Have any of you LTTC's ever taken a break?

[maythe4thbewit]

Have any of you long termer's feet like you needed a break?

It's been 5 years for us this summer, I have never felt like I needed a break before and we are due to start clomid next cycle (just waiting on af to show), but yesterday it just hit me! I feel so drained and sad. I'm seriously considering taking a break. Iv'e never wanted to before or felt like I could actually stop trying but I just feel like this has consumed the last 5 years of my life and I might never be a mum and I need to learn to be ok with that.

I don't know where all this has come from. Do you have any experiences to share?

Were planning on getting married next year (have been engaged a few years) and I feel like it could be a nice distraction. Haven't spoken to OH yet about really taking a break, I know he will be gutted but supportive. I just cant take another Christmas time full of disappointment's and bfns. I feel like I cant take it anymore.

Any one have any advice?

Thanks for reading. x

 

[lillith112]

Have any of you long termer's feet like you needed a brake?

It's been 5 years for us this summer, I have never felt like I needed a brake before and we are due to start clomid next cycle (just waiting on af to show), but yesterday it just hit me! I feel so drained and sad. I'm seriously considering taking a break. Iv'e never wanted to before or felt like I could actually stop trying but I just feel like this has consumed the last 5 years of my life and I might never be a mum and I need to learn to be ok with that.

I don't know where all this has come from. Do you have any experiences to share?

Were planning on getting married next year (have been engaged a few years) and I feel like it could be a nice distraction. Haven't spoken to OH yet about really taking a break, I know he will be gutted but supportive. I just cant take another Christmas time full of disappointment's and bfns. I feel like I cant take it anymore.

Any one have any advice?

Thanks for reading. x

I feel like I am in exactly the same place as you. It's not been as long for me, 3yrs ttc in January. Every month is full of hope only to be completely devastated when af arrives. I have tried every pill and potion going, 3 months of soy isoflavins and still nothing. I don't have time on my side, 45yrs old and for the first time I feel like I really don't want to try anymore and I don't actually mind if we miss the fertile times, whereas before I would be devastated and feel like it was the end of the world. I am fed up of trying so hard for nothing as all it does is put so much stress and pressure on me. TTC is supposed to be an enjoyable experience, but it has completely drained the life out of me. I think we will go to NTNP from here, with no hopes or expectations, just enjoy each other. Hugs to you, it's not an easy road, and you know what they say is, when you give up trying that's when it usually happens. xx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Have any of you long termer's feet like you needed a brake?

It's been 5 years for us this summer, I have never felt like I needed a brake before and we are due to start clomid next cycle (just waiting on af to show), but yesterday it just hit me! I feel so drained and sad. I'm seriously considering taking a break. Iv'e never wanted to before or felt like I could actually stop trying but I just feel like this has consumed the last 5 years of my life and I might never be a mum and I need to learn to be ok with that.

I don't know where all this has come from. Do you have any experiences to share?

Were planning on getting married next year (have been engaged a few years) and I feel like it could be a nice distraction. Haven't spoken to OH yet about really taking a break, I know he will be gutted but supportive. I just cant take another Christmas time full of disappointment's and bfns. I feel like I cant take it anymore.

Any one have any advice?

Thanks for reading. x

I feel like I am in exactly the same place as you. It's not been as long for me, 3yrs ttc in January. Every month is full of hope only to be completely devastated when af arrives. I have tried every pill and potion going, 3 months of soy isoflavins and still nothing. I don't have time on my side, 45yrs old and for the first time I feel like I really don't want to try anymore and I don't actually mind if we miss the fertile times, whereas before I would be devastated and feel like it was the end of the world. I am fed up of trying so hard for nothing as all it does is put so much stress and pressure on me. TTC is supposed to be an enjoyable experience, but it has completely drained the life out of me. I think we will go to NTNP from here, with no hopes or expectations, just enjoy each other. Hugs to you, it's not an easy road, and you know what they say is, when you give up trying that's when it usually happens. xx

I know yeah fx for you too!

Oh I know, its just horrible isn't it. I tried Soya iso's too, did noting for me, just added it to the long list of other potions that didn't work too!

I feel the same, even last cycle when I O'd we were one day off O, and I was devo cause we'd missed it! I'm always devo when we miss it because Iv'e only O'd 3 times in the last three years of tracking, and it's always been different cycle days so unless im taking opks's like a mad woman, we never have any idea when I'm in my fertile period.

