Freaking out! How does it work with 2???

[flisstebbs]

This thread has probably been done a million times but suddenly I'm freaking out about how I will cope with 2 kids!!
Is this just because as a massively preggers whale I'm really srruggling to look after a toddler? I've been told by friends its actually easier when baby is here!

Reassurance and pearls of wisdom please ladies

 

[MrsS143]

You wont be huge and immobile then
Reaching the floor will be easy again and you can roll over in bed no bother!!

 

[Ella1979]

^ this. Also you will just figure it out. I think the only thing I found really tough (emotionally) was when both of them need you at the same time, choosing who to sort out first. We've been through tough times and slightly easier times and are now entering a phase where they both have tantrums (sometimes simultaneously - hideous) but they are starting to play nicely together and I can get on with housework etc. You'll be fine! xx

 

[CARNAT22]

Physically it's easier after you have baby... as for the rest I'm saying nothing!!! Other than you'll cope and the toddler and baby will be dandy.

X

 

[kumber]

I've just had ds2 and am DREADING when hubby goes back to uni. Genuinely don't know how I'm going to balance the two of them but ds2 won't be as little then so it will be easier than it is now, at least that's what I keep telling myself! It's definitely easier physically now, I couldn't pick up ds when pg and now I can.

 

[hayes]

Starting to panic a bit myself as I'm due to b induced with number 2next week n Harry's still so little at 19month's but I know we will cope we will just have to!!! Everyone says that u find ur own way that suits u n the kids n that sometimes baby or toddler just have to wait.

At least I will b able to do more with Harry again bless him n picking him up n doing bath n bed won't make me nearly cry with pain.

Michelle.x

 

[Mrbump83]

I have two under two. A 18 month old and a 6 month old.

Enjoy the first months when the newborn sleeps in the day lol
It's really tough when they both you need you, I've had a few tears in the past but then moments of utter delight and calm!
I plan my day to the last point if I can. Meals, naps and outings. Have clothes ready, nappies ready etc Keeps me sane and less like I'm being engulfed by kids lol
X x

 

[Nutsyputs]

When I went for my 6 week check with g.p she asked how I was getting on with 2 and I said ok and she gave me this piece of advise which I quite liked, "if they are both crying go to the older one as they will remember you leaving them to cry"

 

[Laurajcole]

I'll be looking for advice on this!

My daughter is over 3 though. She understands baby is coming and will hopefully be quite helpful.xx

 

[heatheror12]

There is 16months between my 2. My eldest is now 18months. It is alot easier once baby is born. Don't get me wrong it's hard work. But you just adjust and find different ways of doing things. But as others said you do have to leave one crying while you deal with the other lol. And if I'm planning on going out in have everything sorted the night before. I have found it alot easier then I expected. And touch wood it will get easier ��

 

[Baby2sky]

When I went for my 6 week check with g.p she asked how I was getting on with 2 and I said ok and she gave me this piece of advise which I quite liked, "if they are both crying go to the older one as they will remember you leaving them to cry"

Oh i really disagree with your hv there! Babies need to develop their sense of security and attachment by not being left to cry, whilst a toddler should hopefully have already developed a healthy sense of self esteem through babyhood by having 100% of your attention so should be able to deal with the frustrations of not having mum and dad there all the time.

 

[flisstebbs]

Thank you so much for replies

 

[Goat]

Yes, whether or not you agree with any form of controlled crying be prepared for lots of 'uncontrolled crying'. But it's also so lovely! I recently made a short film of a compilation of videos and pics of my girls that I've taken over the past 9 months and there are some gorgeous moments that outweigh the chaos!