Getting me down

[welshhunni]

Hi girls,
Please help I feel really mean, I was so happy to think me and my partner are finally ready for a little baby of our own and my fiances uncle and his girlfriend have just announced that she is pregnant. They already have a 5 month old and now they have announced a further pregnancy.
I feel so mean to think I'm so jealous that they can try and concieve and now me and my partner are thinking of putting our trying on hold due to them being pregnant.
My fiances family are really close and I don't think it would be very fair, but we have both saved, planned and got ready for so long. Just feels like a right kick in the teeth, any suggestions to make us feel a little happier.
My partner has got really down in the dumps (with us both being only children I think we both always want and get what we want) but this has now got in our way!!
Sorry for writing all this but just needed to tell someone!
Thanks for reading!

 

[star fish]

Blimey, they must be super fertile, how extremely annoying!!

I would distance from them and concentrate on you. They will have a dreadful time with 2 small ones so close together, at least when you have your baby it will get loads of attention and love and not have to share it with another one straight away! Not sure if that is any help at all, but it is an upside?

Sounds like you are doing everything right and the two of you will be very happy when the next step happens, which it will!

 

[cosmicgirl]

I agree with Starfish, don't worry about what anyone else is doing, there will always be those worse/ better off than you. Concentrate on yourselves, good luck xxx

 

[p1nk11]

As above , if you both feel ready then do it & don't worry about anyone else xxx

 

[tinselcat]

Hiya

Well done on getting all your finances in order & all the other preparation - great to hear that your future little one has a secure future.

I don't understand why you need to put TTC on hold just because some other people (even if family) have announced they are expecting?

I empathise with the way you describe you are feeling (kick in the teeth), it may not be a "nice" thing to admit to, but I think it is natural. (e.g. I am the oldest out of all my cousins and I will be gutted if one of them announces they are expecting before me). Hopefully you'll soon have your own good news that you can celebrate & look forward to.

xx

 

[marley]

Hi Welsh Hunni,

Why do you need to wait now?

Its completely natural and normal to feel what you are feeling. Its really healthy that your exploring and recognising those feelings too. Your obviously a very reflective person. Your time will come, try not to punish yourself too much for having negative feelings, your time will come.

good luck xx

 

[Young Mum 21 x]

it can sometimes be a good thing to have a relative thats also pregnant.. me and my sister in law were due within 2 weeks of eachother.. but i went into labour 3 weeks early.. she had a boy 5 weeks later and their like brother and sister! the go to the same creche, and will be going to school in september together.. its lovley! all the best!! x

 

[jomc]

Dont put it off just cos theres someone in the family now PG... Im sure they wouldnt want u to put ur TTC on hold if they knew! Just go for it

 

[welshhunni]

Hi girls,
Thank you for all the comments and support. After much thought we have decided that we are still going to try. I am due to stop taking my pill, so it might even take a few months then anyway.
Thanks again for the cheer up, women see things in a different manner to men, hence feeling really annoyed lol, now the shock of it all has sunk in we don't think its such a bad thing after all.
Once again girleys thank you! xx

 

[cosmicgirl]

Glad you're feeling better hunnie, good luck for your bfp xxxx

 

[Young Mum 21 x]

x

 

[tinselcat]

Yay go for it hunni!!!

xx

 

[PrettyFx]

just because they got pregnant straight away, it doesnt mean that they are extremely fertile. When a woman has a baby, or even a miscarriage, her body is more fertile and ready to get pregnant again. Every woman in my family has experienced the same thing.

Your time will come, focus on that! x

 

[Esperanza84]

Hope you get your bfp soon!

xx