I know, were both stressed too. I'm fed up of feeling bitter and jealous over pregnancy announcements of people I know! Makes me feel so horrible and nasty when I'm constantly saying to myself "how is that fair".

Even when we have been relaxed about it saying what ever happens happens, I end up testing and symptom spotting like a mad woman! But now, I really just feel like I can't so it anymore! It's exhausting. I just feel so sad again this morning. I need to come to terms with the possibility of never having kids because this is consuming me.

It help's to have this site to get my feelings out because OH isn't a feelingsy person lol xx

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[maythe4thbewit]

I've even fallen off the diet in the last few days haha! I just feel like I don't care anymore!

 

[lillith112]

Blimey, the times we have missed ovulation too, I think every cycle this year so far. My OH lives 260 miles away as he is fulltime carer for his mum, so its a military operation timing fertile days, we always miss it as I ovulate too late or too early.

I've tried alkaline diet's as thats supposed to improve conception, lost over a stone, nothing makes a blind bit of difference, same as you, I'm just eating whatever I want now, I honestly can't be bothered with it all. xx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Blimey, the times we have missed ovulation too, I think every cycle this year so far. My OH lives 260 miles away as he is fulltime carer for his mum, so its a military operation timing fertile days, we always miss it as I ovulate too late or too early.

I've tried alkaline diet's as thats supposed to improve conception, lost over a stone, nothing makes a blind bit of difference, same as you, I'm just eating whatever I want now, I honestly can't be bothered with it all. xx

Well, I lost 8 and a half stone last year, Low carbing it, cardio 6 times a week and walking the doggies 8 miles a day, and it did not make a single bit of difference for me! useless.

Feel like stuffing my face with pizza and wine

I'm just so fed up lol, nothing blooming works! So annoying missing the day isnt it!

OH works 12 hour day shifts and im on 14 hour night shifts as of this month so, as you can imagine theres not been much BD recently. Not that it makes a difference when im not Oing anyway. Currently on CD90.

x

 

[snowbee]

I often thought why the hell are we not catching a break when it is seemingly so easy for others but we never stopped trying as age was not on our side. I also would have found it harder to stop than to have kept going.

I hope af arrives for you soon and you can get underway with the clomid, fingers crossed it will give your body the boost it needs.

 

[maythe4thbewit]

I often thought why the hell are we not catching a break when it is seemingly so easy for others but we never stopped trying as age was not on our side. I also would have found it harder to stop than to have kept going.

I hope af arrives for you soon and you can get underway with the clomid, fingers crossed it will give your body the boost it needs.

I totally get what you mean, Iv'e always thought that I wouldn't actually be able to stop trying but im just so P****d off lol! Just cant deal with it today!

You have a Clomid baby don't you snowbee? How many cycles of clomid did it take you?

Ugh I know. I don't want to have to go back to the private clinic for provera and pay more again, and the GP doesnt seem bothered at all again, they have always been useless. When I was bleeding non stop for like 10 months two years ago, they weren't concerned abit and told me it was normal with pcos. Had to fight to get referred and by the time I did, it had stopped lol.

Maybe I'll get some progesterone cream offline and take that for two weeks and then stop and see if AF starts

xx

 

[lillith112]

Blimey, the times we have missed ovulation too, I think every cycle this year so far. My OH lives 260 miles away as he is fulltime carer for his mum, so its a military operation timing fertile days, we always miss it as I ovulate too late or too early.

I've tried alkaline diet's as thats supposed to improve conception, lost over a stone, nothing makes a blind bit of difference, same as you, I'm just eating whatever I want now, I honestly can't be bothered with it all. xx

Well, I lost 8 and a half stone last year, Low carbing it, cardio 6 times a week and walking the doggies 8 miles a day, and it did not make a single bit of difference for me! useless.

Feel like stuffing my face with pizza and wine

I'm just so fed up lol, nothing blooming works! So annoying missing the day isnt it!

OH works 12 hour day shifts and im on 14 hour night shifts as of this month so, as you can imagine theres not been much BD recently. Not that it makes a difference when im not Oing anyway. Currently on CD90.

x

Wow over 8 stone !!!, much respect to you for that. Pizza and wine sounds awesome.

Longest I didn't have af for was 12 months, started 8 capsules a day evening primrose oil and they came back like clockwork. I'll tell you what also works, get some fresh parsley, put it all in a bowl with boiled water out of the kettle, let it steep for half an hour, drink that mixture and I bet you your period will start in a few days, works every time for me. xx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Blimey, the times we have missed ovulation too, I think every cycle this year so far. My OH lives 260 miles away as he is fulltime carer for his mum, so its a military operation timing fertile days, we always miss it as I ovulate too late or too early.

