Having no luck :(

[Kaz1984]

Hello all,

Well I've not been on here since 2015 so i thought i'd come back and say hey .

So me and my boyfriend have been trying to conceive since July 2015 and here we are not far off 2 years of trying and no such luck as yet. We have had a few appointments at the Infertility Clinic, 1st time was just an introductory appointment. Next appointment i got an internal ultrasound and i was told my womb etc was fine and looked good. My boyfriend has had his sperm tested and we are just awaiting the results. I am hoping and praying that everything is ok, he had his sperm tested by his own GP and it came back normal, but the infertility clinics must go into more depth and detail which i guess is why he was asked to provide a 2nd sample. My periods have always been irregular so the doctor gave me a tablet to make me have a period which did work and i was on a period for about 4 days so if it's on track then my period should be due 14th April. We made love on the 27th March (which is almost 2 weeks ago) and since then I've took a few pregnancy tests which came back negative but i think i tested too early so i'm going to give it till period due date and see what happens. If nothing, then i will take a test. I really don't want to have to go down the IVF route, i am hoping it is just taking it's time and we can conceive naturally. Also when i was at the clinic i was told that i will need to loose at least 3 stone before i am even considered for IVF because of my BMI. So i am persevering with the weight loss and so far since 27th January i have lost almost a stone .

I was just wondering if anyone had any advice or hints/tips apart from making love every few days and keeping an eye on periods and discharge ?

Any advice would be appreciated please

Thanks

 

[xMillie]

Hey, welcome back!
I don't really have much advice to give as I'm still here and still trying too! Boo
But for now I'd say just keep doing what you're doing, every 2 or 3 days is good, it can just sometimes happen naturally after along time for some people.

Have you had bloods to check you ovulate? And a hsg to check your tubes are clear?

 

[Oneday x]

Hi both,
Sorry I don't really have any words of wisdom for you, but wanted to wish you lots of luck.
My husband and I started trying in August 2015 so a moth later than you, and so far nothing is happening 😒 I'm taking it really badly especially when so many people around me are having babies so easily but I'm trying to keep optimistic.
Fingers crossed the tests are all ok for you, if the initial sperm tests were ok there will be no problem with this second set - my husband also had to do them a second time when we were referred to the fertility specialist I think that must just be routine. All tests were normal for us but I have under active thyroid and high thyroid antibodies which I think may be what's causing us problems x

 

[poppy86]

I really don't want to have to go down the IVF route, i am hoping it is just taking it's time and we can conceive naturally. Also when i was at the clinic i was told that i will need to loose at least 3 stone before i am even considered for IVF because of my BMI.

Wow 3 stone? That's a big ask. Congratulations on already losing a stone as that's a massive achievement. It doesn't come easily for some. I've just been put on statins for high cholesterol. I've been told I'm overweight although the average weight for a woman my age is 11 stone and that's what I weigh. I'm short though so it looks like I weight more

I think now would be a good time to take another, reliable pregnancy test - maybe that one that tells you how many weeks? If it comes up positive and 2 weeks then you know it's a good'un. If it's inconclusive, as you say, wait for AF and try again.

Good luck to you!

I'm also hoping this will come naturally to us and not have to go down the IVF route. We have both decided if it can't be done naturally, we won't go through IVF.

 

[miamia]

Hi, I can't be of much help, just wanted to wish good luck with yr journey and say you shouldn't be afraid of ivf. A close friend of mine got pregnant thanks to ivf with pgs ngs and has a gorgeous baby.

 

[Kaz1984]

Hi Millie, thank you for your reply.

I feel your pain with the waiting. Yes I've had numerous blood tests and one result is my red blood cells are high/low and then next time my white blood cells are high/low so i can never win, lol. I have never had a HSG test to be honest. We have an appointment in June back at the infertility clinic but i have no idea what this appointment is for, it could possibly be just a check up to see how much weight i have lost by then but i am looking forward to the appointment. I really thought i would be able to conceive naturally but i have heard there is nothing wrong with IVF. I watch the real housewives of orange county and there is a woman called Meghan and she is (well at the time 30 years old) and she is probably about a size 6/8 and she had to go through IVF because her husband had a vasectomy so i guess it is different for everyone. I will just have to keep doing what im doing. Really hoping to be pregnant before my appointment in June . I hate the fact that the clinic is call the "infertility" clinic because i have never been told by the doctor that either of us are infertile. Because my aunt flo decides to turn up whenever she wants it is hard for me to try and keep track of her arrival and when i am ovulating. I do have an app called EVE on my mobile but this is hard to use as well because of the irregular time of the months.

Is there anything you are doing differently to me if i can ask please?

Thanks

 

[Kaz1984]

Hi Oneday,

Aww thank you very much, that is much appreciated

Yeah i get really disheartened when i think there is even a possibility that i could be pregnant and then when i take a test, it's negative . I am trying to
keep positive spirits though. My boyfriend is awaiting results of a more in depth sperm test which was done at the fertility clinic. He had already done
a sperm test at his local GP and when he got his results he was told everything looked good. I am sorry to hear you are having troubles with your thyroid,
you should maybe ask your doctor if there is something you can get which will make your thyroid medication not interfere with you trying to get pregnant.

