getting pnd again

[Baby2sky]

Im pretty sure im getting pnd again. My lo is only ten days old but i feel so down, horrible and exhausted. He doesnt sleep at all in the night. Just cries literally all night. I posted a thread a couple of days ago and tried all suggestions to no avail. He literally wont stop crying, we cant even sleep in shifts cos he wont settle on us.

When my daughter was born 2 years ago i suffered with bonding.due to a traumatic birth which contribited to the depression. I never felt love for her until over a year. This time i had a good birth and got that rush of love and felt on cloud 9, on top of the world but now its all gone again and i just feel robbed again of these precious early days. I dont know who to speak to, i dont have a hv yet, no midwife anymore, but besides what are they gonna do anyway? Nothing helped last time apart from time but i dont want this precious time spoilt again as this is my last child. And its affecting my daughter seeing me crying. So i feel even worse because of that.

 

[mylullaby]

Oh honey, I'm really sorry to hear you're struggling. You really MUST speak to someone about the way you're feeling. Get back in touch with your midwife or make an appt with your gp. There's lots they can do to support you / help you get through the tough times and out the other side. You could try contacting a charity like NCT to see if there's anything they can do to help? What you really must not do is try to deal with it alone. That's not going to do you or your babies any favours in the long run. Do you have plenty of support at home - from oh and/or family and friends? Talk to them about how you're feeling my lovely - don't bottle things up xxx

 

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Sorry to hear you're suffering Hun I'd echo what mylullaby said and try calling your old MW or gp, don't struggle on your own. Who supported you when you had pnd previously?

Sleep deprivation doesn't help but on a practical note (you may have done this already) stick with one idea for a few days to a week to really see if it makes a difference. If I remember you suspected colic and were thinkng about co sleeping?

We suspected the same with DD, we ended up buying a snuzpod crib which attaches to the bed and allows safe co sleeping...it was great as I was bfing. We put books under one end to raise it but tbh I spent ages holding her after feeding too...so long she was often hungry by the time I finally put her down!

Have night times improved any?
Xx

 

[MrsS143]

Why havent you got a HV yet? I thought they were to be with you by the end of the 1st week?
Ask for some help (although if your bf'ing its obviously harder)
What you need is probably a good sleep. Even if its a few hours kip in the afternoon. That, a hot drink/meal and a good shower. Youll feel a lot more human again x

 

[Emmajaine]

Just echoing what everyone else has said really, you don't need to deal with this alone.

There is help out there, you need to speak to someone about it. In all honesty your GP is probably your best bet, as they can talk you through the options available in your area, be that medication, counselling or a combination of the 2. I saw my GP about PND when my LG was 2 weeks old, went on medication and within 6 weeks I was able to enjoy being a mum, rather than just go through the motions

You have taken a big step by admitting you are finding it hard (so give yourself credit for that). Big hugs hun

Em x

 

[Baby2sky]

Thanks for all the advice and hugs ladies! Night times have become worse and today was absolute horrendous. I will phone my gp i think. Hv is coming on thursday x

 

[Emmajaine]

Sorry to hear it has been a bad day, hope it goes well at the doctors xx

 

[Goat]

Big hugs Hun. Hope today has been a bit brighter. You are a fab mum.xx