Having OH on hand close to due date!

[cherelle]

Just wondering what you thought ladies.....

Well im due 25th May and my OH is my birthing partner. He is a social worker but occasionally does some labouring for his cousins company around the UK for extra cash in hand and the money really comes in handy.

He has been offered work during May but is reluctant to go anywhere all month in case i go into labour..... i feel like just telling him to go as the extra money would be great and he would only be a few hours away for a couple of days at a time. What do you think?

Oh and he's also not drinking from now until i have the baby in case he needs to drive - is this a bit excessive?? lol x

 

[Nanc]

I think he sounds lovely! And he is being sensible... he obviously wants to make sure he's there for you no matter what. If he goes away working he could end up cutting it fine for the birth or even missing it. While the cash might be handy, it will be soon gone, but memories of your little one being born will stay with you forever. You have to ask yourselves is it worth the risk? I would want my OH nearby for the two weeks before DD and until the birth (in fact he's bearly allowed to leave my side at the mo and gave up drinking when I did... it's only fair!) x

 

[clairebear22]

Sensible with the not drinking but catch 22 with the working a few hours away. The money great, the distance not so great! I think i'd say to my OH to go and do the work but to have is mobile on and fully charged at all times.
I'm so lucky though because he's self employed so can make sure he's in the local area running up to my due date x

 

[heidi-hi]

I agree with Nanc... I haven't really got much advice as the situation i am in is kinda out of my hands. But I will say that if I could I'd defo have him as close as possible just incase! This subject is making me more anxious at the moment than the actual birth!

Hope u manage to come to a decision soon, and as for the drinking thing I don't think it's excessive, especially if he does go to work away!

Xxx

 

[midnight]

i actually agree with your OH
you could go into labour at any minute so the closer he is to you the better

 

[cherelle]

thanks girls! I didnt expect you all to agree with him lol

I think ill say that he can go up to 38 weeks as im unlikely to go into labour before then x

 

[pinkymum]

Awww he sounds like such a nice guy. I'd want my OH to be as close as possible. I've already made sure Krista doesn't go anywhere in May, and I fixed her phone to make sure her ringer is on loud. She's even got a wee bag packed........I'm not a control freak really

 

[bethx]

I wouldnt mnind him being a few hours away really as long as I knew he had his phone on him at all times, but if hes more comfortable not going then I say keep him around It will be you last few week of just you two anyway so you should enjoy it .. dont worry about the extra money as someone else said that will be gone quick but having him there will be worth it

 

[xshauna_bazx]

I agree with the drinking, also if he is only a few hours away and you could do with the extra money why not...but its just whatever your comfortable with. I would probably be too scared to let OH go that far away after 37 week myself. Completely upto you and your OH though. xxx

 

[Vicxzy]

Keep him close after 38 Cherelle hunni!
OH is working when I'm due & he cant have his phone on at work but I'm hoping they will let him for once!
Also my other birth partner my Mum is a Teacher & has been told she has to go on a residential course abt 3.5 hrs away from us the week I'm due! The head wont move on it & says she has to go x

 

[cherelle]

Aww Vic thats unfortunate - i hope they let your OH leave his phone on at work!!! Thats very harsh if they dont! x

 

[Vicxzy]

I know! The Headteacher is new & I think shes just trying to stamp her authority on everyone by being a big bitch! I feel pretty sure theyll let him keep it on but we dont know def yet eek!x

 

[Cantstop]

Hmm in contrast to others, I'd say send him off to make extra money! I just can't imagine it being all over in less than a good few hours so he should be back in plenty of time to see the main event. I suppose it would depend on how much you need the money though. It is lovely that he's so keen to be there to help and the not drinking.

 

[snr1982]

awww he sounds well lovely. i have no advice really coz i would probably say the same to my other half. Even though i would want him to be around all the time just in case something happenes, i would probably still tell him to go as the money would be very handy. I think you should just let him decide and just say your happy with whatever he wants to do. . My other half works nights and has no phone reception out at where he works, so i can't call him even if i wanted too lol. no sure what is going to happen if he is working and im in labour. lol . he is only about 10-15 mins away though so could always send someone to get him. hehe.

 

[Roo3]

I'm in a similar situation. My OH's work means that even though he is self employed the majority of his work is away from home. Recently he's been super busy away from home so I've hardly seen him, he's still got loads on and in only home 1 day in the next 10.
We struck a deal that he's not to go more than an hour away from now until the baby is here. Although I'd prefer to have him here, the money is so welcome at the moment and he should be able to get home in time if I do go into labour.
The main problem I've found is that I end up getting bored at home by myself. Due to health issues I can't really go out for long stretches of time, and all my friends work during the week so spend most of my time on my own.