Getting tempted - Advice please!!!

[Jen & Her Men]

Its my 20 week scan in a few weeks and Hubby and i are getting very tempted to find out what the sex is, although I have always said (before getting pregnant and in the early stages) that I wouldnt want to know. But now Im not sure, and think it would be nice to know to buy clothes, do the nursery etc and cos Im just really curious! But the other part is telling me not too cos I think it would help me go through the labour if I didnt know what I was having - make me wanna push more I guess!!!
How did you guys reach a decision on finding out what your having cos i see loads of you have found out? ANd is there anyone who has decided not to find out? If so why?
Sorry to be so nosey! I just think it will help OH and i come to a decision.

xx

 

[BabyLove]

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[annaespana1]

I wanted to know 'cause I don't like yellow!
Seriously, we wanted to know just so we could prepare. Also the more we were trying to guess the more curious we became. It's an entirely personal choice though.
AnnaMaria and baby boy bump XX

 

[lisa&alex]

hahah yellow!!

we havent found out.. and i lvoe it!! cant wait to push it out and for hubby to tell me!! ahh tis gonna be amazing, i think its something u reall yhave to think aobut

 

[paradysso]

we want know to know so we can find out if we need to buy blue things or baby can use alanas hand me downs lol

plus we dont have a boys name, and there is none i like so i think it will take me the 20 weeks to decide on a name it was a boy

 

[Kimbo]

plus we dont have a boys name, and there is none i like so i think it will take me the 20 weeks to decide on a name it was a boy

haha same here!!

 

[emma28]

We wanted to know so that we could give it a name and start to bond, also so that we could get everything we need ready in good time.

It's a girl but, and we have no idea what to call her, nothing seems right...

 

[DebbieM]

We're NOT finding out, simply because I think it is all part and parcel of being pregnant and I really, really want to wait til the big day to find out what our special little Flump is!

I don't see a problem with anyone finding out though. It's really personal preference

 

[BabyLove]

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[Jen & Her Men]

The fact that the OH will be telling me the sex of our baby rather than a random sonographer is special to us. Team green for me !

Ooo I like that idea!! Although my DH may be that misty eyed he may not be able to tell whether its a girl or a boy. I did say that to him but in typical man fashion he was like "If its a boy there is NO way I will have trouble telling...chip off the old block!!" Men.

 

[Squiglet]

Its definitley a personal choice. I think people are very different in the way they feel towards their bumb

I dont understand why do people think they bond better when they know the sex? ...I feel bonded to my demonseed whether boy or girl...

I have to say, I'm the opposite, when I was pregnant with my daughter, I wasn't allowed to know the sex due to hospital policy. I didn't bond with the bump and the not knowing made me panic during labour...My ex had wanted to have a boy...and after all the trouble and panic of my labour it was really disheartening, to see the disappointment on his face.

This time round, I was adament to know... I really wasn't keen on having a boy, cos I knew what girls were like and already had all the clothes. So I needed to find out. Its given me time to get used to the idea and I have to say, I've started to bond with the baby this time. I've found that really strange....

 

[Squiglet]

I agree totally with you midna... I'm just weird... haven't you realised this yet..

Some people bond well with their bumps without the need to know the sex, my mum did... I'm always afraid that the baby will die and believe that if I keep my distance it will be less painful if it does... It's another reason why I won't get anything for the baby until I'm 24 weeks gone.

With Tia it was easy to distance myself because she was an "it" until she was born. This time it's been harder because it's a "he".

Also, I didn't get that overwhelming sense of love that women always talk about when their babies are born and first placed in their arms. I had to fall in love with her...and it took a couple of days where I had to bond. I have a funny feeling this time will be different, because I had a dream the other night about having the baby, and I really felt a rush of love when I held him and saw his face for the first time.

As for dopplers...I don't think they help you bond...I think they just stop you panicking everyday when you can't feel your baby move!

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