Finding the Fathers name?

[sarzi]

I'm pregnant from a one night stand.

I'm happy I'm pregnant and all, although it wasn't planned.


I wont ask him for child support etc (I dont need to), and if he chooses to be, or not to be, in the babys life thats his choice (Id prefer it if he was, but I wont force him). But I do want his name on the birth certificate for the baby, and I would like to know a little about his family medical history for the babys sake.

I only know his first name and where he lives - I dont really want to land on his door step and ask him. I can text him (and will), but I will never know if he is lying about his name etc or not.

Is there a way I can get a court order / authorities to make him supply his name etc? (since I know where he lives, and his first name, and can probably figure out where he works too)

I'm in Scotland.

Thank you

 

[baby1201]

You can't put his name on the birth certificate without him present at the appointment to register the baby anyway so I would suggest that you speak to him and try and sort things out. Maybe do knock on his door or txt him asking for a good time for a chat.x

 

[Rose83]

Poster above is correct - any couple not married the father has to be there. Me and my partner who have been together 10 years and aren't married and about to have third baby both still have to go for his name to be on the certificate x

 

[firstfreakout]

Above is absolutely correct. I also don't think it's fair for you to name someone as a father but they wouldn't have the rights of one - whether through their choice or yours.

Your best option is to discuss with him what he wants and give him the choice of whether or not to be involved, and whether or not he wants to answer questions about his and his family's health history. A court will not force anyone to provide that in this circumstance. A court will also not force him to give you his name for the birth certificate.

Sorry you're in this tricky situation and I hope it all works out for you and the baby.

 

[Belfa]

Does he live alone? If he does or he just has a flat mate then I would go to his door so you can have a proper chat and let him process it all.

There's lots of little nuances like if he's on the birth certificate you have to get his written permission to take the child on holiday etc I believe so making sure you remain amicable and on the same page throughout this whole process is really important x