For those who have had their last child ......

Lindsay

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Did knowing that you were having no more upset you?

I am due to have my second child in a couple of weeks and DH has said that he doesn't want to have anymore.

I keep thinking that I am going to miss my bump, miss being pregnant, miss never having the excitement of going to a scan, miss having the maernity time off work again etc etc etc and it makes me feel sad, is it a hormone thing and does it get better?

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it did bother me hun but deep down i knew i didnt want anymore either so my husband had the vesectomy and then the decision was made for definate
 
I worry about that now. And iv just had my 1st, but OH only wants two. And im scared that I will want more after the next one, miss being pregnant, miss the bump etc. And he wont let me :(

We'll see, at the moment I know I get to look forward to haveing another one, but after that one I think I will want another. But we'll see, mabey I wont...!
 
I'm in a similar position, my OH has always said that he only wants 2 children. I'm not sure and would definitely consider a 3rd after this baby. I've asked him not to rule it out and to give it a year after the birth of this little one before we make any decisions but it does feel sad when I think that this might be my last experience of pregnancy.

I just have to hope that my OH will change his mind!
 
I'm in the same position. My husband doesn't want any more, but I would love to have another 2 :(

We had unprotected sex a few months ago and I desperately wanted to just see what (if anything) would result from it, but he freaked out so badly that I ended up getting the morning after pill. It was awful I was so upset when I took it :(

I'm sorry to say that it hasn't gotten any easier for me yet. Maybe in a few years time the broodiness might go away, but at the moment I still really want more kids.
 
We have one daughter and OH has always stated that he only wants one child. I have always wanted more, however, over the past month or two I have come to the realisation that I don't want any more either. The past few months have been the hardest of my life and I couldn't do it all again, especially with a toddler in tow. (I am quite lonely and have PND)

I love April with every ounce of my being. All my emotional eggs are in her basket, as it were, I just can not see how I could love another child with the same ferocity. (I know many many people do - but I can't imagine it for myself.)

I am sad in one sense as giving birth was the most amazing experience of my life and I will not have that experience again. But in another way it makes me realise just how fleeting April's baby phase will be and I want to be there for every minute of it and enjoy her. I have taken a career break for 4/5 years to make the most of my one and only child (we're not rich, we've just saved for a long time before we had her and live well within our means.)

It is sad to think you will not be pregnant or have a tiny newborn to hold again - it is ok to mourn that. But it also gives you an excuse to really savour and enjoy your little one now. :hug: :hug:
 
that is why i could never ever say i was done having children!!!

i think i will only be 100% definitly done when my kids start having their own kids lol!!!!

at the moment though, we are done. def no more until at least the three are at school. ill only be 30 when they all are at school, so i could have another 10 years plus having kids if i wanted !!! :rotfl:
 
I was fine while I was pregnant about Kieran being my last baby but now I've had him im quite upset that I won't be having anymore :( I already want another now, I miss being pregnant already which I didn't think I would :(
 
After I had my DD I said no more! OH agreed but as time went on I just felt that I wasnt complete kwim?
I knew that at some point I would want another! Oh didnt to start with as he thought he was too old for more children! But then realised he isnt and here we are now! I dont think I will be too sad after this LO! She is my 4th though!
 
After we had our 1st child we both agreed we didn't want anymore. It never felt quite right though. I felt like I needed to experience it again. So 5 and a half years we decided to have another baby. In fact we had another 2 close together and now I can definatly say I don't want anymore kids. I very happy when I say I will never be pregnant again! My youngest is 18 months now and there is no sign of ever being broody again.
 
I know exactly how you feel hun, I have been having the same thoughts! :hug: When we had our first child we both said we didnt want anymore - with my OH this was a definite decision and he really didnt want anymore, for me it was more about being knackered looking after the baby and going through the birth etc but I think deep down I always knew I wanted 2 kids. :shhh:

This was the cause of many arguments before we TTC this baby, OH was adamant he wanted no more and that our son was enough. I on the other hand began to pine for another child and it became an obsession with me. I missed being pregnant, missed the whole baby stage and also wanted my son to have a playmate. Plus there was a nagging longing for a daughter with me :hug:

After months of debating - or arguing! - we finally agreed to have one more, and so this will be our last baby. As it stands I am totally comfortable with this decision, and will have the family I always wanted. Im sure when its over I will miss being pregnant and everything that goes with it, but Im sure I dont want anymore and this will be the last. It does make me a bit sad that I will never feel like this again, never feel another baby moving inside me, never have the excitement of seeing the scans and nurturing another baby, but I am so lucky and grateful to have my little family, I feel blessed to have what I always wanted x :hug:
 
I have had my last baby :cry: unless we win the lottery or something similar DH says no more. He doesn't want to have another baby and then not be able to afford to live and not be able to buy them toys etc without worrying about money.
I totally understand and love the fact that he loves us all so much he doesn't want to put us in a difficult situation money wise etc but I am devastated.
In fact so much so that I have been deluding myself that I will change his mind but I won't :(
Am in tears writing this, tbh it's the first time I've admitted to myself that I've had my last baby... I want to go back in time and savour every last second, I want to smell that just been born smell again, see their faces for the first time again, see the look of pride on DH's face when I push our baby into the world :cry: :cry: :cry:

Stupid isn't it that I have 2 happy healthy children and a fabulous husband to boot but I'm not content with that :? Need a good slap I think!
 
Oh doesn't want any more than 2 before hes 30 - hes 27 now and I don't want 2 that close together so we probably won't be having any more. It makes me sad occasionally, but I didn't expect to be able to get pregnant this time round anyway so I made the most of it - 4d scan etc, and spoilt ryan as I know I probably won't be doing it again I want to do it the best I can for him this time round. I miss the breastfeeding though, is that weird? When I hear people talk about breastfeeding or I see my pump I've still not sold I do feel a bit sad about it that I won't be doing it again.

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