Go take a long walk off a short pier, idiot.

[Bexybun]

My boyfriend is such a tw*t sometimes.

Quick background- this is a completely accidental pregnancy, but I knew as soon as I found out that I couldn't get rid of it- not avidly against abortions or anything (each to their own, I say) but we've had a lot of relationship problems in the last 3 months and I was 100% sure that a termination would just kill the relationship. At first he was completely against having the baby, purely for financial reasons, but he understood how strongly I felt about it and has come round now, and is all excited about the baby. But sometimes his original feelings show through, I guess.

Last night as we were getting into bed, I mentioned my sore boobs and how fed up I was of all the pain-in-the-arse symptoms of early pregnancy. His response?
"Don't blame me, it was your decision to have it."

1.- I wasn't 'blaming' anyone, d*uchebag, I was just moaning. I can't drink, smoke or have hot baths anymore, moaning is the only form or relaxation I have left.
2. - I am just as surprised by this pregnancy as you. I didn't plan it, didn't trick you and I certainly didn't force you to have sex with me, so STOP blaming me for all this.
3. - Everytime you say that to me, it just reminds me that you wanted to get rid of it. That makes me doubt mine and my children's entire future with you.

FFS, I thought we'd gotten over this.

 

[Bexybun]

Sorry for moaning don't get me wrong, I am over the moon excited about this baby, I just wish he'd share some enthusiasm.

 

[Lacey's Mummy]

My 1st wasn't planned and OH was a knob for the 1st half of the pregnancy then got excited at the end!
2nd pregnancy was planned, OH brought up the let's have another baby convo... 1st half of pregnancy he was a knob!
Men can't show there feelings straight away, I guess they can't feel the syptoms so it doesn't feel real to them!
Once the babies born though, they are great and I couldn't wish for a better father to my kids!
Hope you too manage to sort everything out x x

 

[evie_smith]

With my second he wasn't planned and he was a KS all the way through and till Z was 6 months old men ey!

 

[Bexybun]

That's what gets me, he is fantastic with my daughter- he took her on at 2 years and he has been amazing, done all the potty training, dummy weaning, education, everything he's just excelled at as a dad. They adore each other! But with this one he's already said how uninterested he's going to be in the beginning as he's not comfortable around babies, and I get that- I just wish he'd stop throwing the fact that he didn't want it in my face. You said you accepted that we are having this baby- so accept it.

 

[Froslass]

Guys are morons.

The sooner us women realise this, the better! lol

Although they can be great at times, they don't think the same way as we do, no matter how much we would like them to! My OH has pissed off to london this weekend with his best friend for the "experience" before he becomes a dad. I told him to go when when what I really meant was "Will you F**CK be going to London!!" lol x

Don't get me wrong, what your OH said to you was totally mean, and you should tell him so!!

But I'm sure once he realises that all these things and symptoms don't go away, and we're not just vying for sympathy things'll get better x

My pregnancy was accidental too, and now we are both excited about it. OH at first too wanted me to get rid of it, purely because of finances, so I understand what you mean there chick! x

Although we're both excited OH still hasn't really come round to the idea, wasn't really till my 12 weeks scan andwe saw it there that it seemed real x

For guys, it wont seem real until they see their little baba xx

Hang in there chick x Im sure things will get better x x xx

 

[emmaandamyleigh]

My oh was exactually the same then changed towards the end and when we had her he fell in love with her and he missed her so much as she was in hospital got impatient waiting on her getting better n to come home. This pregnancy was a complete shock I think it was coz we both were talking about it a few days b4 that we wanted another one and what worries we had, so I took a test thinking it would be neg but to get the opposite was a bit shocked considering I was in the shop toilet haha went back told him and showed him he was shocked but soon rushed down to tell his friends at work his dad and step mum weren't impressed but his mum sed she new all along tbh I really think he's looking forward to her coming he's not into shopping for her lol I think most men find it hard at first coz they'll be thinking about what they won't be able to do or what little tym they have left child free b4 baby comes men are weird creatures lol I was dead against abortion to and when I look at Amy and how much love and character she has I know I made the right choice same as this one to they'll both have the same love. My oh has never been around babies b4 Amy was born He also watched her being born to but he didn't want to cut the cord lol

 

[Bexybun]

Thanks guys, I feel a bit better now. It's nice to know I'm not the only one!

Since we talked he's been a bit quiet, don't know if that means he's taking it in or just biting his tongue, lol. We'll see. I just had such a sh*tty time with the first pregnancy, I want to have a good one this time. Dammit, I think I deserve it! Lol.