I've tried alkaline diet's as thats supposed to improve conception, lost over a stone, nothing makes a blind bit of difference, same as you, I'm just eating whatever I want now, I honestly can't be bothered with it all. xx

Well, I lost 8 and a half stone last year, Low carbing it, cardio 6 times a week and walking the doggies 8 miles a day, and it did not make a single bit of difference for me! useless.

Feel like stuffing my face with pizza and wine

I'm just so fed up lol, nothing blooming works! So annoying missing the day isnt it!

OH works 12 hour day shifts and im on 14 hour night shifts as of this month so, as you can imagine theres not been much BD recently. Not that it makes a difference when im not Oing anyway. Currently on CD90.

x

Wow over 8 stone !!!, much respect to you for that. Pizza and wine sounds awesome.

Longest I didn't have af for was 12 months, started 8 capsules a day evening primrose oil and they came back like clockwork. I'll tell you what also works, get some fresh parsley, put it all in a bowl with boiled water out of the kettle, let it steep for half an hour, drink that mixture and I bet you your period will start in a few days, works every time for me. xx

I'm feeling way more positive now! Especially after ranting on here to you lot haha! Just messaged OH and said I'm gonna try and hurry AF up so we can start the clomid and hes excited now haha bless him!

Ugh even after all that weight gone the NHS still won't give me the clomid though lol, even though I have no health issues, all my bloods (except for hormones) are perfect, lipids, Cholesterol, Liver function ect. I'm fit, active and relatively healthy. Went to the private clinic, they didn't even mention my weight, asked them about it and they didn't even think it was an issue, and it was so much quicker. (last appointment I had with NHS was in feb for HSG, and nothing off them since)

Oooh, I'll have to get some parsley!

Ahhh I've got some evening primrose oil here, in the kitchen, do you think I should go take some haha? 8 capsules is alot isnt it? lol xx

 

[xMillie]

Whenever I say I'm taking a break deep down I know it's not really a break and there is still that little bit of hope that it could just happen.

I've said we're on a break from now until we go back in for our Frozen Embryo Transfer just because I don't think it will happen naturally again so there's no point in really 'trying'. But of course I'm still a tiny bit hopeful..
It's so frustrating!!

We got married in Feb and didn't bother preventing in any of the months before, period was due on my wedding day so had to take norethisterone and after that it took a while for my period to come back so I got hopeful then too!! ugh!

I find it so hard to switch off from it completely.. think I need a REALLY distracting hobby lol.
xx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Whenever I say I'm taking a break deep down I know it's not really a break and there is still that little bit of hope that it could just happen.

I've said we're on a break from now until we go back in for our Frozen Embryo Transfer just because I don't think it will happen naturally again so there's no point in really 'trying'. But of course I'm still a tiny bit hopeful..
It's so frustrating!!

We got married in Feb and didn't bother preventing in any of the months before, period was due on my wedding day so had to take norethisterone and after that it took a while for my period to come back so I got hopeful then too!! ugh!

I find it so hard to switch off from it completely.. think I need a REALLY distracting hobby lol.
xx

Haha, I'm exactly like that! I say im not but secretly I am, but this morning I really did feel like I just couldn't do it anymore (Might have been something to due with about 10 people announcing they are pregnant with their 2/3/4 baby on facebook) lol.

Feel a little better now. Were planning a small wedding for April/May next year so I'm hoping that will take my mind off it but I doubt it lol. Iv'e said to myself that we will try this round of clomid and if it doesnt work then we will wait until after the wedding to continue with it. (not sure how long that'll last though lol) Not sure how dtd is going to work with doing opposite overlapping shifts though... Hmmm...

Glad Iv'e got my dogs to snuggle to for now.

