hard topic to talk about...need advice

[youngmumtobe20]

hiya, ok.. basically i used to have/still do have an eating disorder.I've never been underweight, but i did lose 3 stone in 6 months due to starvation and binge/purging (throwing up). Obviously when i found out i was pregnant i started to eat normally, and when i did i just ciuldnt stop, it was like id finally said after soo long, here have a reward eat all u want. now ive out that 3 stone back on and im only 11 weeks, this has all been since april. Only now im finding it really difficult not to slip back into my old habits bcos i just feel so fat and ugly all the time, i dont think it would be so bad if i had a bump, but thats ages away and none of my clothes fit me anymore, even the ones tht were too big for me are getting tight. i know its all part and parcel of pregnancy but it agony for me. sorry for the long message but i needed to explain, and get it off my chest!

Anyway, what i really want to ask is would an 1800 calorie a day diet harm the baby? i need to have SOME of my control back but i dont want to put bubs at risk as this means the world to me.

 

[Jo]

I think the best thing to do would be to speak to your M/W or GP hun

Sorry no more advice but best of luck xx

 

[libs]

Yes it would without medical supervision. Basically because whilst you're still thinking that you need control by limiting your calories, you still have your eating disorder. And once you've limited it to 1800, then you'll reduce and reduce and reduce.
I had na eating disorder until I found out I was pregnant. I was over the first tri when I found out and had been hungrier than normal and trying and trying to cut down even more. Obviously this was the baby inside me calling out for food. From the day that I found out I ate normally, and piled on weight - because my body had been starving. After having him and continuing to try and eat normally, my body gradually settled down and lost most of the excess weight. You need to just get your body used to normal amounts of food

If youreally want to be healthy, eat healthy food. Don't count calories, eat 3 sensible meals a day and snack inbetween on fruit etc with occasional treats. Dieting won't make you better, it'll just start you on the binge starve cycle again - which it sounds like you already have. You're 11 weeks pregnant, your bump isn't far away at all, your clothes will get tight, buy maternity clothes or larger sizes and try to lose a little of that weight just by eating normally and accept that you will be a little bigger for a while.

I've also gained a lot of weight in a relatively short time since TTC - I stopped my v v v low fat diet and manic exercise. I hate it I worked hard this time to get thin again, but I could feel myself slipping into control mode again and so stopped. This time I'm determined to do it just with sensible eating. I would really really recommend seeing your MW or doctor and asking for help - they'll tell you everything you have to have each day and what an absence of things could do to a developing baby. Contact an eating disorders helpline and they'll be able to offer you support

Good luck and feel free to pm - I remember hating and loving my body at the same time when I was pregnant

 

[trixipaws]

i believe there are special diets for pregnant overweight women 2 safely lose weight without harming the baby, but i'm not sure people with eating disorders should be on any diet other than healthy eating. i think u need 2 confide in ur mw and/or gp 2 get counselling 4 ur problem, good luck hun

 

[Josephine_Beth]

Don't even think about it, sorry to be harsh when I say this;

You aer being VERY selfish and depriving your unborn child because YOU feel bad, is a very dangerous thing, are you sure youa re ready to be a mother? It seems like you may not be, still putting yourself first and not a thought towards your own baby.

Seek professional help ASAP, 1800 is not a safe thing for you whilst pregnant and yes, women can gain anything from 12 kilos to 24 kilos during a pregnancy.

Just think of it like this;

If you continue your habit during and after the birth, thus, indangering your child, social services can and will take that child away from you, I know a lady who this happened to.

Sorry to sound rude but the last thing you need is fluffy attention, straight talking is the only thing for you.

 

[youngmumtobe20]

Don't even think about it, sorry to be harsh when I say this;

You aer being VERY selfish and depriving your unborn child because YOU feel bad, is a very dangerous thing, are you sure youa re ready to be a mother? It seems like you may not be, still putting yourself first and not a thought towards your own baby.

Seek professional help ASAP, 1800 is not a safe thing for you whilst pregnant and yes, women can gain anything from 12 kilos to 24 kilos during a pregnancy.

Just think of it like this;

If you continue your habit during and after the birth, thus, indangering your child, social services can and will take that child away from you, I know a lady who this happened to.

Sorry to sound rude but the last thing you need is fluffy attention, straight talking is the only thing for you.

i have to say i totally resent that comment. i HAVE NOT been selfish at all, i starting eating what would be normal to you as soon as i started trying to conceive, and i dont think u appreciate what its like to gain weight when all thats on ur mind is losing weight. I asked for advice about 1800 cals becasuse i didnt want to harm bubs, that is the last thing i would want, and as ive had advice NOT to go that low i wont!

there are a lot of people out there with an eating disorder who would not be strong enough to eat a normal diet when pregnant, even if they wanted to, i think i've been incrdibly strong, and unselfish, and im sure that anyone who has been in my position would agree

 

[Baileysmummy]

I totally agree with you youngmumtobe, it is very hard.. no one knows but i do have a problem and without relishing to much, ive since lost too much weight since the birth of my son..im constantly thinking about how much weight i will put on, blah blah.. i was very good throughout my pregnancy but now i dont have a baby im starting to find it even easier to slip into my old ways.. some ppl would think im selfish cos im breastfeeding.. but if they dont understand what your going through then let them think that!
Talk to your midwife, if you need a chat at all pm me.. ive been in your shoes

 

[ella]

I understand what you are going through. I had bulemia for years, I have been more or less recovered for the last 3. Gaining weight is not easy for someone with an eating disorder. Since I have got pregnant I have gained a stone and a half, I couldnt stop eating, and eating crap is not going to help bubs either. I have started a healthy eating regime - I am not restricting calories but I am watching what I eat and exercising more. I eat whenever I am hungry but I am not stuffing myself. My weight gain has slowed down and I feel a lot better and fitter. I am doing this for my baby and that is what motivates me. PM me if you like hun.
I also think you should chat to your Gp & midwife - I did.

 

[mummykay]

talk to someone, eat properly without counting calories and put your own habits to one side, you've got a baby in here who needs a good home!!!!

ruin your body with baby in it and u could pay a high price for being selfish

 

[Tiffy]

I also suffer from an eating disorder, and I still struggle with the thoughts. I KNOW how tough it is to keep eating, even if you have a beautiful baby to motivate you. Please eat what your body asks you to eat. Stay in tune with your body, eat healthy, exercise in moderation. If you gain weight (which you definately will), accept it as what your body needs at this point.

I am doing exactly the same. Let's eat and enjoy it. After I have my baby I will lose the weight I put on, but HEALTHILY. This is going to be the big change in my life.


Tiffany