Have any of you LTTC's ever taken a break?

[MissKW]

Have any of you long termer's feet like you needed a break?

It's been 5 years for us this summer, I have never felt like I needed a break before and we are due to start clomid next cycle (just waiting on af to show), but yesterday it just hit me! I feel so drained and sad. I'm seriously considering taking a break. Iv'e never wanted to before or felt like I could actually stop trying but I just feel like this has consumed the last 5 years of my life and I might never be a mum and I need to learn to be ok with that.

I don't know where all this has come from. Do you have any experiences to share?

Were planning on getting married next year (have been engaged a few years) and I feel like it could be a nice distraction. Haven't spoken to OH yet about really taking a break, I know he will be gutted but supportive. I just cant take another Christmas time full of disappointment's and bfns. I feel like I cant take it anymore.

Any one have any advice?

Thanks for reading. x

I'm so sorry that its taking you so long, I am not a long term TTC but we did try for a good year or so after loosing our first before we decided to take a break (also to get married!). Myself and my partner are both in our mid 20s so only young but we had no luck at all when trying, though I know it wasn't a long time compared to you guys. It was heart breaking and exhausting, we had been engaged for about a year and decided we might as well have some time off, get married and then get back to trying, so that's exactly what we did. We had 10 months of playing it safe and then as the wedding approached we had 1 random night of careless passion and afterwards joked that it was around 'that time', but as we had no luck trying we thought nothing of it.
A couple of weeks later I just had this feeling and decided to take one of the cheapy HCG tests I had left from before, there were 2 lines. I didn't believe it so did another, and another. I am now 15weeks 3days, from just that one day!! I was 8 weeks when we married and I felt horrific, and it made the honeymoon difficult as I felt so ill (we also had to change our destination last minute as our original honeymoon had risk of zika) but we are soooo happy, that break and random day of love were the best things we did.
I do think that trying can backfire on a lot of us, it is stressful and heart breaking and before long it isn't so fun anymore and becomes a chore. We didn't try the first time and obviously didn't try this time, I don't think trying worked for us and I have heard the same from sooo many other people. Taking a break from it can be one of the best things you can do.
I also know people who had many years of infertility and had IVF to conceive their first child, then afterwards when they weren't trying managed to conceive naturally. I do think its the pressure of trying that stops it from actually happening.
My advice to you is if you want a break, take a break! Plan your wedding, enjoy life and your partner, don't take things too seriously and just have fun with each other. Don't force anything, if you both feel like a night of passion then go for it, if not, just go to sleep lol.
Good luck with your wedding, and I'm sure it will happen for you before you know it x