Gaaaah! New shoes

[Mel32]

My 19 month old wont wear any new shoes!

It started ages back with his refusal to wear wellies, to this day he's only worn them once so im forever washing shoes that he's jumped in puddles with. Then he refused a pair of boots so we thought it was anything over his ankle that he didnt like. A couple of days ago i got him the only pair in his size in a local shop despite his protests hoping i could persuade him at home and he went mental, i tried taking him straight outside and in his defense he didnt seem able to walk properly so they are going back.

Today we tried clarks who could only offer 2 pairs in his size!! And the performance he put on (even for trainers with monkeys on) was unreal (on the floor, tears streaming etc) So now it seems like it's not boots he is just refusing anything that he hasn't been wearing for ages. I can't take him anywhere and let him choose himself because of the terrible availability in his size.

I'd love to understand what its all about. He doesnt seem obsessed or attached to his old pairs.. Just refusing the new. I dont known whether to be more forceful ' you can't go outside unless you have these shoes on' or gently pander to him until he comes round as he has woth others previously.

I think this is more of a rant because a) he's wearing canvas summer shoes with a partially open top and loves puddles etc b) they are so scruffy it looks like I'm not taking care of him! C) the choice of affordable shoes in half sizes seems terrivle!! Anyone else going through this?

 

[Belfa]

Funnily enough my DS has started to be like this! He is 2 and actually it was a refusal to wear clarks shoes that started it. I think they are too stiff for him and are hurting when he's trying to break them in. The last time he had them on he managed to keep them on at nursery as they light up so his friends were in awe. By the ned of the day he had rub marks so I've not put them on again.

Have you tried Schuh? We got DS some New Balance shoes a while ago and he got on well with them. They were bright red so we bought him a blue pair when he outgrew them - major tantrum commenced!! He lay on the shop floor screaming that he wanted the red ones but after 10mins realised I wasn't taking them off.

We have a few different brands, we like Geox's too but I'm not sure if DS likes the leather sole. New balance's are definately the favourite!

 

[Mel32]

So he's not the only one!!

Just had a horrendous shopping trip, tried 4 shops he full on tantrummed and screamed repeatedly. Tears streaming absolutely distraught. He let me put one on now and then when bribed with a snack but he always then lost it shortly after i got the first shoe on. He liked some fire engine wellies so i thought this could be a start... But not on his feet. Removing the snack and choosing himself also didnt work!!

I bought him a pair of boots half a size small because im convinced they fit and they are soooo soft. I'm going to leave them out at home and hopefully theyll become familiar enough for him to give in.

To make matters worse im nearly 30wks pregnant and got the bus in the wrong direction on the way home and nearly cried as the next bus leaves me with a mammoth hill ive already climbed today ����.

I might try schuh thanks for the suggestion. Im sure this shopping endeavour isn't over!!

 

[Browneyed Girl]

My 2 year old hates shoe shopping as well, it's an absolute nightmare getting his feet measured and then trying new shoes on but I just persevere through the crying until it's done. Really hoping he grows out of this asap! x

 

[Mel32]

Do you just pick yourself in the end?

Since I figured it might not be boots... just NEW shoes in general I actually opted to buy some boots because the fact is we are going into winter and i dont fancy repeating this process too often.

Knowing what i do now... i might shoe shop in advance and leave them lying round the house a while for him to get used to before he needs to wear them.

I felt so bad today he was so unhappy and i couldn't figure out if I was being strict or if he was getting away with murder because i was so stressed.

 

[Browneyed Girl]

Yes I pick the shoes because he wouldn't want any of them. I've tried the method of leaving them in the house so he could get familiar with them in his own time and it didn't work - tried this with new wellies and he outgrew them before he could wear them! I'm afraid I'm a bit mean and just make him wear them now and he seems to get over it quicker.

 

[candymycandy]

We had a phase like this (hoping just a phase for you!). Now he’s nearly 3 and doing the same with coats!!

 

[Mel32]

Well I hid his scruffy shoes and left out a new pair & some wellies he's only worn once and asked him to get his shoes so he could go outside. He eventually picked his wellies and sat down but started to get upset as I put them on and weirdly upset when I took one off again so in the end I put them both on and quickly took him outside, he was OK wearing them but can't walk in them properly. So later that day I took the plunge..

I put on his new boots and basically let him cry it out, I gave him kisses and cuddles and reassured him but didn't take them off. Its simply too cold this week to be wearing canvas sandals so I took the tough approach! Anyway he's been pretty much OK wearing them ever since.

Slightly tempted to go and buy them in a few different sizes to avoid this experience again any time soon!