Iv'e got progesterone cream somewhere from before. Think Ill take a hpt (Just in case) Later, and then start that up for a week or so and then stop and see if AF comes so we can start the clomid on CD2-6 That's the days the doctor gave anyway. Do you think there'll be any issues taking clomid after this cycle being so long? (on CD91 now).

xx

 

[lillith112]

Yes 8 capsules is a lot, that was back when you could get it prescribed by a Dr, it was called efamol, it was also for breast pain, I started with 4 capsules twice a day for 6 weeks, then tapered down to 4, then 2. I would seriously try the parsley tea, tastes absolutely rank but it honestly works. Have a google about it. I'm so glad you feel better, it does help to have a rant. I'm glad you feel more positive and are going to try clomid, meanwhile I've still given up trying lol. xx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Yes 8 capsules is a lot, that was back when you could get it prescribed by a Dr, it was called efamol, it was also for breast pain, I started with 4 capsules twice a day for 6 weeks, then tapered down to 4, then 2. I would seriously try the parsley tea, tastes absolutely rank but it honestly works. Have a google about it. I'm so glad you feel better, it does help to have a rant. I'm glad you feel more positive and are going to try clomid, meanwhile I've still given up trying lol. xx

I'm going to google the parsley tea now!

I'm going to try the progesterone cream again, it's worked before, I forgot I had some lol. And then do the parsley tea lol! Not sure how dtd, and tracking bbt are going to work with these night shifts

Hmmm xx

 

[snowbee]

Yes I do, 7th cycle of clomid for me. I was originally given 6 cycles, I did ovulate on them so asked for more (as they say after 12 cycles over 90% of couples conceive, so I wanted the same chance as a 'normal' person) and was given three more cycles and then was offered 3 of letrozole, which would be my full 12 cycles before trying ivf. 7th time lucky.

Having your wedding booked is great, means this cycle will work and you will be huge and grumpy on your wedding day

I'm unsure about starting clomid without a bleed although I have heard of it being done. I would def get follicle tracking scans done on your first cycle so you know how the clomid is working for you.

 

[liz85]

I tried taking a break but it was still in the back of my mind. I just don't use ovulation kits ATM. We are two years trying now feels like it will. Ever happen for us xxx

 

[broody2013]

Hi yes I was forced to take a break as I ended up getting very ill with depression and anxiety and needed to be on medication for a while so I took a 9 month break. I wish we had taken one sooner as maybe I could have avoided getting so I’ll but I have had depression and and off for years, TTC just added to it rather than causing it so hopefully that won’t happen with you. Ironically we have now been on an 11 month ‘break’ as my body has stopped having periods all together! But that’s obviously outside of my control. Massive hugs to you, it is very hard waiting for so long and I think we tend to put too much pressure on ourselves when we don’t get a BFP. I find planning mini breaks and holidays or even just a day trip in the car helps to keep me stable as it’s something else to focus on xxx

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Haha, I can hope right? Oh yeah, im getting it tracked. Havent started the progesterone yet, being on nights ia screwing me up and I keep forgetting to take it lol.

When I told OH i wanted to take a break after the next cycle he was like why? And then was like ok, whatever you say. Think he's coming round to the idea now though xx

Yes I do, 7th cycle of clomid for me. I was originally given 6 cycles, I did ovulate on them so asked for more (as they say after 12 cycles over 90% of couples conceive, so I wanted the same chance as a 'normal' person) and was given three more cycles and then was offered 3 of letrozole, which would be my full 12 cycles before trying ivf. 7th time lucky.

Having your wedding booked is great, means this cycle will work and you will be huge and grumpy on your wedding day

I'm unsure about starting clomid without a bleed although I have heard of it being done. I would def get follicle tracking scans done on your first cycle so you know how the clomid is working for you.

 

[maythe4thbewit]

I tried taking a break but it was still in the back of my mind. I just don't use ovulation kits ATM. We are two years trying now feels like it will. Ever happen for us xxx

Opks never really work for me, probably because I'm not Oing rhough. I tend to jist bbt. Will have to get some for this cycle though. Good luck! X

 

[maythe4thbewit]

Hi yes I was forced to take a break as I ended up getting very ill with depression and anxiety and needed to be on medication for a while so I took a 9 month break. I wish we had taken one sooner as maybe I could have avoided getting so I’ll but I have had depression and and off for years, TTC just added to it rather than causing it so hopefully that won’t happen with you. Ironically we have now been on an 11 month ‘break’ as my body has stopped having periods all together! But that’s obviously outside of my control. Massive hugs to you, it is very hard waiting for so long and I think we tend to put too much pressure on ourselves when we don’t get a BFP. I find planning mini breaks and holidays or even just a day trip in the car helps to keep me stable as it’s something else to focus on xxx

Sorry to hear about your troubles. So hard isnt it?

Aww thank you, hugs to you too!

Yeah im hoping the wedding ans honeymoon is going to take my mind off it. Xx