Best of luck x

 

[Kaz1984]

Hi Poppy,

Yes tell me about it lol but thanks, i plan to keep going and seeing what i can loose before my appointment in June so i've got like 7 weeks to loose more weight. I don't understand if you are your weight for your age then how can your doctor class you as being overweight ?. That's just not right in my opinion. I am short as well lol... im 5ft 2/3. Well i am going to take a test over the weekend as aunt flo was due today if i calculated it right and she's not appeared as yet so i might give it a few days then test or i might give it a week then test.

My advice would be just to have as much fun as possible and enjoy it and im sure it will happen when you least expect it

Take care x

 

[xMillie]

It doesn't sound like there is anything I've done different to you no.

I have been taking pre-pregnancy vitamins (was taking seven seas trying for a baby but now using pregnacare) but of course they won't get you pregnant just provide your body with the vitamins you need or lack.

I think our only difference is bmi, mine was only just 18.5 before my first ivf round but I've gained weight since then I think it's more like 20 or 21 now. I personally don't believe weight/bmi really makes a difference though!


Hope you are able to get that bfp soon x

 

[Oneday x]

Hi Kaz,
I'm sure if the GP said that everything looked good he will be just fine, the fertility clinic will just be double checking it all. Have you had the results yet?
What is your appointment for in June do you know? Have you had the hormonal blood tests and ultrasound done yet?
I start IVF at the end of August and although it is probaby the scariest thing I have ever had to face, I am also counting down the days and praying that it happens naturally for us before then. I am seeing a specialist about my thyroid and he said there's nothing that can be done about the antibodies but my medication is all being monitored so I will have it checked again before th IVF starts (I have to show th clinic my paperwork to prove my levels are ok before they start the process anyway)!
3 girls at work announced they are pregnant in th last month and now I feel like I can't even use work to distract myself from it all, it's so tough xx

 

[MoominGirl]

No real words of wisdom here but just wanted to wish you all luck on your journeys.

Now that we've started getting tests, it seems to be problem after problem. I have to be honest and say I'm not dealing with it particularly well but keeping busy really does help. I'm sorry work is so tough at the moment Oneday as I know what a good distraction it can be for me. Now that we've got an appointment with the fertility clinic, it also gives me something to focus on. Unfortunately AF is due Sunday. I've already prepared OH for misery lol. Think we will go out Saturday as I know he will deserve it!!

 

[poppy86]

My advice would be just to have as much fun as possible and enjoy it and im sure it will happen when you least expect it Take care x

If only... he's being treated for erectile dysfunction. Has no testosterone and poor pituitary function / no cortisol levels.

How have things been the past few weeks anyway? any news to share?

 

[Kaz1984]

Hey all. Time for an update me thinks. Hey girls

Well was at hospital with my boyfriend on Tuesday for IVF consultant appointment. The consultant went through our test results and everything is fantastic. No problems with us at all and i was really happy with my boyfriend's results which i was a bit concerned about because we have been trying for just over 2 years and nothing has happened. So that's that part out the way, no more tests hopefully. The consultant gave me goal weights, 1 for investigation and 1 goal weight to be able to receive IVF. I have 1 year to loose 5 stone but to be honest i have saw women a lot bigger than myself and they can have a baby no problem so i don't understand it. I think because the IVF would be on the NHS i think they want you to do something to be able to work first time around? That's the conclusion i have came to. i might be wrong, who knows.

I can sympathise when girls at work announce their pregnancy and there are people like yourself and me who have been trying without success but i believe 100% in the saying that everything happens for a reason so i just keep telling myself that and it seems to help a little.

My AF was due 1st June and nothing happened, i was getting light pink on toilet tissue when i was going to the loo, that happened for most of that day and then i got the same thing on 2nd June. 3rd June i was back to "normal" if you like and then over the next few days i just didn't feel right at all. I was really tired, hungry, and had a few headaches. I took a test when i got home from hospital on Tuesday 6th June but it came back negative. These were tests i bought
from the £1 shop lol ive been told these work just as good as the tests the doctors use at the surgery so i thought why not. I took another test yesterday on my lunch hour at work but i don't think it worked right, that test came back negative as well. Thursday night when i got home from work i had to lie down on the couch, i wasn't feeling 100% and about an hour or so passed by and i was having excruciating stomach cramp, now this is when i thought AF was on her way but yet again nothing came of it... the pains were more painful than period cramp, period cramp i can deal with but i have never experienced this kind of pain ever. The pain finally eased of. Today i am 10 days late so i think i am going to wait till Wednesday and i will be 14 days late and take a test again. The consultant said each time if my period doesn't show ive to take a test. I think after the 3rd test if i don't get a positive pregnancy result i will just take it to be that i am not pregnant and that my periods have gone back to being irregular.

I have always been irregular with my periods but the past 3 months i was getting into a cycle and i knew when my periods were going to be due but i don't understand what that was on 1st and 2nd june with light pink on toilet tissue. I was actually thinking that might have been implantation bleeding but who knows.

How are things with you all ?
xx

 

[Oneday x]

Hi Kaz,
How are you doing? Great news that all of the tests came back ok and that the clinic didn't find anything to be worried about��
Sorry to hear about the cramps you were suffering, did you find out what caused them? Did you take any more tests after that?

AF started this morning so I'm feeling a bit down today, it means I only have 2 cycles left to conceive naturally before the whole IVF process starts and i can't even begin to put into works how frightened I am. When we were given an IVF date over 6 months ago I always thought of it as a "back up plan" but now it just seems so much more real and I don't know how I'm going to cope with it all xxx