ever you feel you and the baby are happy with as after all every baby is different xxx

 

[tinkerbell86]

hmmm i havent seen the hv since baby was 2 weeks old......should you see them more?!?

 

[K&A]

my mw signed me off at 2 weeks after 2 visits and then i saw HV 3 days later then the following week to be weighed ( they did home visit to save me walking to clinic in the cold) then they asked me if i wanted to wait until my six week appointment or she would send staff nurse following week so i told he to come again for the weighing. Its nice to keep travk on his weight. Especially with him getting hungrier. And that's when she came and above happened because my HV and staff nurse was off so it was another HV (mean lady) now ive got 1 week and half until i see my HV for 6 week appointment. So i should think as long as you feel your been looked after. If not you should all them.

i know someone who didn't see any HV at all. She got missed out of the system x

 

[tinkerbell86]

See I have to go to the clinic to get him weighed but I haven't been able to go with hosp apps for my ankle and ohs shifts!they didn't even offer me home visits!

 

[Zazu]

See I have to go to the clinic to get him weighed but I haven't been able to go with hosp apps for my ankle and ohs shifts!they didn't even offer me home visits!

Ring up and ask for a home visit, they should come out x

 

[Rowesb]

I have fallen out with the HV... Go with your instincts


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