First time mum and lonely

[Jodie89]

Hi all,

I’m not only new to this site but also to pregnancy!

Today I am exactly 11 weeks. We had an early scan last week due to me feeling what I think is the baby and them thinking I may be further along...but I wasn’t.

I have some lovely friends who have all moved away onto ventures new. A close friend is pregnant but she has a large group of older friends who are all in the same boat and I don’t see her often and I’m finding the process a little lonely.

I don’t usually feel lonely so I’m unsure If this is hormones or a true feeling but it’s quite horrible!

My partner is amazing and he is a massive support but I feel like I’m missing something.

Anyone else felt this?

 

[Merry]

Hi, congrats on your pregnancy! I think it's not just hormones but also just the huge changes that you are suddenly aware of on the horizon! For me, once I got to the second tri and started telling family, friends and co-workers, it all felt much more real and I felt much happier and more confident in myself. You might find something similar

 

[Selina13]

Hi honey, I'm in 3rd trimester now but saw your post and wanted to pop by and say hi! How you feel is totally normal and I can relate as in my first pregnancy I wasn't working so I felt super lonely.
I used this forum alot and found the ladies to be great. Are you working at the moment? Could you maybe join a pregnancy class of some kind to meet some other local pregnant friends? Xx

 

[Jodie89]

Hi Merry. We told close family and very close friends when we had the all clear at the scan. I’m also very bloated and look pregnant so it was getting difficult to hide! I’m also suffering quite bad morning sickness whixh isn’t helping my mood. I am so excited about being a mummy, I just kinda wish I had more people around me to talk to about it.

Selina13 - I am working from home due to the morning sickness so that is also contributing. My partner is taking me out, doing whatever I want and it’s great just isn’t the same. Iv looked into them but they’re after the baby is born. I’m doing swimming and baby massage as early as possible - I just have over 7 months to go!

Thanks for the replies ladies x

 

[Sparrow]

Hi Jodie, I’m also 11 weeks today! I know how you feel, a lot of my friends have had children already or aren’t even thinking about it yet, it sort of feels like there’s no one I know at the same stage of life as me and I so desperately want to talk about what I’m going through with someone who understands and cares. My OH listens but I get the impression sometimes that he’s only half interested in what I’m saying because I don’t think it’s really sunk in for him yet. We must have the same due date of 1 May 2018, come and join the May 2018 Mummies thread if you like, we’re all in the same boat and there for support xx

 

[Jodie89]

Hi Sparrow,

I can’t seem to find that thread but il keep looking.

I think my partner knows he has it good and the easy part to play in this and sometimes can’t understand how I feel or tells me not to worry, which can infuriate me. I’m a little concerned il be so bored on maternity and may feel negatively about my baby.

Family are excited so are friends but no one seems to be where I am. We’re not married. 23 don’t live together etc so it’s quite stressful and sometimes I kinda just want a good old rant!

Jodie x

 

[Aimee84]

I didn't know anyone round my area when I was pregnant with my first. We did an nct course, pricey but I made some of the best friends ever who can help u thru the tough times. We have all helped each other out with looking after each other's children too. Found it invaluable from the friendship side x

 

[mrs_cookie]

Hi Jodie,congratulations! There's a lot going on when you're pregnant but its also scary and definitely can make you feel lonely if no one else around you understands. When I had DD I joined this forum and met some amazing mummies on here,we made a Facebook group and when the babies were born and up in the night there was always someone who was going through the same stuff available to chat to. We actually moved 200 miles away from our hometown when dd was very little so I knew no one and found our little Facebook group to be a godsend! We still chat now and do secret Santa even tho the babes are nearly 2. Once the baby is here and you get to baby groups you'll meet others in the same boat but its lovely having people to chat to going through the same stuff here so hopefully you'll find the may mummies group and be able to join in that xx

 

[Cinnamon2]

I'm in the same boat, most of my friends have had kids years ago..

I kept getting asked to hurry up. ��

Now I'm going through this alone, especially as I'm still very early and want to be further on when I tell friends.. I'm happy I found this forum ❤